Is this really enough food? Fed up of DH’s tightness

[ChristmasfoodQ]

To give some background, I live with DH and our DD. We have two sons who are at Uni and will be returning to ours ahead of the weekend for Christmas.

For the first night they are back, we thought it would be good to have party food so DH went out to get this earlier. We are both busy the next two days so this was the only opportunity - we also live very rurally so can’t just pop down the round for a shop.

He has come back with the following:

-2 lots of ‘3 for 2’ party food so 6 in total - things like breaded prawns and spring rolls. Not massive portions at all
-Two share bags of crisps
-Olives and a small pack of antipasto (salami etc)

Now, both DS’ are 6 foot plus rugby playing young men. They eat us out of house and home at the best of times. DD is really slender but has a healthy appetite too.

I don’t know what DH was thinking - I’d clearly said to buy double that amount of party food. Having discussed with him, it comes down to money which is ridiculous. He earns six figures which is complimented by my own salary and we have ample disposable income.

He maintains its sufficient food for the 5 of us. AIBU to disagree?

He's clueless.

I made this last night. I am trying to make do with what we have in before our big Christmas shop is delivered. Was really simple to do and would go perfectly with those spring rolls and prawns. I doubled up on the onions and peppers. DD said she enjoyed it more than her favourite sweet and sour Hong Kong style takeaway.

I’m doing something similar with my daughter and 2 grandsons, 9 and 12 but we also have a couple of pizzas, crackers, pate, cheese, melty Camembert, garlic bread, coleslaw, dip and a pecan and toffee roulade ( you can keep your olives 😁) We will be grazing on this while watching movies and playing games. Probably have brunch that day and put it out about 4.00. I’d rather have too much and the boys can really eat.

It sounds as though he is trying to get out of shopping again. I probably would have gone if he has form for being tight with money and clueless with amounts

Get rugby player sons to get stuff on way through & transfer them the money. Tell husband off for being a dipshit*, tight arse who couldnt organise a piss up in a brewery and get sons to contribute something instead of eating everything you have no matter how broke they are. They arent kids they are young adults. Even if that contribution is going to the flipping shops on their way through a train station & going to m& s.

I agree it’s enough food and I’m not an under eater! I eat loads.

I think people are missing the fact he bought 6 packs of party food. I had to read it a couple of times, I read it as ‘2 packs’ the first time.

Well even if you think it's vile you could always get one of your sons to pop into the shithole that is Greg's and bulk it out with some stake bakes or something?

@ChristmasfoodQ Having discussed with him, it comes down to money which is ridiculous. He earns six figures which is complimented by my own salary and we have ample disposable income.

According to mumsnet, that's only average. Need to be careful.

We have spare freezer in the garage. When the lads came home from university it was well stocked with Iceland food. They ate at odd hours.

@ChristmasfoodQ you'll have to go shopping yourself. Stock up. Or as I've done let the boys do a shop and reimburse them. Mine loved Lidl.

I forgot to post the recipe it’s this.

https://www.kitchensanctuary.com/sticky-pineapple-chicken/

OP I would never trust my DH to shop, he would have come home with half that amount of food!
He is also mean and hates spending money on anything unrelated to his hobbies.

There is no answer other than you have to find time to do some additional shopping yourself or cook some extra food.

Your DH obviously has form for this.

I couldn't bear it and no matter what would be back to the shops to stock up on some decent food. Tesco are open all night and there must be a shop locally you could buy some additional food from.

Good luck with getting it sorted.

Maybe your DH is thinking of adding olive bread, sourdough or rye bread, cheeses, nice crackers, hummus, wnipped feta, some lovely small tomatoes etc.

@GrassMarketeer

This. I have no doubt whatsoever that this was exactly what the DH was thinking 🤔

You need more food, especially to welcome students home! Garlic bread, pizza, cocktail sausages, a cheese board, crudités and dips - there are plenty of options, you just need someone to go and get it.

Seems like a lot of solutions?

Presumably living rurally and only cooking from scratch there’s stuff available to cook. Your husband just makes a lasagne or something.

Or in the two days of busyness someone makes time to buy enough food to feed their family.

or the kids buy food on their way home.

Maybe your DH is thinking of adding olive bread …

Sorry but that’s one of the funniest things I’ve ever read on on MN, and the bar is pretty high when food is involved

Was it meant to be the evening meal for five adults? No good. If your dc are coming from a place with grocery stores can you send them a list and money? Between the 3 of them they ought to be able to grab dinner stuff to bring home, even if they just pick up frozen meat pies or burgers.

I think it’s a bit sad that so many posters aren’t appreciating the finesse with which the OP is taking the piss. Ah well. Twas ever thus.

No, you need much more food. That’s nibbles only. Your OH sounds mean.
A large pot of chilli, cheesy garlic bread, doritos and some dips and a tomato/ onion salad.
A warming one pot / one plate meal.
And it can be easily reheated over the next days when peckish. Never any wasted in our home .

Sounds ok but I would ask the boys to pick up some nice bread and a pudding on their way home

Weird, sad people.

Cook up a big chilli or stew that if leftover can freeze with some crusty bread and use the party food packs as extra sides. Through the evening it will all go.

Ask DH to make up a boiler of soup with tasty herbs, spices, and warming potato and root vegetables, ham bones, barley, split peas, onion, garlic etc.

The party food with crusty bead and soup could be delicious.
Ask the big lads and their sister to bring something sweet - like chocolates - to share..

Order takeaway curry. That’s just appetisers.

It sounds like you're just trying to make sure everyone is comfortable and happy

We live in a market town in a rural area but it's not remote (11 miles from a city, 8 miles and 7 miles from sizeable towns) and Dominos won't deliver here - or any other delivery companies except one independent takeaway based in my own town.