No contact with entire family ~ am I that unusual?

[BangingBaubles]

I have been disowned by my entire family which obviously hits hard at this time of year. DC also feel it with friends talking about Christmas with grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins etc.

DC said earlier tonight that he’s been invited to a family Christmas party at his friends grandparents house and was a bit sad about not having contact with his which is what prompted me thinking about it tonight.

I don’t know anyone in the same boat as us and nor do DC so it definitely does feel like we’re the weird ones!

AIBU to think we are in quite an extreme situation?

OMG have you read the thread? What is wrong with you?

I'm NC with my parents due to childhood abuse (that carried on into adulthood).
I'm also extremely LC with Dsis and DU, all stemming from the original family situation. And although we do occasionally message, we never meet up.
There is no one else on my side, unless you count various unknown relatives in other countries that I've never had the opportunity to have any relationship with.

We will spend a day with some of my DH's family at some point over Christmas, although not the big day itself.

So ultimately it's just the two of us and DC for Christmas day. I have mixed feelings about it, and DH often feels sad because his parents are both dead now, but we make it as nice and 'Christmassy' as we possibly can.

I am quite a positive person generally, and try to look on the bright side of the decisions I've made to protect myself and DC. It's better to have no family than be surrounded by toxic people who make your life hellish.

I am the same OP. I have no contact with any of my relatives. It is entirely my choice and my life is better for it.

The reasons are complex (toxicity, abuse, neglect and too many lies and manipulation).

I hope everyone on this thread had a good and peaceful Christmas.