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My daughter 19 has recently told me she’s been dating an older guy that’s 45 and unmarried. They have been getting along well and recently she’s hinted at getting engaged sometime next year. We’ve not met the partner and she doesn’t fully share details. Am I right to be hesitant and if so how can I get her to talk to me

He’s weird and you should absolutely be hesitant

It’s hard to get her to talk about it. I’ve even suggested inviting him over for lunch but she says he’s too busy with work

You can’t be too forceful as you don’t want to push her further towards him. Could you ask to meet him for a quick coffee that fits in with his schedule?

I have done that, he said he will let me know but doesn’t seem to be free on weekends often

26 years older is rather mad.

its hard to say in this day and age honestly

So he's too busy on weekends and far too busy with work during the week. What does your teenage daughter gain from this relationship ?

Yeah I'm not buying this. She's a teenager. If that was my daughter he could get to fuck.
Paedophilic wanker.

Well she visits him during the week as he works from home few days and stays over also. Just not sure what his issue with meeting is

Prob because he's closer to your age than your daughter is. It will make him feel awkward. Or, he is using her and doesn't want to be "seen".

Using her how? She always is happy and cheerful when talking about and has never mentioned anything negative