MIL & SIL not including me on ‘cousins day out’

[LeftoutDIL]

This probably sounds really petty but I’m just sick of MIL & SIL going out their way to not include me.

Mil has just messaged me saying her and SIL are arranging a cousins day out with SILs daughter and my daughter (who is 1) so they can ‘bond’ and basically made it clear that im not invited. AIBU to think it’s rude not to include me as well?!

I’m obviously not expecting to muscle in on their mother and daughter bond but in the context of DD and DN I thought they might have tried to include me. Every time there are family events, MIL & SIL just totally monopolize the little ones, taking endless photos of themselves with them and never including me, or even letting me hold DN!

When DD was 2 weeks old, I went to SIL’a baby shower and MIL & SIL along with the rest of their female relatives spent the whole time taking group photos of themselves with DD and never once asked me as her mother to be in them so I suppose the writing was on the wall that I was merely a vessel in their view.

No way would they be taking my child anywhere, ever.
Ignore them.

I never understand these posts, just say no?

Wouldn’t bother me. If I was comfortable letting them look after my child I’d let her go. I’d not do anything for them though. No presents no messages no updates. They’d have to do all the leg work until the end of time

I completely understand on principle why this is disrespectful to you. However if this was me I'd choose a day where I could take advantage and make plans with a friend or something. If they are dictating the date of it "sorry that doesn't work for me, can you have her 23rd December instead so I can get some Christmas shopping done? Thanks"

As a side note my child has a really lovely relationship with his cousins and I'm so grateful for that as he ended up being my one and only.

I’d just say no. No one could bully me into taking me child at age one out for a day without me. Maybe when they were older if they wanted to go but there’s no need for ‘bonding’ just now. Just say no.

Sorry, we have plans. Hope you have a good time.