To feel oddly hurt about this?

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Work Christmas do last week, very small team (3 including my boss), we met for a lovely meal. I am a good baker and made people homemade truffles in beautiful boxes together with other little bits. My one colleague had a big present for my boss but only a card for me and was very embarrassed when he only had a card for me so he gave me money on the spot and said to "buy the children something with it". Aibu to feel weirdly hurt by this and really awkward?

I'm not at all about my gift to be honest, I liked making the truffles (though it was added stress and I definitely won't do it again). It's about my colleague having two big presents for my boss and nothing at all for me (his one colleague). I just thought it was very thoughtless and I felt stupid having made an effort but I realise I need to get over myself

Yep, lesson learned! They were actually quite expensive to make (butter and chocolate etc)

Were the two presents actually for your boss, or did he/she just grab both and your colleague was too embarrassed to say anything? 😆
Maybe one was for you.

He did indeed! I was standing next to them watching the present exchange, we all said our goodbyes and then he was chasing me with the ten pound note 🤣it's completely bizarre

It is a bit weird - if you're only giving one of the people a gift, you'd probably try to do it while the other wasn't there - to avoid causing feelings like this.

Don’t over think it. If you are meeting as a three it’s either the boss gets the employees gifts or you all gift each other. What he did was odd and he felt awkward so he tried to rectify it. You did nothing wrong and your gift was lovely

Why are you
upset? We dont give to receive .

Ridiculous all round! We don’t give to receive

Next year I would just take in a tin of chocolates early December and say I’m not doing presents this year so here are some chocolates for us all.

I'm cringing for the colleague trying to hand you cash because he hadn't gotten you a gift. What adult tries to give another one cash as a gift? Crass. Just pity him and forget it.

He should be able to get his boss a gift without including you but what a total arse do it in front of you!

I get my boss and boss’ boss gifts, I don’t get them for my colleagues.

Honestly I don't understand why people get stressed about things like this. I couldn't care less if a colleague gave a boss 10 presents and me nothing, it really doesn't matter. They aren't your family or your best friends.

No, boss pulled away after receiving one present, then colleague said "oh no, this is for you as well" whilst I stood there watching the gift exchange like a total idiot 🤣

Absolutely next year will be a card for both and that's it!

This isn't what it's about, it's the fact that you don't get a present for one person and not the other when there's only 3 of you!

What about the other colleagues? Had he got them all gifts too? If he got something for the boss but not for everyone else I don't understand the drama. If he got something for everyone just not you then that's quite rude and awkward

Edit for some reason I thought there were 5 of you, ignore me

what happened last year, is it normal for you both to exchange gifts? It feels like he didn’t know this was expected?

I think the tenner thing is the most cringe part to be honest, I couldn’t have taken a tenner off him, it’s not about saying take it back I don’t want it, it was the taking it in the first place.

Yes but he's literally placed it in my hand and walked off, it really wasnt a choice, I didn't want his money

But you must have seen him taking it out, he won’t have been walking around with a random tenner in his hand, so you’d know what was coming, and for him to place it in your hand it had to be out.

Thank you everyone for posting and the help. I'm going to let it go and definitely just get a card next year and stop overthinking it, and generally probably steer away from homemade/ high work presents.

Just to reiterate - I didn't give a gift to get one back, I just found it odd to get two presents for the boss and nothing at all for your one colleague (been colleagues for 10 years).
But yes I've probably blown it out of proportion. Happy Sunday everyone and Merry Christmas!

So has he given you a gift last year and every other year?

I'd have given it him back and no don't worry you didn't need to get me anything! I give gifts because I enjoy it but don't expected anyhting back in return.

Because that's the truth right?
Unless you do expect gifts back then you are definitely unreasonable.

I've said numerous times now that it wasn't about getting a gift, it's about one person getting two and one nothing (out of a total colleague number of 2) and me finding this very thoughtless and quite rude.
Thank you though and have a happy Sunday. I won't be visiting this thread again but thank you all.

Obviously going against the grain here, but... money is better than the truffles you gave him.

So why have you mentioned several times how you made him this homemade high work gift?