Is your family is snobby when it comes to homemade dishes

[Calgator]

My in laws are very snobby when it comes to homemade food.

When I say snobby they wouldn’t judge a single mum relying on something pre made for example but when it comes to the stuff they eat they massively favour homemade stuff. I just find it amusing tbh! They all get VERY excited when someone brings over homemade bread and desserts. Wanting to know what recipe/method you chose. All birthday cakes are homemade. I swear a cake from Tesco would sit completely unopened in the fridge.

There is one vegetarian family member and my sister in law is going to make an entire veggie wellington just for him. I suggested just getting something from M&S and she completely baulked at the very idea. Tbf everyone is a good cook.

It definitely stems from MIL. Who grows her own food, makes chutneys etc. They would never dream of shoving in an Indian selection from Waitrose as starters like my family doesx

I just find it fascinating tbh.

Anyone else have family like this? Even croissants are homemade!

Where's this snobbery? They enjoy cooking, so what? I'm a socially-housed chav & I wouldn't touch a Tesco cake, they're overpriced garbage.

I’d only eat home made cake. I just don’t like the flavour of a shop bought with the expectation of maybe an M and S chocolate mini roll. If someone serves a shop bought pudding I’d rather have just the ice cream

You can see why people with such limited available time with their kids might choose to do something else with their time? If I could afford to work less I'd love to have that luxury and I would spend it in the kitchen. Hell today is my only day off this week and I'm baking for charity and about to prep lunches for the coming week, any time left will be spent sorting something for dinner for a couple of nights. I'd have rather spent this time exercising, going for a long walk would have done wonders for my mh.

Homemade food tastes much better. I make homemade for most meals. Can’t bake though, so cakes and biscuits are shop bought.

To be fair though, in a lot of cases, homemade is better......

Plus with things like birthday cakes, half the point of it for me is making whatever it is the kids wanted - I enjoy doing it.

I'm not saying that there aren't times I head into the supermarket and buy all the pre-prepared sides, but I do regret it when I eat them - I wouldn't do it if I had the time.

Yes, please stick to your microwave meals!! 🤣

How on earth is it 'snobby' to prefer homemade/grown food over what are usually bloody awful, over processed expensive crap?

Having seen the adverts for supermarket 'party foods' they generally look absolutely revolting.

The family aren't snobby but I am.

Everything we will be having this year will be home-made. It's part of the fun.

Another one who doesn’t get why this is “snobby”.

And as for your sil who has armchair-analysed them and things it’s due to insecurity… 😹

It seems you and sil married into a family who enjoys cooking / baking. And you find that makes YOU feel insecure.

You are over analysing. Why does everything have to be a problem. They like cooking their own food and its obviously their passion. I would enjoy it if I were you. It's got to be better for you.
You need to live and let live!

I don't think you're being unreasonable, and yet I am extremely snobby when it comes to home-made food. I wouldn't touch a cake mix cake. We never eat takeaways. I'd shrivel up with shame if one of my children had a shop-bought birthday cake.

Good for your MIL!

idk why you find it amusing as that’s how people ‘should’ eat. Have you seen what the ingredients are in supermarket cakes? They’re taste oversweet and artificial.

They’re good cooks and they’re making food from scratch. If they were forcing you to eat their gross offerings that would be different.

i advise you educate yourself re ultra-processed food although not all readymade food is upf it’s still often too high in salt and sugar.

I wouldn’t make my own croissants but if I were to eat them I’d be buying from a decent bakery or making sure there were minimal additives.

Thanks. Good to know.

Sickly and also dry, often tasteless.

You and your parents sound snobbier, getting your starters from M&S and Waiterose, rather than Tesco and Aldi lol

My 🎄pudding is MUCH nicer than any shop version!

Christ, you are rude.

Well, this hasn't gone the way you wanted @OP. Merry Christmas!

I’m a cook from scratcher myself. But what really annoys me is the people who go on about how poor people could easily make delicious meals for a pound a week from a bag of beans and a turnip if only they were prepared to cook without taking into account all the other factors that make it difficult or impossible. I’m looking at you, mostly Tory politicians.

How?

The only insecure sounding person on this thread is you @Calgator

Unless you are a terrible cook homemade always tastes better.

When DD was in primary school I used to run the cake stall at school fairs. Some parents brought in shop bought cakes, but most brought home made.

The only bought cake that did sell was Battenburg, but generally people made a beeline for the home made first.

They’re not “snobby.” You just have low standards.

Shop bought made food is full of goodness knows what. A cake from a supermarket will be made of a lot of ultra-processed ingredients. And heavily saturated with sugar and fat - far more than a proper home made cake.

Not all homemade things are more delicious, I have eaten a few cakes in my time that were less than yummy, especially with horrible butter cream icing. I have a friend who imagines everyone loves her homemade pasta dishes, they are not great, but it doesn't matter, I'm always happy if someone cooks for me.

Some homemade things are delicious, but not everything. I'm frequently a bit disappointed when eating out lately, by chefs who presumably do know how to cook, I went to one with a large taster menu recently and it was all a bit sickly and too much cream.

One friend of mine is an amazing cook though so anything homemade by her is at the top of my list.

I never bake anything to take to someone else's house, all my friends know I can't cook and wouldn't dream of shaming me or implying I don't have manners. We eat out if it's my turn!

My family were like this - they associate shop-bought food with cheap supermarkets, so they think it's classier to eat homemade.

But I'm the opposite - I avoid homemade! People use cheap ingredients like marg instead of butter, leave out sugar/salt or add their own gross "twist" on a classic. I'd much rather have a lovely tin of biscuits from M&S or Waitrose thank you :)

I agree it depends on the skills of the cook.

I know I am blowing my own trumpet, but my home made cakes are much nicer than shop bought cakes.

You need better friends @Cardiganlgirl39