Would it be really sad to buy myself an ‘engagement’ ring?

[Keepingitsimple101]

Been married for 15 years and at the time dh bought me a cheapish white gold diamond ring and we chose some again, cheap wedding bands.

This was fine as it was what we felt that we could afford at the time.

However as time has passed I don’t particularly like either anymore.

I keep seeing people wearing beautiful engagement rings but again, I don’t really want to spend family money on an expensive ring, even though we could, it just feels like too much of extravagance.

Would it be a bit sad to buy myself a cheap silver but sparkly ring to wear on my ring finger?

It’s a piece of jewellery! Buy yourself whatever you like (and can afford)!

I’m married and don’t have either an engagement or a wedding ring, though I do wear a heavy silver ring DH bought me years ago on holiday.

why don’t you ask your husband to buy it for you.

Ask your DH for an eternity ring and then it will mean more.

I can ask dh to buy me one and he would.

But at the end of the day we have been married for 15 years and have two children so all money is family money anyway. I wouldn’t trust dh to choose.

I want heavy sparkly ring to wear without paying lots.

If it’s family money then speak to him. He may be happy for you to choose anyway

I don’t see a problem with replacing the original one if it’s no longer to your taste, especially as it wasn’t expensive.

As PP have said, if you want a piece of jewellery and have the money, then go for it. Or it’s Christmas in a few weeks!! Pick one out and ask DH to buy it.

Many people upgrade their wedding rings as they quite often get thin with wear and fashions do change so I don't see any problem with upgrading your engagement ring. Maybe do it to celebrate your next wedding anniversary if you say you can afford it. My husband surprised me with a nice diamond ring for our 20th anniversary and I use my old one as an eternity ring as it is more that style. 20 years later I still love it so was worth the cost.

@Keepingitsimple101 you could take a punt here?

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Could you use the diamond in your current ring to design something else by adding more diamonds or some coloured stones?

Either way, if you can afford it, treat yourself to something you love.

The way I did it for my engagement ring is i spoke to him about the ring i wanted, and we agreed a budget and then I ordered it.

There are many options now for budget friendly, Created lab diamonds are more affordable and better quality than "real". Dont rule them out, they look amazing for a fraction of the price.

You can get quite a lot of bang for your buck with an eternity ring. But whatever you go for, I thoroughly recommend buying second hand as it’s much cheaper. There’s a group on Facebook called Gale’s Gems. She’s got everything!! I browse but don’t buy. Maybe one day though.

Look on in second hand shops-can get some lovely rings. When you say you want something heavy, do you mean the stone or the metal?

I like vintage jewellery. My engagement ring was antique diamonds. So have a look round. There are some amazing dupes now too.

Buy whatever you want - but check out auctions - second hand jewellery is cheap as chips compared to stuff straight from the shop, and you get to see a massive selection that way too.

Beautiful rings in objkts jewellery and not too expensive - I was thinking about this too!!!

I have a really beautiful engagement ring, and I love it but it’s platinum and I don’t wear much silver these days. I bought myself a 1.5 CT moissanite oval solitaire from Etsy, think it was about £200 and it is beautiful, absolutely nobody would know it wasn’t real. I still wear my original one sometimes, just depends what I’m wearing and how I’m feeling, it’s nice to have options. It’s also nice if I’m going on holiday as I’m not worried about my £££££ getting lost.
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At the end of the day it is just a piece of jewellery. Buy the one you would like!

I wouldn't replace one cheap ring with another. If you can afford something decent why not treat yourself? It's something you wear every day. I still get pleasure from looking at my engagement ring (got engaged in 2004).

Definitely treat yourself ❤️ There’s a website I see often called Objekts, they do beautiful engagement style rings mostly under £100 - and often have discounts too. X

I get what you're saying about it being family money so it doesn't really matter who buys it, plus you sound like you would prefer to choose. Why don't you speak to your DH and arrange a day out together when you go to a couple of shops (antique would give you more for your money) and have lunch or drinks and that way it's more of an experience.

No, it's not "sad".
It's okay to buy yourself what you fancy.
I'm long time married and wear all sorts of rings, or none.
My husband doesn't wear any.
Everyone to their own!

Go to auctions. Beautiful rings for a fraction of the cost. I bought a 1.5ct antique diamond and platinum solitaire ring for £3,200. Insurance valuation £17k (to replace with new) after divorce I sold it for £6k on fbmp 😂

Do it! I never had an engagement ring, and we just bought cheap titanium wedding rings. DH still has his original wedding ring, but he upgraded mine at after I lost it with a platinum band. I also got a platinum trilogy ring after our ds was born, and then a platinum half eternity ring (to match some studs he bought me). None of it was cheap, but I wear them all every day, so cost per wear, they're veritable bargains!

Absolutely not unreasonable or silly at all. Treat yourself ✨

TJC are a great, reputable company. They make very affordable moissanite rings. I have a couple and they are wonderfully sparkly.