Would it be really sad to buy myself an ‘engagement’ ring?

[Keepingitsimple101]

Been married for 15 years and at the time dh bought me a cheapish white gold diamond ring and we chose some again, cheap wedding bands.

This was fine as it was what we felt that we could afford at the time.

However as time has passed I don’t particularly like either anymore.

I keep seeing people wearing beautiful engagement rings but again, I don’t really want to spend family money on an expensive ring, even though we could, it just feels like too much of extravagance.

Would it be a bit sad to buy myself a cheap silver but sparkly ring to wear on my ring finger?

Buy yourself a lovely ring!
It wont be an engagement ring so dont call it that.

My proper wedding rings are too big for me now (must be the only person with shrinking fingers due to the aging process!)

I just buy myself nice Pandora rings, also means you don't have to worry about wearing them on holiday or taking them off in the shower etc.

Hopefully I'll get back to wearing my proper rings once arthritis kicks in!

Pay lots.
Sit down with Hubby, choose a new wedding ring and engagement ring and buy it. If you have to pay monthly do that.
You absolutely deserve it. Buy him a new one at the same time. Go on a date, and use it as a renewal.

Why don't you pick out several rings you like. Show your husband which they are, and ask him to pick one of the rings you like. He buys the ring, knowing you'll like it, and you'll get a surprise because you won't know which he's chosen! This is what my husband and I did, when I chose my engagement ring.

If you want inexpensive then try Luxe Emporium
they do inexpensive engagement type rings that don’t tarnish

Have a look at the gemstone Moissanite.
in my opinion, eternity rings look the best, the smaller stone sizes are almost indistinguishable from a diamond.

If you’d like a solitaire, I’d go with round brilliant/old European cut and 1ct and under.

i can recommend Aladdins Cave on etsy (he does have his own website too). This jeweller uses titanium (as well as precious metals), which looks very similar to platinum/palladium, and won’t tarnish.

something like this:
https://aladdinscavejewelleryuk.com/products/old-european-cut-genuine-white-moissanite-engagement-ring-1ct-1-5ct-and-2ct-options?_pos=1&_sid=128ebf598&_ss=r

or

aladdinscavejewelleryuk.com/products/1ct-old-european-diamond-simulant-solitaire-ring-in-titanium-or-white-gold-engagement-ring-wedding-ring-handmade-ring?_pos=4&_sid=128ebf598&_ss=r

I chose my own original engagement ring as I didn't want anything classic or traditional so tbf to husband he wouldn't have been able to choose. It wasn't very expensive but it was the one I absolutely wanted.
What if you put money aside from the joint account and then asked him to order it for you? Would that work?

I think you should tell your husband you want a pre Christmas day/afternoon out with him plus lunch etc and go and choose a shiny inexpensive ring together! That will be much better/more romantic than buying your own.

I came on to this thread thinking that it would be sad especially if your boyfriend didn’t propose to you. This happened to someone I worked with - she bought her own “engagement” ring and they split up shortly afterwards.

But you’re married and you now have more money. Go for it!

these posts make me sad becasue my husabnd would never think to buy me anyhitn like that. and honestly he is more stingy with money now than when we got married even. his frugality was a factor in me having a terribel breakdwon

Did you go for it and get yourself a ring OP? ☺️

Go for it. I bought myself a new wedding band last year as I have put on weight and the original one 19 years ago isn't fitting. So DH was fine with me buying one that does.

Tell him this