to tell this nosey mother to shove off?

[theBOD]

long sorry but need an opinion.
i was meant to be playing football with mates and my lectures finished about an hour early. now seeing as i lived about an hours drive from where we were playing it made no sense for me to go home so i decided i'd just drive to the park where we play and do some work(play solitare) on my laptop for the hour and listen to the radio.
so i parked on the road beside the pitches, which also happens to be opposite a playground. after about half an hour some woman came over to me and knocked on my window asking me "what do you think you're doing" and telling me to move as it was "not right" and i was making the parents "nervous".
apparently i should not be parked and on a laptop near children as a man on his own as this obviously in her mind made me some sort of sex predator.
so i told her that what i was doing was none of her business and told her to get away from my car. she then threatened to call the police (she didn't) and get her husband out (which she did).
anyway was i unreasonable to use some very choice words to her and her husband when they came over to me the second time claiming they didn't want trouble and just thought it was best if i left?

Bod had a blue dress. Didn't he?

[I bet it's.... strawwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwberry]

I am wrong as usual.

Two Bods. That's a snap.

i think you're all right in saying that we live in a society where someone being in the wrong automatically gives you the right to respond angrily rather than graciously... i just think it's depressing. bod has said that he knew what he was doing, he's explained that. i just think that what he was doing was nobbish under the circumstances.

and yes, johnso, as i've repeatedly said to you, i think if he'd acted to calm the situation down it would have been resolved perfectly amicably. i thought you had agreed to disagree, mind you.

Aitch glad you agree and thanks.. I found this a huge overreaction.

How can you over react to being thought a potential paedophile?

inverse paedo-hysteria, imo. i think it was you who said it was DM first, i totally agree.

'I think you're all right in saying that we live in a society where someone being in the wrong automatically gives you the right to respond angrily rather than graciously...'

I have to say I wouldn't respond graciously to unknown strangers asking me what I'm doing when I'm going about my daily business either, or implying that I was a paedophile. I don't think anyone would unless you happen to be particularly saintly.

You also need to think about where these types of accusation lead. I knew one man who committed suicide after just these sorts of allegations.

Gordon Bennett - another layer of paranoia! (sorry, hedgewitch - but what's goin to happen to her in broad daylight in the presence of witnesses talking to a man sitting down in a car?) In my opinion, the woman was stark, staring bonkers, and I find it hard to understand why anyone has any sympathy for her. The OP could have titled his thread rather more tactfully, I admit - but apart from that I just do't understand why he anyone thinks he is anything but the innocent party in this.

"theBOD, are you the actual real genuine Bod? Yellow frock and everything? "

i have no idea what your idea of "the real genune BOd" is. i am of course named after the greatest blackrock centre ever produced, Brian O'Driscoll

waltzing o'driscoll, waltzing o'driscoll, aaah the memories of Australia 2001...

just came on to add my support to theBOD and others who have said that nobody sitting quietly in their own car on a public road in a public (please note that includes men, not just mums and kids) place should need to justify themselves. Its a short step to social madness, my friends.

And on the paedo theme. There is a small play park tucked away behind a hedge across the end of the road where my parents live, they've recently moved. My dad (nearly 70) asked if i wanted to take a walk there with him and ds. i asked him what it was like, and he said he hadn't been yet on his own because he was worried about the reaction to an old man on his own going to a playpark. that nearly broke my heart. we cannot ostracise men from our children. I want my son to growup with love and trust in his heart. Obviously i will try to protect him from risky situations but it really saddens me to think children will grow up thinking every adult male in a park is a weirdo. And children do pick up on their parents attitudes and fears, without us realising it sometimes.

That's sad toomuch

Face it if THEBOD had said what he was actually doing there the woman would not of believed him anyway she had already made her mind up

"waltzing o'driscoll, waltzing o'driscoll, aaah the memories of Australia 2001..."

i know how good was that?
pity he hasn't played anything resembling rugby for 3 or so years

Can't quite get my head round these people telling theBOD that he 'stooped to her level' by using choice language. The woman was clearly a former bra-burning, spare rib reading lunatic. They used to duck people in rivers for less.

I'd have told her to piss off. It's not illegal to be in possession of a penis and near a child.

Yet.

I'd rather be in possession of a penis than not in possession of a rational mind as this woman clearly was not.Unless of course you had parked up in parent and child space in which case come to think of it I have no sympathy for you.

Re: reversing Twelvelegs argument, theBOD. I wouldn't bother if I were you, I think she reversed it herself up a one way street full of potholes and roadworks, got stuck and had to be rescued by the RAC. Tortuous logic.

yes bod, my best chum and i were there in Melbourne for the glorious defeat, memories of dancing with a six foot inflatable kangaroo who was wearing a "i'd rather be a lion than a roo" tshirt.

at least Brian had his time in the sun, being from the tartan north it seems a LONG time since Sir Gavin and Lord David Sole were around to give us something to cheer about...

I wouldn't have noticed a man sat in his car minding his own business, I am not in the habit of scanning carparks for lone males - aka perverts. I am watching what my child is doing and not much else.

aduckorsomething.... Spare Rib??? That went out of print about 20 years ago? You'll be going on about Time and Tide next... bra-burning and ducking stools? Just how old and sexist are you?

That's made me laugh that has.

My dad was a police man and his take is that she should have called the police, and they should have taken it seriously. He got the police called when he videoed ds starting school, and the only thing that irked him is that it took the police 2 weeks to follow it up. He was not annoyed at being called a paedophile at all.

I guess once you have arrested a few your opinion is different.