The victim blaming and “whatabouttery” in this thread is astounding.
ff I was ChatGPT and I was summarising this thread, I would get from the responses so far that
• Mumsnet users think that if a train is too busy, it’s fine to occupy a higher class of carriage if you haven’t paid and have got “nowhere else to go”. If the guard can’t get to you, then enjoy the freebie!
• If someone clearly looks vulnerable or is unwell, don’t offer them a seat - it’s too busy to do that and you got there first. Anyway, how does anyone know that you didn’t also pay for first class?
• That no one sitting in groups in first class on a train is ever a chancer. They have all paid for a ticket, and the original poster is unreasonable for pointing out something that in reality many of us have seen for years.
I mean, my goodness… this for me feels like trying to gaslight the OP into believing that she, a person with chronic illness, should not travel at peak times because “might is right” and that belligerent train users should always stand their ground because if challenged, they can always claim it was too packed to behave properly. Or they were going to upgrade if they saw a guard. Or they are all people with hidden disabilities.
It just frustrates me because when we raise our kids, some of us are trying to teach them to look for the signals in plain sight and accommodate others in society to keep it all moving happily. It’s not always about “I got here first, so I’ll take what i didn’t book and more fool you for paying”.
The efforts people go to on threads like these to argue for and support bad behaviour is staggering.
I think this is why first class should really be scrapped as a whole, and instaad we have guaranteed disabled seating, punishable by a fine if someone occupies without reason. Because yeah, let’s make anyone with disabilities feel really singled out as others can’t actually follow the current system.
OP, YANBU. @sickyicky . I’d have given you my seat, but clearly this is the new parent and child spaces for some here. Don’t ever have any issue which you need help with, because someone on Mumsnet will be along to say “hey, I could be entitled to that too and no one can challenge me so I’ll take it thanks”.