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To have said that women should be drafted equally to men??

350 replies

Pukkajones · 05/12/2025 11:33

Chatting to a group of friends about the state of the world etc and while in theory I’m against conscription and forced national military service I did say that I think it’s right that there is more equality in girls/women being treated the same as boys/men in the countries that have service.
One friend who has 3 teen girls really had a go at me and got very upset. I have a teen boy and teen girl. While I hate the idea of EITHER being forced to enter the military I think they should be treated equally ( roles allowing - ie some combat roles aren’t open to women) if it came to it. ‘it’ being an actual war with Russia and/or its allies.

it got VERY heated, even though I and another friend pointed out that there are many non-combat roles in the military. And that if we did end up in a World War we’d likely have a role in it regardless of sex or age.

YABU - only men should be drafted
YANBU - in the modern world both sexes should serve in the military.

OP posts:
Thrink · 06/12/2025 20:08

TaliaTalia · 06/12/2025 19:53

I agree with you. I did my national service and served a role that I think to outsiders would have been seen as quite a ‘male’ role. If we hadn’t moved abroad I would expect both my daughter and my son’s to do theirs too.
My thoughts on conscription are obviously coloured by my own experiences but I’m personally very grateful for the time I served and the life skills/lessons I got from it.

And in your country is it mandatory for men to take on 50% of the caring responsibilities for their children and elderly relatives? To make exactly the same career sacrifices etc? And women are paid exactly the same as men for the same role, yes?

FofB · 06/12/2025 20:17

Hmm. I suppose on a societal level, if you lose too many women in your country then your population is going to plummet.

FierceGrace85 · 06/12/2025 20:29

We wouldn’t need an army if we went to war with Russia- they would just chuck a few nukes at us and that would be it- game over!

QuantumPanic · 06/12/2025 20:29

It'll never be equal anyway. Women will never be drafted with the expectation that they fight on the front line, because doing so would be totally pointless - they wouldn't stand a chance against male enemy combatants. You'd be killing off vast swathes of your working age population, destroying morale and crippling your ability to repopulate. Some really silly comments itt.

FierceGrace85 · 06/12/2025 20:31

FofB · 06/12/2025 20:17

Hmm. I suppose on a societal level, if you lose too many women in your country then your population is going to plummet.

Yes but men are also needed for reproduction?

Pacificsunshine · 06/12/2025 20:34

I think there is a difference to be conscripted as front line infantry and being conscripted to help in the overall war effort, as in WW2.

Conscripting young women to send them to the frontline would be very self defeating for a country.

Pacificsunshine · 06/12/2025 20:41

FierceGrace85 · 06/12/2025 20:31

Yes but men are also needed for reproduction?

Yes, but his participation takes minutes, a woman’s is tied up gor a minimum of 9 months.

A society can recover if women are spared and a majority of men killed, but not the other way around.

CombatBarbie · 06/12/2025 21:01

40andlovelife · 05/12/2025 12:40

YABU. The sexes are different. There will be some women who have the physical strength to fight but they will be the anomaly. Men are bigger, stronger and more powerful. They are better placed to fight.

Can I just point out that the medic who goes out with sections, platoons etc very much in the thick of it on the front lines is carrying more weight wise in the medic pack and is highly likely to be female.

OverlyFragrant · 06/12/2025 21:30

Reading this thread has made it clear how little people know of roles within the military and also the history of wars, and the involvement of women.
Please, pick up a book. I recommend Women in Intelligence by Helen Fry as a Starter for 10.

TheNightingalesStarling · 06/12/2025 21:51

Women in the British forces were in France on D day. Wherever there's war, there's always ve Nurses/medical orderlies.

PollyBell · 06/12/2025 21:58

Women have always been involved in war, but with the drama poster's on here make of 'school mums' would be interesting to see what they make of drafted ones

Pukkajones · 06/12/2025 23:23

FierceGrace85 · 06/12/2025 20:29

We wouldn’t need an army if we went to war with Russia- they would just chuck a few nukes at us and that would be it- game over!

Right. Except they haven’t yet have they? Almost as if that’s a zero sum game.

OP posts:
Tarteaucitronmerinquee · 07/12/2025 00:12

BashfulClam · 05/12/2025 11:58

I think people forget during wars that even though women are not on the front lines they are often the only people keeping the wheels turning. Childcare, teaching, production, farming, medicine, mechanics, fire fighting, aircraft detection and gunning.

But men could easily do that too.

MrsSkylerWhite · 07/12/2025 00:40

IBorAlevels · 05/12/2025 12:37

You think women started any of this?
Who runs Russia?
It's not women.

Obviously. I’m thinking of my own family history.
The most recent episode where our men were enlisted was WW2. Then, physical strength was the most important requirement for conscripts.
if we entered into a war with Russia now it would be technologically played out. Women are equally capable of technological warfare.

If my country was being invaded, I would do what I could to defend it. Don’t suppose I’d stop to question which gender began it.

Jellybabies99 · 07/12/2025 00:42

CottonPyjamas · 05/12/2025 12:43

I think it would be down to population regrowth. If men are being killed in their millions, then they need women to bear the next generation. One man can impregnate many women but a woman can only carry one pregnancy full term in a year.

This is the only answer. Surprised OP and others are unaware, or going off on a tangent about equality or feminism....Women are the bearers of children, not in a derogatory demeaning way, just facts. Nothing equal about the 9 months a woman spends growing a child in her uterus, and never will be 🤣

If lots of women die, who will regrow the population. Simple!

OP yes, YABU.

Pukkajones · 07/12/2025 01:21

MrsSkylerWhite · 07/12/2025 00:40

Obviously. I’m thinking of my own family history.
The most recent episode where our men were enlisted was WW2. Then, physical strength was the most important requirement for conscripts.
if we entered into a war with Russia now it would be technologically played out. Women are equally capable of technological warfare.

If my country was being invaded, I would do what I could to defend it. Don’t suppose I’d stop to question which gender began it.

Sorry, but no, strength was NOT a requirement for the draft. Plenty of ‘weedy’ men got drafted. Being 18-30 and not having any obvious mental or physical ‘defects’ was all that was required… and as the war dragged on the age limit went up and the exceptions were less…

OP posts:
pineapplecrushed · 07/12/2025 01:42

???
Women don't fight in wars because if swathes of women died humanity would die out. Women are more reproductively valuable. Can't believe people don't know this.

pineapplecrushed · 07/12/2025 01:44

good grief. Women don't fight in wars because they are too valuable for reproduction. Don't you know this???

EBearhug · 07/12/2025 01:55

Yes, if you have conscription, then it should be equal, though preferably we should not have it at all.

When we have had conscription in the past, there were always reserved occupations - my paternal grandfather was a farmer, and Dad was born a few months before the start of WW2, so Granny was busy being a new mother, and i would expect there to be exemptions for parents and certain jobs. But my great aunts were in the Land Army and the WRNs. My maternal grandfather was conscripted into the army, and my grandmother was in the WAAF. I also grew up knowing a family friend who had been to prison as a conscientious objector.

I have German colleagues who are old enough to have done compulsory service in the 1980s (they are now in their 50s.) One was in the Luftwaffe, but another did civilian service, and worked in a hospital. There should be the option of conscription to non-military roles.

Conscription has always highlighted issues with nutrition and disease in populations, with not everyone being fit enough for military roles. That would still be the same, it's just the way people are poorly nourished will have changed.

Snoozysnoozy · 07/12/2025 07:49

CombatBarbie · 06/12/2025 21:01

Can I just point out that the medic who goes out with sections, platoons etc very much in the thick of it on the front lines is carrying more weight wise in the medic pack and is highly likely to be female.

You can but you'd be wrong. The medic does carry a lot of kit. But so do the signallers, the machine gunners, mortars, each man will carry extra ammunition for the crew served weapons.

Sexentric · 07/12/2025 08:14

MrsSkylerWhite · 07/12/2025 00:40

Obviously. I’m thinking of my own family history.
The most recent episode where our men were enlisted was WW2. Then, physical strength was the most important requirement for conscripts.
if we entered into a war with Russia now it would be technologically played out. Women are equally capable of technological warfare.

If my country was being invaded, I would do what I could to defend it. Don’t suppose I’d stop to question which gender began it.

I also think its pretty unfair calling it a man's war. I mean its true that its usually men that start them but not the same men that have to go and sacrifice themselves. You could just as easily say its an old person's war so young people shouldn't be expected to fight. Or in the case of Europe its a white person's war. No people of colour should have to fight.

CinnamonBuns67 · 07/12/2025 08:24

I'm same OP, I'm against conscription but if it was to happen women should be conscripted just as much as men.

HoppityBun · 07/12/2025 08:56

LouiseK93 · 06/12/2025 19:34

I have wondered this myself.
Ww2 only men were drafted. Now women can fight in the army, so I would assume either gender would hsve to join.
I have three daughters myself, if any of them were drafted i would do a reverse Mulan and go instead 😆.
Btw, drafting is very likely, there are simply not enough people in our army right now. My daughters father joined a couple of years ago, someone else in training tested positive for cocaine and rather than being thrown out immediately they just put the lad back to week 1 of training. They are that desperate.

Women were conscripted in WW2 in the UK

Pukkajones · 07/12/2025 09:09

pineapplecrushed · 07/12/2025 01:42

???
Women don't fight in wars because if swathes of women died humanity would die out. Women are more reproductively valuable. Can't believe people don't know this.

Women do fight in wars.

OP posts:
Elbowpatch · 07/12/2025 10:01

HoppityBun · 07/12/2025 08:56

Women were conscripted in WW2 in the UK

But only for non-combatant roles.

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