To be fuming with husband

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Gondola360 · 05/12/2025 02:59

Husband went on works night out at 2pm. He last messaged me at 5pm. His phone ran out of battery around 9pm. Heard nothing from him until he strolled in just now at 2:30..
we’ve got two little kids and he knew I’d driven them 2 hours away and back this evening for a Xmas event. Is it not bad that he had no idea we were ok and just waltzed in at 2am? Or am I being a cow?

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MrsSkylerWhite · 05/12/2025 12:06

BrokenWorldRecord · 05/12/2025 06:10

Why wouldn’t you be ok? Is one of you terminally ill?

It may come as a surprise to you, but there was a time when no one had a mobile phone on them at all times. And we went on nights out with no contact possible with people at home. Yes, we actually survived nights out without being in constant contact with others. Fancy that!

This 😁

Untailored · 05/12/2025 12:12

Gondola360 · 05/12/2025 07:20

Thanks for all the replies. I understand the consensus - and I did suspect I was being unfair.
our youngest has been in hospital many times since being v ill as a newborn (he’s ok now though) so maybe in my head I think well I couldn’t go for hours not knowing for sure that they weren’t at a&e for something if I was on a night out. Although that’s definitely irrational.
Lesson learned!

But you know logically that someone would call you if a child was in A&E. And men tend to think logically more than women.

Arraminta · 05/12/2025 16:21

Why wouldn’t you be ok? Is one of you terminally ill?
It may come as a surprise to you, but there was a time when no one had a mobile phone on them at all times. And we went on nights out with no contact possible with people at home. Yes, we actually survived nights out without being in constant contact with others. Fancy that!

Yes this! A thousand times this!

DH and I got together long before mobiles were even thought of, so our relationship was never based on having constant contact with each other. Or providing each other with a running commentary on our daily doings.

It baffles me that couples feel the need to be like this with each other? I would find it so intrusive and irritating to be constantly checking in with each other, or updating each other etc. Aaarggh!

I often think that couples who impose this level of contact on each other aren't actually 100% secure in their relationship.

MeridaBrave · 05/12/2025 16:34

I can see why you were worried or annoyed but fuming is a bit strong. I mean yes he should have made sure his phone had battery but just one of these things

shhblackbag · 05/12/2025 16:37

You're definitely being unreasonable. Phones die. It happens. God knows how some people coped before we had them.

TeenLifeMum · 05/12/2025 16:38

As you’ve conceded, yabu. But what is it with men who are incapable of keeping their phone charged for a night out? It seems to happen a lot. As a mum of 3 dc, I always have my phone charged. I’d be wondering if he didn’t want to be tracked on find my phone. That’s a different issue to what you raised though.

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