Inspired by a thread I'm reading (I do not dare reply) where everyone is piling on a new mum and telling her life doesn't change when you have a baby, they and their husbands alternate going out every night, they're exercising and living their best life and apparently any mum who isn't, is a martyr. WTF.
I have a 16 month old. Working full time. Work in the evenings too (not the kind of job that finishes at 5, don't think most do anymore). Toddler wakes once a night still. Worse if teething (just had his 3rd molar). Everyone up by 7, prep toddler for day while we get ready, go to work, work 9 hours, come home, spend some time with toddler, put toddler to bed, dinner, work, flop around 9pm, bed at 10pm.
I don't have time or energy for hobbies or exercise. We alternate doing some exercise at the weekend but that's 1 or 2 workouts a week. I feel I'm either working or caring for a toddler at all times. Yes, DH does his share.
I could choose to not see my toddler at all for a few days a week and go to the gym after work, but do people actually do this??
So anyone else how are you doing at this stage? Am I a fucking lazy martyr who can't cope with a 1 year old and is everyone else having loads of free time and exercise?