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Small tasks that feel like such a chore

123 replies

WickedElpheba · 02/12/2025 22:30

I don't mind having a shower, washing my hair, drying it, getting changed, but I find brushing my teeth such a chore.

I feel a bit like that about folding and putting away laundry but not the same level.

What small things do you find such a chore?

For those who will ask what the AIBU is, AIBU to find brushing my teeth a chore?

I even listen to a podcast or something watch something on my iPad and it's a 3 minute job (I have braces so it takes longer but I felt this way before then)

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Natowl · 03/12/2025 07:15

AmberRose86 · 02/12/2025 22:34

Right now? That fucking Elf

My husband decided we needed an elf. I said no because it would be a pain in the arse and also I feel like adding too much to Christmas takes away some of the magic. He got one anyway. Of course he did about three days of it then I had to do it. Kids kept complaining that they weren’t allowed to touch the elf and they wanted to play with it. Last year I refused to do it at all and he finally conceded it was a pain in the arse so on Christmas Eve the elf left a note saying the kids had been so good that the elf was coming to stay as a toy forever and they could play with him (he’s been dumped under the bed forgotten for most of the year but has made a few appearances as the token male amongst the Barbie’s)

Natowl · 03/12/2025 07:17

I have to really psych myself up to empty the dishwasher every morning, hate it. If it ever hasn’t gone on I give a little cheer.

Makingadecision · 03/12/2025 07:28

Anything to do with financial management that requires a log in and password. I can’t remember which email address I use and it always results in an account being locked and having to spend hours on the phone hoping to talk to someone

Lastfroginthebox · 03/12/2025 07:33

Natowl · 03/12/2025 07:15

My husband decided we needed an elf. I said no because it would be a pain in the arse and also I feel like adding too much to Christmas takes away some of the magic. He got one anyway. Of course he did about three days of it then I had to do it. Kids kept complaining that they weren’t allowed to touch the elf and they wanted to play with it. Last year I refused to do it at all and he finally conceded it was a pain in the arse so on Christmas Eve the elf left a note saying the kids had been so good that the elf was coming to stay as a toy forever and they could play with him (he’s been dumped under the bed forgotten for most of the year but has made a few appearances as the token male amongst the Barbie’s)

I wonder why you felt you 'had to do it' when DH stopped? I perhaps would have done the same but I wonder why women take on the burdens of Christmas, keeping DC happy, remembering birthdays, keeping up social contacts etc etc.

GnomeDePlume · 03/12/2025 07:46

Popping out tablets is weirdly annoying. I have to take 10-12 tablets every night before bed. I cant just go to bed, I have to spend an extra 5 minutes popping tablets out of the packets. I dont mind taking them, it's the popping them out which annoys me.

AmberRose86 · 03/12/2025 08:47

Thepeopleversuswork · 03/12/2025 05:26

I really don't get why people bother with this elf. It's a classic example of something where the upside doesn't begin to compensate for the pain in the arse factor. Just say no!

I have avoided the elf for years. I have absolutely refused to do it.

Then my youngest actually bought herself one (with her own pocket money) when out at the shops with her friend and her mum. Came home like “now we finally have an elf!!!” and i felt so guilty that she had actually taken steps to get herself an elf that i feel I have no option but to entertain it.

Swiftie1878 · 03/12/2025 08:53

Deciding what to cook for dinner.

Thepeopleversuswork · 03/12/2025 09:45

HelenaWaiting · 03/12/2025 07:02

Ordering things off the internet. Why the F do I need to create an account? Or remember my password from the last time I ordered which was 14 years ago? Are they so desperate for a bit of free data that they're prepared to lose a sale? Just take my money and send me the damn stuff, FFS.

This is exactly how I feel.

They must lose customers this way. It takes so long to register to buy anything. In the time it takes to faff about creating a password, saving the password and all that guff for one sale you could have got three of four through.

I know they need our data so they can spam us with shit all day but sometimes I wonder if they'd be better off just focusing on selling us what we want quickly.

Jellycatspyjamas · 03/12/2025 11:23

MarxistMags · 02/12/2025 23:08

Cleaning the cooker and oven !
Anyone know a simple and easy way ?

I’ve hist bought an oven that had pyrolitic cleaning so I never need to deep clean the oven again. I can’t stand doing it.

ClydeBay · 03/12/2025 11:40

The task I am avoiding this week is cleaning the heat exchanger filter on the tumble dryer. I just keep clicking the not now option, despite knowing it takes longer to dry everything if the filter needs cleaning.

It’s such a stupid design. My old condensing tumble dryer had a removable unit that you just put under the shower and rinsed clean, took two seconds. This one, the heat exchange unit is fixed behind a hatch at floor level, so it’s hard to get the right angle to see and clean it all. The filter fins are delicate so you have to be really carefull how you clean them and the brush that comes with the machine is basically useless.

It’s a lot more efficient and cheaper to run than our old condensing one, but honestly I’d happily pay more not to have to do this job.

HelenaWaiting · 03/12/2025 12:20

ClydeBay · 03/12/2025 11:40

The task I am avoiding this week is cleaning the heat exchanger filter on the tumble dryer. I just keep clicking the not now option, despite knowing it takes longer to dry everything if the filter needs cleaning.

It’s such a stupid design. My old condensing tumble dryer had a removable unit that you just put under the shower and rinsed clean, took two seconds. This one, the heat exchange unit is fixed behind a hatch at floor level, so it’s hard to get the right angle to see and clean it all. The filter fins are delicate so you have to be really carefull how you clean them and the brush that comes with the machine is basically useless.

It’s a lot more efficient and cheaper to run than our old condensing one, but honestly I’d happily pay more not to have to do this job.

Consider yourself lucky. Mine screams at me. Every five uses. At which point there is nothing in the damn filter because it was cleaned five uses ago. Apparently it's a "fire safety feature".

Spidey66 · 03/12/2025 12:48

Putting body lotion or foot cream on. Face is ok, other parts a chore. I have dry skin too.

changing quilt covers.

taking the dog for a walk, even though I adore the dog and once I’m out I’m fine.

putting the rubbish out

mopping the floor.

life sometimes!

Sgtmajormummy · 03/12/2025 13:04

Washing windows. It involves ladders, a squeegee on an extension pole, spray bottles, towels on the floor (irregular ancient porous parquet), rags, paper towel etc.
A right old PITA.
I can usually get away with doing it every 3 months BUT now I have an upstairs neighbour who douses her flowerpots with limescale water and it inevitably dribbles down and crusts up my kitchen window.
ARGH!

chimichangaz · 03/12/2025 13:10

Mine is putting batch cooked meals or leftovers into freezer bags/containers and putting them into the freezer. I have some sort of brain block about this where - even though I have planned this by doing batch cooking - I absolutely hate the idea of portioning it up and freezing it. Bizarre.

LadyHexham · 03/12/2025 13:58

Turning and swapping over the cushions on the sofas makes me seethe.
It takes 45 seconds.

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 03/12/2025 14:33

canklesmctacotits · 03/12/2025 01:57

Fridge Tetris when food delivery comes.

Sorting out smalls and balling socks out of the dryer. I don’t do it; everyone clamors around the basket each morning looking for a pair.

Dealing with cold/congealed fat: can’t go down the sink, don’t want to put it in old takeaway containers as don’t like throwing away plastic, don’t always have cardboard packaging to hand.

Logging into infrequently used banking apps.

Paying bills. We have the money, and they’re not huge. I just hate the mechanics of it.

Cleaning my hair out of the shower drain.

Telling DS the same fucking shit every single day: brush your teeth, wash you face, raise your blinds, switch the light off, put your dirty clothes in the basket not in front of it, put your head over the plate, dishes in the dishwasher not pushed in the vague direction of the sink, hang yo your coat, have you packed your homework. Every. Single. Day.

Talking to DD as 9/10 she’ll argue or answer back (it’s a phase, a very tiresome phase).

Put the fat on a newspaper or tissue and put it out for the birds. If you really want to you can mix it with bird seed and/or food scraps and make your own fat balls.

TheWiseAmethyst · 03/12/2025 14:49

I hate peeling carrots when the peels are slivers and stick to the chopping board and/or fall on the floor.
I can only imagine how difficult it must be to work in a nursery or be a childminder when the little ones go outside.
All those shoes and boots to try to do up, coats and zips and gloves and scarves. 😫
My neighbour is a childminder and I think she's amazing when I see her leave with all these kids and their book bags & sports stuff. She tells me she has to be organised but I'm in awe of her ability to do it all!

Luckyingame · 03/12/2025 14:49

Anything other people want. Fortunately, it's just me and a (quite) reasonable husband, so it's not much.
Making a phone call to my remaining elderly parent in another country. Such tiredness sets in every time before this chore. They were crap,
but I still want what's rightfully mine one day.

canklesmctacotits · 03/12/2025 14:50

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 03/12/2025 14:33

Put the fat on a newspaper or tissue and put it out for the birds. If you really want to you can mix it with bird seed and/or food scraps and make your own fat balls.

I live in a high rise in the city center so no "putting out" for me, but I like the idea of wrapping in newspaper per Lurkingandlearning - thanks!

Going by your username I expect you'd know the answer to this: I don't know anything about pets or animals in general actually, do birds really want to be eating cow or lamb fat? Do they do this in nature? I thought carrion was only for vultures and big birds like hawks and eagles, not sparrows and robbins and pigeons? I thought these types of birds were herbivores 😬

Sartre · 03/12/2025 14:50

Putting cutlery away, putting laundry away, making meal plans.

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 03/12/2025 15:03

I hate wiping the sides. Just hate it... only a 2 min job but can't be arsed.

Snugglemonkey · 03/12/2025 19:59

Bloozie · 02/12/2025 23:35

I hate brushing my teeth. Not just because it’s a chore. Though it is. The concept of it makes me want to be sick. Toothbrushes are disgusting.

I find all self care a chore. Showering is so boring. Doing my hair is worse. The bit where I’ve finished the shower and dried and now I need to do something with the clothes I took off - like, when will this purgatory end?! Plus bodies are so needy. I just did it yesterday. What do you mean I have to wash this body again? Who decided hair had to be styled and why were they so bored that they invented a whole new entirely unnecessary chore….?Whole thing is a massive ballache.

Yeah, this is why i stick my hair in a bun.

WickedElpheba · 03/12/2025 22:44

Yes to putting the duvet covers on and putting leftover food in the fridge / freezer (not sure why!)

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