Men who can't keep to their own side of a double seat on public transport

[Pavementworrier]

This is getting worse right? It's getting to the point where they just launch themselves halfway across both and crush the person sitting at the window and don't seem to see anything wrong with this. Guy just did that to me so I elbowed him away and he turned to look at me in outrage.

I think part of the issue is people who used to drive are getting public transport more. Which is good overall but it also means a lot more selfish pricks in enclosed spaces.

Flying to Greece last year, husband in window seat, me in middle (but this was row A, so no seat in front) and a huge, rugby-player type man got on to sit in the aisle seat. I sighed internally, dreading the inevitable squashing. But he kept himself contained in his own space, keeping his legs together and no doubt suffering being squashed in the too-small-for-him seat.

And that's the thing, the seats are too small for some of us to sit comfortably.

Dickheads will spread into other people's space without a care. The rest of us will do our very best to keep to our space

Some people are just arseholes

Yes this is massively annoying! I told a man off for doing this who nearly smacked a woman in the face. He was outraged and said ‘but I didn’t actually hit her though did I’? What a twat.

I think someone needs to invent some sort of rod, like a long ruler, that you can wedge in between seats to avoid man spreading.(Only half joking at this point).

Many elderly woman also use these trolleys as walking aid. Many carnt handle carrying bags. They still need to use public transport. They carnt magically make the trolley disappear. Maybe show some awareness next time.

A couple of months back I had a guy sat opposite me on the train, his legs spread out full to the point they were under my seat, I had very little space for my legs in between his and he got kicked numerous times. But then again being sat on a bus a woman sat on top of next to me, her right butt cheek was fully on my leg and I was completely crushed against the window by her top half. So no it’s definitely not a gender thing.

Plenty women are spreaders too. Don't just blame men

If l spread my legs like that I’d either be showing my fanny to the world (skirt) or ripping my crotch (trousers)!

I shove them back with my rucksack

Difference is a woman probably won't swear at you or threaten you if you ask her to move her bag. Not scarey whereas challenging a man often gets you vile abuse and threats from men. Reprisals even in my experience.

I have said if they can’t close their legs because of their balls they really should see a doctor.

How true! This afternoon I was on an absolutely crammed bus, loads of people standing, and across the aisle was a fat young woman sitting on the aisle seat, with her bags on the window side. None of the people standing (a lot!) asked her to move up - I wondered whether it was because she was so obviously fat and they thought she’d a) be embarrassed, or b) that there’d hardly be room even if she did move up.
But a couple of stops later a young, slim woman did ask her to move up, and she did. There was actually quite enough room for a reasonably sized person as well, so I couldn’t help wondering why on earth she hadn’t moved up to make space in the first place, given that so many were having to stand.

I've put up with this for way too long, and now I spread out like a man. Most move their legs when mine bump into theirs, but occasionally a man looks at me, and I just love holding their gaze until they move their leg. Only once have I had to say 'your leg is in my space.'

My DH is 6'6'' and manages to keep to his own space on public transport. If he can, anyone can.