My sister is dating a sex offender

[Flup68]

Am I wrong for not wanting anything to do with my sister since she’s been dating a sex offender.
So she starts dating this guy turns out 2 years prior to meeting him he was accused and admitted to sexually assaulting someone in his house whilst they were resting after not feeling well. It was a house party and the girl was friend of his stepdaughter. He pleased guilty and two years after the assault and 6 months after meeting my sister went to prison got 3 years.
I have refused to have anything to do with her since I found out what he done. He claims he was drunk and had blacked out. I won’t have it. He is now out of prison and they are now living together. I’m just looking for peoples views wondering if I’m wrong for not being ok with it just want peoples views please

When I read your original post I thought that she must be young and naive, the fact that she is 54 puts a whole new slant on it. If she has got to that age and does not comprehend the enorormity of what he has done or does not want to do so then there is little hope for her. Horrible for you to see her involved with such a low life creep.

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I'd cut her off. Totally. It's very odd she wants to date a sex offender. That's creepy.

Unfortunately its her life, and as abhorrent as he sounds she can do what she wants
I dont blame you however for.not wanting anything to do with them.

Why revive this thread?

Yes your right it’s amazing what someone will choose over their family

I know this is an old thread, but it's an interesting one.

It baffles me why The Times newspaper still employs India Knight. Her partner is Eric Joyce, who is a convicted sex offender who had downloaded the worst category-A images on his devices. He didn't do prison time because she vouched for him and supported him - to the extent that the reason he avoided prison is because she let him live with her. She has a disabled daughter who then had to move out of the home due to the convicted sex offender living there. Who fucking does that? Puts a paedo before their own vulnerable child?

And she still has a regular beauty column in The Times - so obviously they are okay with her association with Eric Joyce. The argument that she isn't the one who has committed an offence just doesn't wash with me. You certainly can be judged by the company you keep.

Have just come across this thread.
@Flup68 Have you had any contact with your sister since?

FWIW, I agree with you. She's 54, has access to the same information as you and still chooses to put herself in danger. You are right to look out for and protect your children IMO.

I know this is a revived thread, but I was once the girl unconscious at the party waking up to that. It fills me with rage. And I don’t say this lightly, but at least the man doing this to me was a peer (in terms of age, non-position of trust. From what I understand, this was a friend of his step daughter’s? So basically a child to him. It makes me feel so sick.

I would make it very clear to your sister that you love her but will not have anything to do with this man. It’s not to punish her for her choices, but to protect your life from his.

No none she has since finished with him but I won’t speak to her again. She thought that was ok that he’d only done it once? Who knows. To me if you can be with someone like that I can’t trust them also as a person who can make allowances

I don't blame you. I don't know why so many people were telling you you needed to 'keep the door open'. No. She is 54 FFS, not some vulnerable ingenue. If you haven't learned sense at over 50 years old, hell mend you.

Agreed! I'd dread to think who else she'd bring in to the family if she thinks a registered sex offender is OK

First reply nails it.

I'ts okay to not want to have anything to do with him, but she's your sister, who is making really dubious choices. There might come a time when she really needs you.

The woman is fifty four years old! OP is not her sister's keeper.