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Weeing in the theatre

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Didimum · 30/11/2025 16:38

Went with my DCs to the theatre in London. There was a little boy seated in front of us with his mum. I think he was around 3-4yrs old. During the show, his mum had him wee in a bottle twice when he needed the bathroom. Trousers down and everything. They were otherwise fine during the show – not noisy or anything.

I get that it’s annoying having to take your kids to the loo during a show, but I would never have done this. Poor woman in front of them turned round and got a … well, a full on view.

YABU – I would do this
YANBU – I wouldn’t have

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suburberphobe · 02/12/2025 00:32

No 3 or 4 year old "needs" to go to a theatre show in London. (or anywhere).

Weirdo mother. I'd be put right off, having done the solo mum thing. You just DO NOT DO THAT!

AutumnLeavesFallingFast · 02/12/2025 02:51

W0tnow · 01/12/2025 14:01

Whaaat? The only private space is the toilet! Surely you’re not thinking of the galley? Where the staff are taking their break, or preparing food?

God, people are grim.

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Yes they are, suggesting putting a potty on the floor of a toilet in an aeroplane is indeed grim.

CheeseIsMyIdol · 02/12/2025 04:50

AutumnLeavesFallingFast · 02/12/2025 02:51

Yes they are, suggesting putting a potty on the floor of a toilet in an aeroplane is indeed grim.

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It’s even more grim to suggest putting it in a food prep / FA working area.

Take some newspaper and place it on the lavatory floor if little Oliver is so precious. Or close the toilet lid & put the pot on that. Or stay home until the kid is toilet trained.

KatiMaus · 02/12/2025 05:14

AutumnLeavesFallingFast · 30/11/2025 23:10

IF I had a toddler that was terrified of the plane toilets (fortunately I haven't?) I would take them & the travel potty somewhere a bit more private than on a seat, but I wouldn't have any toddler anywhere near the floor of a plane toilet.

there are lots of unpleasant smells on flights,

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Just for clarity, where on a plane would you say is "a bit more private"?

I'm assuming you mean the cabin crew's working area towards the back? Would you appreciate someone shitting in the middle of your office?

KatiMaus · 02/12/2025 05:25

Sorry, cross-post with @W0tnow- i was just so outraged at the thought of that and couldn't wait until the end of the thread! 😂 Pleased I'm not the only one.

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Didimum · 02/12/2025 08:10

suburberphobe · 02/12/2025 00:32

No 3 or 4 year old "needs" to go to a theatre show in London. (or anywhere).

Weirdo mother. I'd be put right off, having done the solo mum thing. You just DO NOT DO THAT!

Well, no. He was really engaged with the show though. He was a cute kid and was very well behaved.

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W0tnow · 02/12/2025 09:07

AutumnLeavesFallingFast · 02/12/2025 02:51

Yes they are, suggesting putting a potty on the floor of a toilet in an aeroplane is indeed grim.

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Where else would you suggest (at 30000 feet altitude) a passenger toilet their child, using a potty, if not in the toilet?

TheGoddessFrigg · 02/12/2025 09:37

My favourite time was when I went to the cinema to see the last Avenger's film. A dad was there with a toddler obviously far too young to appreciate the film.

At the climax, he changed the child's nappy on the stairs rather than miss the film. So now my memories of that film are accompanied by a rather Fruity smell,

Never going to the cinema again...

5128gap · 02/12/2025 09:49

Disgusting and unnecessary. Parents of boys should really stop taking the lazy option. Then maybe more men would grow up to understand that weeing is only for the toilet, not the street or wherever else you happen to be when you need to go.

25percentoffeverything · 02/12/2025 10:00

5128gap · 02/12/2025 09:49

Disgusting and unnecessary. Parents of boys should really stop taking the lazy option. Then maybe more men would grow up to understand that weeing is only for the toilet, not the street or wherever else you happen to be when you need to go.

have you never seen girls urinating in the street? Adults I mean, in the evening - I haven't seen any during the day to be fair. 😂

They're not better!

25percentoffeverything · 02/12/2025 10:03

AutumnLeavesFallingFast · 02/12/2025 02:51

Yes they are, suggesting putting a potty on the floor of a toilet in an aeroplane is indeed grim.

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It's a potty... use wipes after, and store. You are not going use it as a pillow later are you?

Where else than the floor do you put a potty? Your seat?

Of carry your child above the seat if you prefer. How do you think we all manage?

I genuinely wonder what people like you do when they refuse to use the plane toilets?

ParmaVioletTea · 02/12/2025 10:13

5128gap · 02/12/2025 09:49

Disgusting and unnecessary. Parents of boys should really stop taking the lazy option. Then maybe more men would grow up to understand that weeing is only for the toilet, not the street or wherever else you happen to be when you need to go.

Or they'll turn into the disgusting men who I had to chase away peeing on my garden wall at 2pm on Sunday afternoon. I wish I'd had a bucket of water handy.

5128gap · 02/12/2025 10:17

25percentoffeverything · 02/12/2025 10:00

have you never seen girls urinating in the street? Adults I mean, in the evening - I haven't seen any during the day to be fair. 😂

They're not better!

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Truthfully? I've seen it no more than a handful of times, in the early hours after a night out and once or twice in between cars doors on a jammed motorway. To suggest this is something women do on the regular rather than when drunk or desperate, so are 'not better' than men is ridiculous.

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 02/12/2025 10:23

Muffsies · 01/12/2025 16:55

BIG difference between an adult male and a 4 year old kid.

I'm not saying the mum is doing the 'right' thing here, I'm saying don't assume it's laziness, she may have her reasons. There's so much judgement of women/ mothers already, we sometimes make bad choices, or our lack of planning slightly inconveniences someone. Why are we all so eagre to pile-on and have a go? I'd far rather assume she had her reasons and get on with my day and my own business.

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Why are we all so eager to avoid judgement? Judgement is how we enforce societal/cultural norms outside the legal sphere. Society crumbles without it. This disgusting woman should be judged.

CuriousKangaroo · 02/12/2025 10:30

That is utterly grim. I find audience behaviour and consideration for others has really deteriorated over the last 10 years or so. But this is a level beyond.

ShowMighty · 02/12/2025 10:55

25percentoffeverything · 02/12/2025 10:00

have you never seen girls urinating in the street? Adults I mean, in the evening - I haven't seen any during the day to be fair. 😂

They're not better!

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I agree with the previous poster that I rarely see it. I’m not saying I’ve never seen it. But it’s much rarer.

I went to see Oasis at Wembley a few months back. On leaving, I saw, and I’m not exaggerating, over 100 men pissing absolutely everywhere. Some in the stairway still inside the stadium, some just standing in the street pissing not even up against anything. Just in the open. At one point there was an entire wall of over 30 men pissing against a barrier thing just as you leave the turnstiles bit. There was men pissing in gardens and against cars and in shop doorways all the way along the walk out of the area. I did not see one woman doing this. Again, I’m not saying none did, but the ratio of what I saw was roughly 0:100.

And I’m obviously not even including the men pissing in bottles and throwing them. (I was at the back in the tiers so thankfully avoided this but could see it happening). I’ve been to many Take That shows though and strangely enough I’ve never seen anyone piss in a cup and throw it even when the women get drunk.

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Didimum · 02/12/2025 11:39

5128gap · 02/12/2025 09:49

Disgusting and unnecessary. Parents of boys should really stop taking the lazy option. Then maybe more men would grow up to understand that weeing is only for the toilet, not the street or wherever else you happen to be when you need to go.

They do have those pop up ground urinals on the street in London (as presumably other cities). I detest them. Piss may not be going all over the floor, but it’s still pissing in public. They are open, not enclosed.

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5128gap · 02/12/2025 12:43

Didimum · 02/12/2025 11:39

They do have those pop up ground urinals on the street in London (as presumably other cities). I detest them. Piss may not be going all over the floor, but it’s still pissing in public. They are open, not enclosed.

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Yes and the smell is awful especially in hot weather.

CheeseIsMyIdol · 02/12/2025 12:47

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 02/12/2025 10:23

Why are we all so eager to avoid judgement? Judgement is how we enforce societal/cultural norms outside the legal sphere. Society crumbles without it. This disgusting woman should be judged.

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Exactly.

“Judgment” is not a negative. We need more of it, not less, imho.

5128gap · 02/12/2025 12:52

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 02/12/2025 10:23

Why are we all so eager to avoid judgement? Judgement is how we enforce societal/cultural norms outside the legal sphere. Society crumbles without it. This disgusting woman should be judged.

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I agree with this. We can recognise that parenting is hard, that mothers bare the brunt of it and that society is often over judgemental about things that probably don't matter without going so far we make excuses for anything provided it's a mother doing it. Some things are the basics of consideration for other people. Performing bodily functions in the appropriate place is one of them. To raise children to think otherwise is anti social.

Izzywizzy85 · 02/12/2025 12:59

dirty horrible tramp. Absolutely not OK. WTF.

PansyPotter84 · 03/12/2025 08:42

ShowMighty · 02/12/2025 10:55

I agree with the previous poster that I rarely see it. I’m not saying I’ve never seen it. But it’s much rarer.

I went to see Oasis at Wembley a few months back. On leaving, I saw, and I’m not exaggerating, over 100 men pissing absolutely everywhere. Some in the stairway still inside the stadium, some just standing in the street pissing not even up against anything. Just in the open. At one point there was an entire wall of over 30 men pissing against a barrier thing just as you leave the turnstiles bit. There was men pissing in gardens and against cars and in shop doorways all the way along the walk out of the area. I did not see one woman doing this. Again, I’m not saying none did, but the ratio of what I saw was roughly 0:100.

And I’m obviously not even including the men pissing in bottles and throwing them. (I was at the back in the tiers so thankfully avoided this but could see it happening). I’ve been to many Take That shows though and strangely enough I’ve never seen anyone piss in a cup and throw it even when the women get drunk.

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Isn’t that because:

a. Women tend to have larger bladders anyway and;

b. Women often wear Tena pants to
concerts?

When Taylor Swift was in town the papers were full of articles about women and girls wearing “adult nappies” to her
concerts so as not to miss anything!

ShowMighty · 03/12/2025 09:00

PansyPotter84 · 03/12/2025 08:42

Isn’t that because:

a. Women tend to have larger bladders anyway and;

b. Women often wear Tena pants to
concerts?

When Taylor Swift was in town the papers were full of articles about women and girls wearing “adult nappies” to her
concerts so as not to miss anything!

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If men (or women) want to wear adult nappies then they can go ahead. That’s very different to pissing all over the place. If the child in the OP had a nappy on no one would have an issue with that either as no one would know.

ShowMighty · 03/12/2025 09:02

PansyPotter84 · 03/12/2025 08:42

Isn’t that because:

a. Women tend to have larger bladders anyway and;

b. Women often wear Tena pants to
concerts?

When Taylor Swift was in town the papers were full of articles about women and girls wearing “adult nappies” to her
concerts so as not to miss anything!

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And wearing tena pants or pads etc is mainly because a lot of women suffer incontinence issues. It isn’t deliberate. The same way if a man was wearing them. It’s very different to just pissing all over the place. If someone is incontinent then no one should be shaming them for that obviously.