I’ve been blasted in a Facebook group 😂 PLEASE tell me this wasn’t my fault??

[Everythingsgrey]

I’m currently in the middle of selling my house and renting a new place. I’m getting rid of some furniture and other stuff. I’ve managed to sell quite a bit and have explained to people that I don’t live at the property right now and asked them to arrange a time as I don’t want to be waiting around for hours. I’ve told them I’ll be coming up especially for it (so basically, don’t show up too early or too late without checking first because I won’t be there, and I won’t hang around for ages either).

I thought I was pretty clear about that tbh, but I guess not. So many people have shown up 20 minutes early, which has been really awkward when I’ve arrived and found them just standing there knocking on the door. Anyway, this morning a woman messaged me about an item. Again, I explained that I don’t live there and asked if 7pm would work for her. She agreed, but then at 6:10, she messaged me saying she was outside and asked where I was. I replied 10 minutes later, saying I wasn’t there yet (clearly) and reminded her we agreed on 7. She ignored that part and then asked if I could drop it off at her house instead as she’d gone home. No please or offer to pay extra for the trouble. I told her no, it’s collection only, and tbh, why should I be out of pocket for her mistake (which I don’t even think was a mistake as she didn’t acknowledge it). I might have come off a bit rude, but the cheekiness of it really pissed me off. She then bombarded me with a load of messages, which I ignored.

Now she’s gone and posted my name and a picture of me in the group, calling me a time waster and rude 😂

AIBU? Why don’t people listen?

I hope you have a factual, reasonable (not rude) response to her comment! If you do, no one will think you are unreasonable.

I'd just post the conversation between yourself and her in response.

FB is full of crazy cheeky fuckers. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I dont think being 20 mins early is an issue as they didnt want to be late and fine as long as theyre happy waiting. The last arriving so late is annoying. Most people dont read everything.

I’d reply to her post saying she turned up an hour early! What an idiot.

Facebook marketplace is a place full of chancers and cheeky fuckers. Occasionally a gem can be found though with good seller and genuine buyers. I bought 2 chairs and stools nearly new, the seller bought them as a temporary thing until a ordered suite arrived. I turned up on time and they even knocked 20 quid off when they asked how far I had driven.

I probably wouldn't tell a load of people that the house is sitting empty though OP.

I was just thinking the same thing

I think you’ve accidentally proven your own post.

Yanbu! Some people are so entitled, honestly x

OP it's an absolute nuisance. If you're in the mood for a giggle, google Lou Wall Where is Bed (Australian). Same problem

Hope this link is OK on Mumsnet,

I think I’d respond very politely, it will make hee look the arse she is.

id say “ I was very clear I wasnt home and we arranged 7pm, so of course I wasnt there at 6.10 when you turned up, as id already informed you I would not be, when we agreed 7pm. and no I don’t offer a home delivery service either, I understand both have upset you though, me not being there when I said I wouldn’t, and then not offering a free home delivery service as I wasn’t.

Then reply and say you agreed to meet at 7 - assume you have text /message proof and the last came early

Even if you lived at the house, it wouldn’t be unreasonable for you to not be home an hour before the agreed time! I often say “I’ll be home after X” because I literally won’t be home before that and anyone who doesn’t listen to that is an idiot.

Agreed.

Just say that you won’t be in until x time. You don’t have to say why you aren’t there.

Reply to her post saying that she was early and that you weren’t in.

Google “where is bed” video by Lou Wall. Its a comedian who does a routine as part of what she calls Facebook Marketplace the Musical. Very funny.

Don't share too much info with potential buyers, just arrange a time and say you will not be there before that time and will not wait more than 30 minutes, without any other explanation - people are not interested in your circumstances just the stuff, and the less information you give them the less they have to get confused about. And don't be offended by people not doing as they said (as in your post). I would ignore the comment rather than get drawn into a stupid pointless debate about the rights and wrongs. See if you can delete the comment. Other potential buyers will probably not be interested anyway, may not even see it.

I only hear bad things about facebook marketplace, time wasters etc. Reminds me of someone on ebay offering me in a msg half the price I was listing a collectable teapot at. I said no, and he went off on one, each message getting more and more abusive.

Life must be a long disappointment for folk like this. Just ignore them OP!

Nutters. EBay is probably better. Less nonsense, more serious buyers.

Idiots are gonna idiot. you are only being unreasonable for using facebook.

Yep. This.

Did folk like this always exist, or do we just notice them more since social media existed. Some of the CF/entitled buyer stories are very funny, but it's scary to think that (most of them) are real people.

Second hand sales from your home attract the most mad people on Earth. I wouldn’t have believed it if I hadn’t experienced it myself. Soon she’ll be posting that her child is crying because of you

That was my first thought too.

I stopped selling on fb because some people are unhinged. It’s like they can’t read.. or hold into basic information.