I’ve been blasted in a Facebook group 😂 PLEASE tell me this wasn’t my fault??

[Everythingsgrey]

I’m currently in the middle of selling my house and renting a new place. I’m getting rid of some furniture and other stuff. I’ve managed to sell quite a bit and have explained to people that I don’t live at the property right now and asked them to arrange a time as I don’t want to be waiting around for hours. I’ve told them I’ll be coming up especially for it (so basically, don’t show up too early or too late without checking first because I won’t be there, and I won’t hang around for ages either).

I thought I was pretty clear about that tbh, but I guess not. So many people have shown up 20 minutes early, which has been really awkward when I’ve arrived and found them just standing there knocking on the door. Anyway, this morning a woman messaged me about an item. Again, I explained that I don’t live there and asked if 7pm would work for her. She agreed, but then at 6:10, she messaged me saying she was outside and asked where I was. I replied 10 minutes later, saying I wasn’t there yet (clearly) and reminded her we agreed on 7. She ignored that part and then asked if I could drop it off at her house instead as she’d gone home. No please or offer to pay extra for the trouble. I told her no, it’s collection only, and tbh, why should I be out of pocket for her mistake (which I don’t even think was a mistake as she didn’t acknowledge it). I might have come off a bit rude, but the cheekiness of it really pissed me off. She then bombarded me with a load of messages, which I ignored.

Now she’s gone and posted my name and a picture of me in the group, calling me a time waster and rude 😂

AIBU? Why don’t people listen?

Just post something like “ Op seems to be forgetting the part where they turned up over half an hour earlier and then wanted me to deliver it. If that makes me a time waster, so be it.”

Just post something like “ Op seems to be forgetting the part where they turned up over half an hour earlier and then wanted me to deliver it. If that makes me a time waster, so be it.”

Just post something like “ Op seems to be forgetting the part where they turned up over half an hour earlier and then wanted me to deliver it. If that makes me a time waster, so be it.”

Marketplace seems to have brought to light so many indescrepincies of human nature that you couldn't even make up!

You have to remember that a lot of buyers on FB are as thick as pigshit and never read the description, dimensions, location, price etc.

Some people don't listen or read. I mean if i got there early i might text in case you were also early but i would not expect you until the agreed time. I arranged 12 noon for something once and they turned up at 7.30 AM while i was in the shower. But they weren't rude about it but apologetic and offered to come back later.

It's half your fault for using Facebook Marketplace. The average IQ of buyers on there is about 21.

I sell online and there are buyers on every platform who DO NOT READ but bumble ahead in their own sweet way. They then lambast the seller afterwards with a bad review when things do not work out exactly as they expect. Whether it is laziness or stupidity I do not know. You can do no more than put the correct information in front of people and hope that they have the understanding of a 10 year old. You need to remain calm and professional and point out in your response that all the relevent information was presented to the buyer but was disattended.

There is an old saying that you can lead a horse to water but you CANNOT make it drink.

It was actually 50 minutes early 🤣😂😂😂 op said 7pm and they turned ip at 6.10pm - 60-10 =50

Facebook is not the best place for normalcy... I'm always worried who I'm going to get if I sell anything.

So do a Facebook post back about her. How some people don't understand basic instructions!

I realised 🥴😂

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I hate selling on these groups. People immediately take ownership of items they don’t yet own, and haven’t yet paid for. An example was we were giving away a desk. It was perfectly nice but we were giving it away because we needed it gone as it was in the way and way too good to tip. Someone interested messaged me and I said as she had responded first she could have it as long as she collected it. (It was listed as collection only) I got no response to this. I assumed she was trying to sort transport so left it, no biggy. I messaged her three times over the weekend, and by then I’d had others interested. Id had no response so thought maybe she was the type to do this then go for another desk and just not bother with mine. So a lovely lady came within 10 min of me messaging her. Great all happy.
then two days later out of the blue, ‘when can I have the desk?’ I said I’d got no response so any messages I’d sent asking when she could come or if she was still interested, so thought she didn’t want it any more and it’s gone. The response I got, wow! She called me ‘luv’ -euck! Said I hadn’t kept my end of the bargain and she was going to report me. Well nothing came of that ‘report’ so I assume Facebook told her to do one as welll. I always like to think that my precious things go to nice people and I’m so happy that in the end my nice desk went to a lovely lady and not that other one. People are rude and entitled. Imagine getting so annoyed about something you were going to have for free, that’s not yet yours, at the same time not realising that the reason it’s not sitting in you house is that you ghosted the person paying it forward over the course of several days…bizarre

I think possibly they've always existed. years ago pre internet, I advertised some guinea pig babies for sale in a selling newspaper ( Loot ). I clearly stated the piglets were all white with red/pink eyes and how much they were. An older couple rang and we arranged a time to come and look. They came at the right sort of time but said they weren't the colour they wanted. So I said ok. They then asked to take two for free because they weren't the colour they wanted. I said no. They then said "but we've driven from Next town " (10/15 mins max) I still said no as is clearly stated they were all white in the ad. The wife then looked completely incredulous at my audacity and said " but my husband only has one leg!!!" I'm not sure how they thought that was reasonable but I think they were just career CFs!

FB is absolutely awful - full of time wasters, people who show up massively early, late or just not at all (!) and no one reads the descriptions - asking for dimensions when they're clearly listed! I one had a woman come to collect a small side unit for very cheap. We were moving so she asked if she could look at what else we had, then berated me for not having another matching side unit to sell her, and tried to get me to sell her my late mother's antique bedside table instead. Really not worth the hassle!

Just to add - you did absolutely nothing wrong. People are nuts!

This reminds me of the time we were giving away a band new bathroom suite, we'd bought it ready to update our bathroom, then a house my dh loved came up for sale and we no longer had a need for it, advertised on Facebook, i had some guy who want to look at it to see if he wanted it, then someone else who definitely wanted it, I unsurprisingly went for the guy who definitely wanted it, the rage from the guy who only wanted to view it was startling.

The buyer was fifty minutes early. It IS important to read instructions/details.