Nanny wearing my slippers when I'm not there

[SilverDoublet]

This is a bit of a weird one - so I popped home today unexpectedly while the nanny was in my house with the kids. Everything seemed fine, but then when she was talking to me I looked down and saw that she was wearing my slippers. It made me feel sick. They're not the cleanest or newest of slippers, but I didn't know what to say. I don't know if she's been doing this the whole time or what but I feel like binning the slippers and hiding my slippers in future. I also feel like letting her go over it. It just makes me wonder what else she might do when I'm not there. She's from Brazil. Is this normal in Brazil to just wear someone else's slippers? Am I being weird to have a total icky feeling about this?

Oh give it a rest. That's a bit over the top. Why don't you buy her a pair of her own.

Jeez.

Crazy over reaction. Offer to buy her some!

Your nanny never goes upstairs in your house? How is that possible?

Storm in a teacup. Buy her a pair to wear at yours, problem solved.

I don’t know about Brazil but in Turkey there is a pile of slippers by the front door. People take their shoes off and put a pair of slippers on, whichever ones happen to be nearest.
Maybe bin the old ones and buy a new pair for yourself plus a cheap pair to leave by the door in case she want to wear them.

This! My adult cousin once borrowed my slippers (weirdly, in order to go into the garden because he didn’t want the faff of putting his shoes on!) and I sprayed them afterwards and even then felt squeamish about wearing them. And no (before anyone comes at me), I didn’t think they really needed disinfecting — but it made me feel marginally less squeamish about wearing them.

But her, and yourself, a new pair 'for Christmas'. Problem solved.

Bit odd but I'm sure if you ask her to not wear them she will stop 🤣

Get yourself some new ones

It might be normal in Brazil. My in laws are Turkish and all households over there have slippers/ flip flops in door ways for all guests to just wear inside.

I would buy her a pair for your house:

Have you noticed your internalised racism about her? The disgust is a bit much! It’s probably normal in her mind that house slippers are worn inside. You should let her go if she’s otherwise expected to work with that kind of prejudice and disgust being directed towards her.

”basket of communal slippers” 🤢

We have spare sliders by the door.

In lots of countries you offer house slippers to people if you expect them to take their shoes off.

She probably thinks very badly of you! hahahaha

Buy her some house slippers and get yourself some new ones.

I know that when I visited relatives in former Yugoslavia, they'd offer me a pair of their slippers to wear, rather than having me go around in my stockinged feet.

That makes sense to me, given my Yugo experiences.

Or leave the old ones for the nanny?

It's a VERY wide spread thing. Most countries think the UK are dirty for wearing shoes indoors.

It's weird you never said anything to her

My guess is that she's used to there being a rack of slippers by the door that guests help themselves to, and your slippers were sitting in the 'communal' area as far as she's concerned.
I'd wash the slippers and put them back where they usually live, then buy yourself a new pair and keep them upstairs. No need to shame her for a misunderstanding.

It is really normal in a lot of countries for slippers to be offered to guests to be worn as shoes are taken off. It would be bizarre to walk around barefoot or in socks in someone elses home. Certainly true where i live. Not a big deal. Just buy her some for christmas!

Yeah - like this. Slippers in a rack are given to visitors to the house.

I think ahe probably assumed you dont want bare feet or shoes in the house and saw the slippers and put them on.
I would provide a pair of cheap slippers for her to wear in your house if you are otherwise happy.

Buy her two of the same pair for Christmas, insist that she leaves one pair at work.
It might have been a once off, maybe she forgot her indoor shoes.

It's a bit weird but letting her go over it if she's an otherwise good nanny would be crazy and a overreaction.

Maybe gift her some slippers for her to wear at your house. It maybe is a cultural thing that she just doesn't see it as an issue, I don't know. But not the end of the world and a shame to lose a good nanny who presumably your kids like over slippers..

Oooh no! Thats just as bad as her wearing your underwear. Bare skin sweaty feet in your slippers, big no from me.

I don't let anyone in my home wear mine, if I catch DH wearing any I will literally go out and buy some more. Just no!

I would not let her go over it though unless she is a shit nanny. Buy her a pair to wear when she is there and keep your (new ones) in your room.