But it's not just a collection of privilege and being neurotypical with perfect health that makes this possible. A post like this does a disservice to everyone, the women pulling it off are being put down as having an easy life/it handed to them on a plate and the women that don't have those things are being told they can never have them because you can achieve this through systemic privilege and having things on a plate.
I am a put together mum that has always been complemented on how well I do at mothering, how well my daughter is doing, my career as a scientist is successful and I also look after my horse that I plan to teach my daughter to ride when she is a little older because horses have been the love of my life since I was born and it blows people's minds that I have the capacity to look after a horse too. I was born to a single mother in a council flat, who instilled in me that my only chance at a nice life was to work my ass off at school and get a good education, because she taught me to believe I deserved just as much as everyone else but I had to damn well go and earn it because she had nothing to give me. I also have two chronic illnesses resulting in chronic pain and tiredness and I have awful skin as a result of PCOS, it's also really fucking hard to stay a healthy weight and to keep on top of the grooming with all the bloody hairiness it gives me. My husband is not wealthy and we pay 50/50 for everything so no one is "relieving my financial burden" as you think these well put together women clearly are experiencing.
What this looks like in reality is getting up at 5am, go and muck out the horse, feed, turn out, her him at 6:30am, shower and change, brush my hair and oil it and leave it natural because it looks good that way. Put on some concealer for my awful skin, chuck some clothes on (I don't keep things that don't look good on me so it doesn't matter what I pick up, I don't outfit plan), spritz some perfume, spend an hour with my daughter getting her dressed and doing breakfast, take her to nursery and go to work myself for 10 hours if it's a work day, if it's a day off we start doing activities. I work condensed hours to go give me an extra day a week ith her so I get to have lots of time with her. Finish work at half 6, feed horse and bring in, get home and do/eat dinner which is always pre prepped, do bath time and bed time stories, put daughter in bed. Then I spend an hour cleaning and prepping for tomorrow and I'm on the sofa by 9 to do some crafting, work on a project or watch something interesting with my husband. Go to bed at half ten ready to do it all again tomorrow. Throughout the day I take painkillers for my chronic pelvic pain but I don't let it stop me unless it's really bad. It's a life of pure graft but god it's rewarding! Our home, our daughter, our horse, my career and achievements, our family life, I love it! Every day I wake up and feel blessed! When I get my precious two child free hours a week I'm galloping access the fields on top of the world not working on my hair or wardrobe.
If I can have this life from my humble beginnings and with chronic illness/pain, most people can! But that starts with believing they deserve it and they're going to go and get it, not believing it's unattainable because only people who are born into privilege and have.rich husbands can have it. OP can look as well put together as this woman if she puts the effort in. It doesn't happen by magic. Telling her she can't because she doesn't have the prerequisite privilege is stopping her achieving something that she clearly wants by entrenching the why bother mind set.