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Middle earners punished

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Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:18

I am feeling so disheartened and frustrated by how middle earners are constantly suffering at the hands of ridiculous government priorities. My husband and I have a greater household income than other families we know but have less cash in hand due to increased taxes coupled with the fact we receive zero benefits like child benefit or tax free childcare etc. ZERO. If they want middle earners to fund the country thought tax then at least support us with childcare costs. It’s a joke that two parents earning £99k each get childcare funding but parents with one £101k salary and one £25k salary receive nothing. I just need to speak to people who understand the burden of raising a family amidst the current financial climate and then the potential of further tax rises!

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Christmaspuddingsss · 25/11/2025 22:29

Limered · 25/11/2025 22:26

You pay 60% tax on that above the threshold not on all of it. And so what? Good! Top 4% earners who’ve had the money/ luck/ intelligence to earn that should support others.

So you'd rather they did that than encourage other people to try to earn more?

People are pissed off because there are millions of people not working, claiming they have anxiety, get more in tax-free total benefits than the median salary.

There is no incentive to earn more, work hard as the state takes too much and is far too generous to people not willing to learn and work.

Limered · 25/11/2025 22:30

MidnightPatrol · 25/11/2025 22:27

Lots of very exasperated people in London / South East in this situation.

The exclusion from childcare / cost of housing thing is a huge problem.

Not hard to find households in this situation - I’d say most parents at my nursery have it.

Honestly, I don’t care. So you earn £10k more than me, in the same place. I don’t have an issue with supporting society. I live well. If you want to Keep up With the Kardashian’s as they said 10yrs ago then you’re out of luck. But you’re still massively privileged

Kirbert2 · 25/11/2025 22:30

LoveWine123 · 25/11/2025 22:26

Do you know how much my childcare bill is for my school aged children? £400 a month for 4 days for 1 child. I have 2 children. I pay for breakfast and after school club to allow me to work full time. If I don’t pay this, I can’t work. After nursery years we are looking at before and after school care for our kids until they are in primary. That’s six to seven years more. Per child. I wish it was just the nursery years. Do you also want me to tell you how much the childcare bill is during the holidays?

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They are easily the most expensive years. Thousands per month for some people.

BansheeOfTheSouth · 25/11/2025 22:30

Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:36

No if you read my original post, I am looking to talk with people who are also feeling frustrated about being on higher salaries but having less take home than those on lower salaries.

The earner on £101k can cut their hours to 4.5 days a week and you'll be entitled to help with childcare costs.

Pollyanna87 · 25/11/2025 22:30

fruitbrewhaha · 25/11/2025 21:38

This come up all the time here. The top 1%, that people on £100k are the high earners. No they are not. They are absolutely middle earners. Have you been to London? Have you walked around the residential areas. From the City to Chiswick, down through Barnes to Richmond, miles and miles and miles of massive houses, £2mil upwards, rows and rows of house £10mil plus. Flats that cost £2mil. Theatres full every night with tickets costing £150 each. Restaurants with menus costing £200 each. The shops, the designer goods. Who do you think is buying all this. Not people on £100k. Nope.

Mumsnet has taught me that people on 100k are somehow really bad with money. There are plenty of people on low wages who can afford expensive theatre tickets and restaurants. They’re definitely not the reserve of the rich!

WinterHangingBasket · 25/11/2025 22:30

Benjithedog · 25/11/2025 22:24

They don’t feel temporary when you are facing oncer 10 years of it

You must have had a larger than average family to have nursery fees over more than a decade. That is. result of choices you have made.

Friedshed · 25/11/2025 22:30

From the FT.

Middle earners punished
Benjithedog · 25/11/2025 22:31

Minjou · 25/11/2025 22:23

It is though. It's literally how it works.

Unfortunately it is and it’s wrong on all levels

Limered · 25/11/2025 22:31

Christmaspuddingsss · 25/11/2025 22:29

So you'd rather they did that than encourage other people to try to earn more?

People are pissed off because there are millions of people not working, claiming they have anxiety, get more in tax-free total benefits than the median salary.

There is no incentive to earn more, work hard as the state takes too much and is far too generous to people not willing to learn and work.

What does encouraging someone on £90k to earn more mean? They try harder at their job? It’s a ludicrous fallacy. This is very very much a pre-budget shill thread

vodkaredbullgirl · 25/11/2025 22:31

Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:39

JUST TO CLARIFY I WAS USING THE TWO PARENTS EARNING £99k EACH AS AN EXAMPLE TO SHOW HOW RIDICULOUS THE £100K CAP ON ONE EARNER IS RATHER THAN TWO

WE KNOW

It's shit

motherofbantams · 25/11/2025 22:32

MidnightPatrol · 25/11/2025 22:24

Doesn't Matter.

a) the absolute sums are still massive. I’ll have paid between £25k and £50k a year over the course of 7 years for my two. The total of this is around £200,000 of net income over that time period. A mortgage elsewhere in the UK.

b) Incentives. The cost of childcare and the high value of being excluded from help, means people work less / try to lower their incomes to ensure they can claim it.

So true - I am at the final stage of interview and they asked about salary….I said less so I could stay under the childcare threshold! So less tax for government as it happens also!

HowlongdoIwait · 25/11/2025 22:32

Ionlymakejokestodistractmyself · 25/11/2025 22:21

DH earns JUST over the child benefit cut off (60k) so we don't get any benefits at all (kids no longer in nursery so we don't use tax free childcare) but earn at least £40k pre tax less than your DH which is going to be a minimum of £24,000 per year. God, what I could do with that money. Wanna swap, OP?

You can earn up to £80k now and still claim child benefit. You just need to complete a tax return and pay a proportion back on what you earn over 60k

Benjithedog · 25/11/2025 22:33

Limered · 25/11/2025 22:26

You pay 60% tax on that above the threshold not on all of it. And so what? Good! Top 4% earners who’ve had the money/ luck/ intelligence to earn that should support others.

How about people supporting themselves? Is t that a novel idea

LoveWine123 · 25/11/2025 22:33

Kirbert2 · 25/11/2025 22:30

They are easily the most expensive years. Thousands per month for some people.

I know, I have paid it all 😅 The point is the expensive years don’t stop after nursery.

Limered · 25/11/2025 22:33

Christmaspuddingsss · 25/11/2025 22:29

So you'd rather they did that than encourage other people to try to earn more?

People are pissed off because there are millions of people not working, claiming they have anxiety, get more in tax-free total benefits than the median salary.

There is no incentive to earn more, work hard as the state takes too much and is far too generous to people not willing to learn and work.

Also, the alternative, if you genuinely think these people are better off…is to join them. And not work. But you don’t really think that do you…

motherofbantams · 25/11/2025 22:33

Friedshed · 25/11/2025 22:30

From the FT.

Yep and we get nothing like the social services Sweden gets :(

Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 22:34

LighthouseLED · 25/11/2025 22:27

We are all taxed equally, it's only the amount above 50k which is taxed at the higher rate. It is incorrect to say that you have less take home money than people on lower salaries.

That second sentence is not necessarily true, depending on your personal circumstances. If you take childcare into consideration, someone on £101k could be thousands of pounds a year worse off than someone on £99k. And even at lower income levels, you have to factor in benefits. A single homeowner (with a mortgage) on £30k could well have less net income than a family of 5 renting with a single worker earning £16k.

Yes by take home I meant after bills.

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Limered · 25/11/2025 22:34

Benjithedog · 25/11/2025 22:33

How about people supporting themselves? Is t that a novel idea

Well I mean in modern day society, yes. You have privilege to get where you’ve gotten? Great. Not everyone does

or would you rather see kids dying through lack of food or sanitation like in the ‘good old days.’

Crikeyalmighty · 25/11/2025 22:34

DeedlessIndeed · 25/11/2025 22:18

Or just over half of that if you take out student loan, tax, NI and an average (5%) pension contribution. £5,200 per month is a lot. But not that much when you pay full nursery fees.

im not a mega high earner individually but we do pretty ok as a family , but I do wonder if many lower earners understand how tax works - when you get over £50k you are taxed at 40% on the part over £50k - and more I believe if it’s over£125k - so some family earning 120k isn’t getting 10k a month, more like £6 to £7.5k if they have student loans, then childcare in many areas costs a bomb if you have more than 1, even with funded hours, mortgages and rents are very high in many areas where there are more better paid jobs- in fact I would bet my last rolo that plenty of working class families in cheaper areas with moderate jobs and needing 2 kids in childcare are at least as well off as the OP after bills and yet are the kind making ‘it’s alright for you snarky comments’ -

Kirbert2 · 25/11/2025 22:34

LoveWine123 · 25/11/2025 22:33

I know, I have paid it all 😅 The point is the expensive years don’t stop after nursery.

and my point is that the years after nursery tend to be less expensive. That's all.

LighthouseLED · 25/11/2025 22:34

motherofbantams · 25/11/2025 22:32

So true - I am at the final stage of interview and they asked about salary….I said less so I could stay under the childcare threshold! So less tax for government as it happens also!

And this is a great example of why the policy makes absolutely no sense.

It must actually be costing the government in lost tax receipts and they don’t even get to save on paying the free childcare hours.

CryMyEyesViolet · 25/11/2025 22:35

Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:32

I don’t think this topic is going to be understood by people who pay lower income tax and receive the childcare support that I’m talking about. We pay £2k a month in nursery fees. This is something we all understand when we have children. My post is about how frustrating it is seeing that we may be due further tax rises when currently our taxes pay for other parents to receive tax free childcare. I am a primary school teacher. They say we have a teacher retention crisis. I had to consider whether it was even worth going back to work after my children due to the cost of childcare.

Well I earn around £120k and I’m also a landlord.

I’m disappointed they bottled the income tax increase as I can easily afford another couple of % tax (but would probably reduce my pension contribution to compensate).

And I’m not even close to being a middle earner - I’m probably in the top 5-10% of earners in the country.

I also don’t feel rich. I’m comfortable, have nice holidays and can save, but I’m by no means rich.

Fetaface · 25/11/2025 22:35

Christmaspuddingsss · 25/11/2025 22:09

The point is, free nursery places of 30 hours a week is not available if one parent earns over £100K even if the other parent earns £10K.

I know of people who ask for £99K and the rest as pension contributions because high earners get no free childcare or CB, even if they live in the SE where houses are crazy prices.

It's crazy because it limits ambition and their tax goes to people who can be very nicely off on £25K NET on benefits and get all the free stuff too.

Edited

And if that is so how does it land then on the lower earner to pay for it all which was the suggestion?

Crazy that in a marriage the one earning over 100k is the one refusing to pay a huge bill because they have a penis leaving it to the lower earner to pay it all because she has a vulva. Leading her to consider if work is viable or not.

Imagine that? A team working as a team. What a novel idea.

IntrinsicWorth · 25/11/2025 22:35

So utterly sick of this type of shit. And on the eve of the budget! I’m absolutely shocked 😂

Op, “you’re” doing really well despite having to pay nursery fees.

15 years ago when mine were babies there was literally nothing except paltry childcare vouchers and 15 hours at age 3, for 1.5 years before they started school.

I don’t doubt that there could be massive improvements in the targeting of state childcare and other financial support, but targeting comes with a big cost in means testing. That’s why the stupid high income child benefit charge has persisted despite penalising single parent households on more than £60k whereas a dual earner household can earn £120k per annum after pension deductions before paying a penny back

If you’re going to do a serious criticism of current childcare support and taxation regimes, then at least try and do some sort of analysis of who really stands to have the least money in their pockets. clue, it probably isn’t middle to high income dual earner couples!

Benjithedog · 25/11/2025 22:35

WinterHangingBasket · 25/11/2025 22:30

You must have had a larger than average family to have nursery fees over more than a decade. That is. result of choices you have made.

An assumption that is far from reality

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