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Middle earners punished

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Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:18

I am feeling so disheartened and frustrated by how middle earners are constantly suffering at the hands of ridiculous government priorities. My husband and I have a greater household income than other families we know but have less cash in hand due to increased taxes coupled with the fact we receive zero benefits like child benefit or tax free childcare etc. ZERO. If they want middle earners to fund the country thought tax then at least support us with childcare costs. It’s a joke that two parents earning £99k each get childcare funding but parents with one £101k salary and one £25k salary receive nothing. I just need to speak to people who understand the burden of raising a family amidst the current financial climate and then the potential of further tax rises!

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Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:51

Crikeyalmighty · 25/11/2025 21:49

I get you @Eucalyptus321 - and I’ve posted multiple times about it before , when we lived in Denmark tax was high, like very high indeed- not just for high earners- across the board but childcare was peanuts ( and good quality) and available to all at the same price, no council tax, no NI as such , so someone like yourself and your H might bring home a bit less than what you do now ( wages a little higher) but immediately save £1400 on childcare, £300 on council tax plus NI - and in these situations there were far more couples with kids working full time or as near as - this leads to higher tax take etc, etc -

Thank you for this comparison. Why did you move?
We have talked so much about moving out of the UK but weighing up the pros and cons everywhere else is hard!

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Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:53

LittleBearPad · 25/11/2025 21:48

He can put the excess over £100k in his pension and the tax free childcare will be available to you.

We looked at doing this when his salary went over the threshold but after doing that we would still have less a month which we really needed at the time. A few of our friends do this though. It’s a good idea.

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ZenNudist · 25/11/2025 21:53

The poor and the middle tear each other apart and blame each other. Meanwhile, the truly rich are getting richer, mainly off the backs of exploiting the poor and the middle.

Wake up! All governments serve the rich and oppress everyone else.

Hotflushesandchilblains · 25/11/2025 21:54

Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:32

I don’t think this topic is going to be understood by people who pay lower income tax and receive the childcare support that I’m talking about. We pay £2k a month in nursery fees. This is something we all understand when we have children. My post is about how frustrating it is seeing that we may be due further tax rises when currently our taxes pay for other parents to receive tax free childcare. I am a primary school teacher. They say we have a teacher retention crisis. I had to consider whether it was even worth going back to work after my children due to the cost of childcare.

Tax is never tit for tat. Some people at some time contribute more. Its not reasonable to compare like this - I might say I subsidize anyone who has children as my tax goes towards services which I will never use.

It can feel frustrating. But its always possible to find reasons why we should not pay so much/are worse off than others/etc etc etc.

AlexandraBee · 25/11/2025 21:54

Totally agree OP. The fact that a significant number of people in the UK are better off on benefits than they would be working, is ridiculous. The benefits bill is shocking. No one thinks people that need benefits shouldn’t get them, but so many benefit claimants are fraudulent.

The ‘0% fraud’ on PIP claim, is laughable. So i resent paying more and more to get less and less. Whereas others just get more - from what the squeezed middle keep giving.

And this Labour government seem intent on making the issue much worse, not better.

Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:54

Bagsintheboot · 25/11/2025 21:50

You're not being "punished". Stop with the needless emotive language and victim complex.

It's just how the system is. You might think it's rubbish, you might think it's unfair, and you might be right.

But you're not being "punished" FFS.

It’s just a title to start the conversation 😂

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WinterHangingBasket · 25/11/2025 21:55

ShesTheAlbatross · 25/11/2025 21:46

No, earnings in the top 5% of UK earnings cannot possibly fit a definition of “middle earners”. Unless you are counting the “middle” as anything from 2nd-98th percentile.

ETA - obviously I would not include someone on £100k as being in the top 1%. But it’s clearly nonsensical to say that the top 5% is in the middle.

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Quite.
As someone who does fall in that top 5%, there is no way I would have the brass neck to call myself a middle earner. I am not, I am a high earner. I am also a high tax payer, but only because of the former.

@HopSpringsEternal if your over £100k earning husband hasn't been paying more into his pension to bring his net taxable income below the threshold for tax free childcare, more fool him.

The 'downside' of earning well is that your expenditure tends to expand to fit your income, which is a diamond shoes dilemma. And while 100k is a great salary, it doesn't go as far as it used to. See also fiscal drag as a concept. Still doesn't make 100k a middle income.

80smonster · 25/11/2025 21:55

It’s a bullshit situation where working less is incentivised. Reduction in hours from high earners = growth slump. I’d advise anyone on the boundary to reduce their hours or shove into your pension. Giving more of your hard earned cash to Labour isn’t going solve anything, despite what they have promised.

Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:56

Hotflushesandchilblains · 25/11/2025 21:54

Tax is never tit for tat. Some people at some time contribute more. Its not reasonable to compare like this - I might say I subsidize anyone who has children as my tax goes towards services which I will never use.

It can feel frustrating. But its always possible to find reasons why we should not pay so much/are worse off than others/etc etc etc.

I agree with this to be fair. It’s just frustrating to get pay rises at work and not see any of it.

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Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:53

We looked at doing this when his salary went over the threshold but after doing that we would still have less a month which we really needed at the time. A few of our friends do this though. It’s a good idea.

It wouldn’t be less unless he was earning over around £125k. I think it’s a good thing it’s capped for one person. For women anyway. It encourages women to stay in their jobs and progress their career and the man can look to make sacrifices such as working fewer hours etc. It’s always women who have to compromise as the men say their big jobs are too important to look to reduce anything. Not all men obviously as my husband isn’t like that and has adjusted accordingly.

AlexandraBee · 25/11/2025 21:56

Everyone needs to pay more. Not just people earning over a certain amount. It’d be fairer if income tax was raised for all workers. That’s people who work. From 12k upwards. Everybody pay more tax. For the good of the everybody else.

About time benefits were taxed too.

Goldbar31 · 25/11/2025 21:56

We are in the same position. With a mortgage and two children in nursery, it still feels tight!

Tigerbalmshark · 25/11/2025 21:56

GrandmasCat · 25/11/2025 21:36

Live within your means, woman. I live in a very expensive area where a student bedroom is rented for over £1k a month yet I have a beautiful house and a very good life as I keep an eye on my finances and don’t spend my money in crap.

Ex-council three bedroom terraces go for over a million around here. A “beautiful” house would start at £2.5m. Nobody is affording that by cutting out lattes FFS.

You clearly either earn extremely well, or bought 30 years ago when prices were cheaper. Or you don’t actually live in a particularly expensive area.

Benjithedog · 25/11/2025 21:57

autumngirl714 · 25/11/2025 21:42

Trust me, OP — being at the bottom of the pecking order is absolutely horrendous too.

I work, and I’m a single mum. And I really want to emphasise what that actually means: inconsistent and limited childcare, a one-adult household, and a one-income household. I’m on my own. There’s nobody to turn to in desperation and nobody to share the load when things get overwhelming.

My wage and the small top-up of Universal Credit don’t cover my outgoings. I live a very limited life because I simply can’t afford anything extra. No holidays, no treats for myself — every penny goes on bills, my children, and trying to keep my car going. I have nothing left at the end of the month and I’m constantly in the red.

The problem with UC aswell is that it creates a poverty loop. The more you earn, the less you get. Which yes, does make sense. But it also means I have to earn SIGNIFICANTLY more to get any real benifit (once you’ve also considered extra costs to be able to work more).

The idea that people on benefits are “rolling in it” is a complete myth, and the stigma around it is really unfair and inaccurate.

I’m sorry to hear about your situation and I do understand your frustrations, but please don’t assume that those of us on benefits are any better off.

Do you work full time and is your ex supporting his children?

motherofbantams · 25/11/2025 21:57

We are in the same boat. Have decided not to have a second child as we just cannot afford it :(

youalright · 25/11/2025 21:58

But nursery fees are only for a few years then you will be significantly better off. Poor people will still be poor

Hotflushesandchilblains · 25/11/2025 21:58

ZenNudist · 25/11/2025 21:53

The poor and the middle tear each other apart and blame each other. Meanwhile, the truly rich are getting richer, mainly off the backs of exploiting the poor and the middle.

Wake up! All governments serve the rich and oppress everyone else.

Yes with bells on!!!! I saw something today which really shocked me. If you count back a million minutes from now, it would take you to the beginning of 2023. If you counted a billion, it would take you back to the Roman Empire. The wealth divide is horrifying.

Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:58

WinterHangingBasket · 25/11/2025 21:55

Quite.
As someone who does fall in that top 5%, there is no way I would have the brass neck to call myself a middle earner. I am not, I am a high earner. I am also a high tax payer, but only because of the former.

@HopSpringsEternal if your over £100k earning husband hasn't been paying more into his pension to bring his net taxable income below the threshold for tax free childcare, more fool him.

The 'downside' of earning well is that your expenditure tends to expand to fit your income, which is a diamond shoes dilemma. And while 100k is a great salary, it doesn't go as far as it used to. See also fiscal drag as a concept. Still doesn't make 100k a middle income.

Yes I was reading about fiscal drag earlier.

Apologies to everyone that I used the the word middle when you believe it’s high. Where we live our life is quite “middle” so apologies that it wasn’t the correct term to use in a general/proper sense.

Families here can afford to go on holiday every half term, have new cars, etc. Perhaps I’m looking forward to my children not being in nursery so we can afford that too!

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Americasfavouritefightingfrenchman · 25/11/2025 21:59

Beddiem · 25/11/2025 21:43

But those on this thread think those on £100k must be minted because they cannot fathom how much tax those on £100k are paying. We earn well over and can’t afford £150 theatre tickets. My pensioner parents can easily however…

No they are simply stating a fact that 100k isn’t a middle income. Median income in the UK last year was approximately £37.5k and mean was approximately £42.2k

There are lots of ridiculous tax rules. Losing access to free hours and tax free childcare entirely at an arbitrary point is particularly ludicrous. It doesn’t seem like it’s ever going to encourage behaviour that’s good for the overall economy and it should be changed.

That said anyone who is losing access to free childcare because their salary went up to £101 or £105 or even £110k is a bit foolish really. For the relatively short time kids are in expensive childcare you could negotiate a drop to working 90% or put more money in your pension (likely worth it even if you end up with a tax charge for exceeding your allowance).

AlexandraBee · 25/11/2025 22:01

ZenNudist · 25/11/2025 21:53

The poor and the middle tear each other apart and blame each other. Meanwhile, the truly rich are getting richer, mainly off the backs of exploiting the poor and the middle.

Wake up! All governments serve the rich and oppress everyone else.

Well that is 💯 true.. what to do about it?

Benjithedog · 25/11/2025 22:01

ShesTheAlbatross · 25/11/2025 21:46

No, earnings in the top 5% of UK earnings cannot possibly fit a definition of “middle earners”. Unless you are counting the “middle” as anything from 2nd-98th percentile.

ETA - obviously I would not include someone on £100k as being in the top 1%. But it’s clearly nonsensical to say that the top 5% is in the middle.

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It’s not actually

Skippydoodle · 25/11/2025 22:02

It’s all out of kilter. My son (19) lives at home, works hard & pays his own way. His best mate & girlfriend have had a child at 17. They have been given a lovely house & generous benefits. They want for nothing, and have no need or incentive to work.

Hdpr · 25/11/2025 22:02

Agree that the problem is not the comparison between the lower and middle earners.. it’s the super rich getting richer by the second and paying no tax

Benjithedog · 25/11/2025 22:02

LittleBearPad · 25/11/2025 21:48

He can put the excess over £100k in his pension and the tax free childcare will be available to you.

You w still got to pay for it!

Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 22:02

Prelim · 25/11/2025 21:56

It wouldn’t be less unless he was earning over around £125k. I think it’s a good thing it’s capped for one person. For women anyway. It encourages women to stay in their jobs and progress their career and the man can look to make sacrifices such as working fewer hours etc. It’s always women who have to compromise as the men say their big jobs are too important to look to reduce anything. Not all men obviously as my husband isn’t like that and has adjusted accordingly.

I have to disagree with this because the reason they would’ve put this original threshold in place is due to people thinking “oh if one of you earns over 100k then the other one doesn’t need to work” never mind that we bloody want to

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