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Middle earners punished

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Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 21:18

I am feeling so disheartened and frustrated by how middle earners are constantly suffering at the hands of ridiculous government priorities. My husband and I have a greater household income than other families we know but have less cash in hand due to increased taxes coupled with the fact we receive zero benefits like child benefit or tax free childcare etc. ZERO. If they want middle earners to fund the country thought tax then at least support us with childcare costs. It’s a joke that two parents earning £99k each get childcare funding but parents with one £101k salary and one £25k salary receive nothing. I just need to speak to people who understand the burden of raising a family amidst the current financial climate and then the potential of further tax rises!

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ErhManGah · 26/11/2025 09:41

Croakymccroakyvoice · 26/11/2025 09:27

Also, if someone has wealth of £33 billion and they pay £1 billion in tax it will make absolutely no difference to their life whatsoever. They will make it back passively (untaxed) easily.

Do you think they have £33bn or £1bn just sitting around in cash?

I'd rather have billionaires run their companies and/or invest in new ones.

chipsticksmammy · 26/11/2025 09:43

MintDog · 25/11/2025 22:51

Don't know if this is still the case but 20 years ago I worked in retail. I was recruiting for a full time supervisor and wanted one of my decent PT members of staff to apply. She point blank refused. Said she would be signifiantly worst off financially. I didn't believe her and kept on at her. In the end she told me what she earnt a month with the PT wage she received and her benefits on top.

I earned £2k a month as a manager. She was taking home more than me. Why on earth would she up her hours and reduce her free time to earn less?

That's a true story. Like I said, not sure if it's still the case.

I well believe these examples, I have several people in my team refuse promotions or extra hours as it impacts things like child benefit, tax codes, UC etc etc.

Boohoo76 · 26/11/2025 09:44

Maybeishouldcrochet · 26/11/2025 09:40

So yes I am a middle earner. (55k) A year. Live in the west midlands. Have a hubby who is staying at home and has a little pip money coming in and a daughter. And we manage with going out for dinner twice a month, and spend a lot on personal trainers. I am not in the least but bothered about having to pay more tax. As lots around us are struggling...
When she was at nursery we paid for a few full days a week and still managed
I wonder if it's people not living within their means- I have moved a few hours from family so I can afford a decent lifestyle. We own outright a 4 bed worth 300k so only have a mortgage on a second house (£700) per month. We don't do expensive holidays but a week or two in the UK a year....

Well there’s your answer. You are mortgage free on a cheap four bed house. £300k wouldn’t even buy a two bed terrace where I live! Plus you have the benefit of two homes!

And moving areas is not possible for everyone due to work and family commitments. Also, if everyone moves, the houses where they moved to would become just as expensive.

BringBackCatsEyes · 26/11/2025 09:45

Benjithedog · 26/11/2025 09:36

The welfare system actually worked as it should in your case then as it supported you whilst you got back on your feet and found another job which you did. Then I presume you came off benefits. What’s interesting to me is that there seems to be a lot of lone parents here without any mention of what the fathers do to support their children. This is the problem the government should be looking at because they are allowing feckless father’s off the hook from their financial responsibilities meaning the taxpayer has to pick up the slack for them.

No, I didn't actually need to claim UC, I found work before my £ ran out.
UC would not have been enough to allow me to pay my mortgage and support my son, so I'm thankful I have found work.
My child's father does support his child. He does not earn very much (I was always the higher earner) but the government has let him off the hook and taxes are not supporting my son any more than a child with 2 parents at home.

Klipspringer · 26/11/2025 09:45

BIossomtoes · 26/11/2025 09:34

A tiny percentage of the population chooses to pay school fees thus paying more tax and frankly those of us who don’t are sick of hearing about it. I personally am paying exactly the same proportion in tax as I did in December 2023.

I am sorry that you are ‘sick of hearing about it’.

I am otherwise glad that you have not been fiscally impacted by Labour.

Many posters on MN have been adversely impacted however, and they have a voice.

BIossomtoes · 26/11/2025 09:47

Klipspringer · 26/11/2025 09:45

I am sorry that you are ‘sick of hearing about it’.

I am otherwise glad that you have not been fiscally impacted by Labour.

Many posters on MN have been adversely impacted however, and they have a voice.

They’re choosing to be adversely impacted.

Nimbus3000 · 26/11/2025 09:48

Boohoo76 · 26/11/2025 09:15

Yes and a lot of them will be receiving UC towards their childcare and housing and/or living in low cost social housing. If you pay for everything yourself, you need a significant income. Some of my colleagues are paying up to £3k in childcare for ONE child.

£3k on childcare is a choice. I don't deny childcare in London is expansive, but that's double the maximum we've ever paid for FT childcare.

Our household income is £75k; edge zone 2 in London. We own a mortgaged 2 bed with garden, own a car, 1-2 holidays abroad and UK trips. We received child benefit and tax free childcare but no other benefits.

We are not big spenders overall and not particularly interested in "lifestyle" commodities, which are Imo what cost. We do however spend a lot compared to others we know on food, energy and other household items because we choose to use more sustainable products.

I know we are comfortably off and the blanket assertions that people on our income are either in receipt of benefits or find it impossible to live in London are inaccurate.

This is also in response to @Baconbuttymad and @BringBackCatsEyes

LookingforMaryPoppins · 26/11/2025 09:49

Eucalyptus321 · 25/11/2025 23:05

I think you need to reread the post. Then read the thread. Then do some online reading into tax brackets, childcare costs, etc.

And here lies the problem!

A large proportion of the population base their opinions upon limited facts rather than taking the time to research and form an opinion based on all of the relevant facts / the full picture.

The 100k cliffhanger is ridiculous, removes incentive and stifles growth. Anyone who educates themselves as to how it works in practice would see that - in simple terms it's a fact not an opinion.

The comment above indicating that anyone on 100k plus is expecting to be subsidised by tax payers is laughable and is an excellent example of the above. The 100k plus salaries ARE the net contributors, it's not expecting the tax payer (them) to subsidise them, it's pointing out the FACT that without the actual problem being addressed, working is disincentivised. Instead, there is an incentive to work less to take home more - this both loses the country money in tax receipts and costs the country money in the childcare benefit.

A policy that has the consequence of a net contributor contributing less in tax and taking more in benefits in order to take home more personally each month is utter madness!

Klipspringer · 26/11/2025 09:49

BIossomtoes · 26/11/2025 09:47

They’re choosing to be adversely impacted.

Choosing to be impacted? How do you conclude that?

I am not just referring to VAT on school fees.

BlakeCarrington · 26/11/2025 09:50

Happyhousehappyheart · 25/11/2025 21:24

🥱 Hi Nigel

Aren’t you embarrassed to post such a lame response, particularly on this budget day when the OP’s burden will be increased due to Labour’s ongoing incompetence.

Benjithedog · 26/11/2025 09:50

MaturingCheeseball · 26/11/2025 09:05

Dh lost his job last year. He was treated with contempt at the job centre. Someone with blue hair and a pride lanyard curled their lip at him and made sneery comments. Dh said he was seeing headhunters and they mimicked, “Ooh headhunters “. Dh was quite upset. They should have shaken his hand and thanked him for 35 years of tax paying!

I hope he’s been successful in securing a new role

EasternStandard · 26/11/2025 09:51

Klipspringer · 26/11/2025 09:45

I am sorry that you are ‘sick of hearing about it’.

I am otherwise glad that you have not been fiscally impacted by Labour.

Many posters on MN have been adversely impacted however, and they have a voice.

Yep. There’s not many left who don’t feel as the op does.

Beddiem · 26/11/2025 09:52

LookingforMaryPoppins · 26/11/2025 09:49

And here lies the problem!

A large proportion of the population base their opinions upon limited facts rather than taking the time to research and form an opinion based on all of the relevant facts / the full picture.

The 100k cliffhanger is ridiculous, removes incentive and stifles growth. Anyone who educates themselves as to how it works in practice would see that - in simple terms it's a fact not an opinion.

The comment above indicating that anyone on 100k plus is expecting to be subsidised by tax payers is laughable and is an excellent example of the above. The 100k plus salaries ARE the net contributors, it's not expecting the tax payer (them) to subsidise them, it's pointing out the FACT that without the actual problem being addressed, working is disincentivised. Instead, there is an incentive to work less to take home more - this both loses the country money in tax receipts and costs the country money in the childcare benefit.

A policy that has the consequence of a net contributor contributing less in tax and taking more in benefits in order to take home more personally each month is utter madness!

Edited

Don’t come on here with your intelligent analysis and facts. People far prefer to imagine those who earn high wages deserve to have all of their money confiscated and given rags to wear.

Klipspringer · 26/11/2025 09:52

EasternStandard · 26/11/2025 09:51

Yep. There’s not many left who don’t feel as the op does.

Very strange logic…and

’I’m alright Jack’

MidnightPatrol · 26/11/2025 09:52

Fupoffyagrasshole · 26/11/2025 09:26

can you work less to take your pay down below the 100 -- need less childcare money and you'll get free hours.

We both dropped to a 4 day week so only need 3 days nursery now and get 30 funded hours and taxfree childcare as a result!

And then we go ‘why have we got a productivity issue in the UK?’

Allthings · 26/11/2025 09:52

Welikebeingcosy · 26/11/2025 09:32

The thing is though, you could compare your income to someone working part time and getting benefits for three children, but eventually those children will grow up and that income will drop significantly and that single parent likely won't have had the flexibility to climb up the ladder in their career, plus they won't have been paying as much into their pensions. They won't receive anything from the government at that point, and if they're in a housing association house will have to downsize or pay full rent on a bigger property for one person on a lower income than you. They also won't have any savings as it's not allowed on universal credit. So it's all relative.

There are many working enough hours to get UC and living in their own homes. As the child/children get older (more likely towards secondary school age) they will eventually increase their hours, but in the meantime they are keeping on the career ladder, paying into their occupational pension scheme and spending time with their offspring. They benefit from all of the freebies which come with being on UC from free dental care, free prescriptions, childcare, free school meals, help with energy bills and so the list goes on. All of the freebies add up and they can end up better off financially than someone working full time with a modest income. They can have savings of up to £6,000k which is allowed with UC.

I have known a number over the years, and currently, who refuse to work more hours as they would be worse off than on UC and they feel they can make things up further down the line as they have remained in their professional occupation. They appear to have not fear that they won’t be able to climb the career ladder further down the line, although not contributing as much into their occupations pension appears to cause a bit of concern when they have been working part time for over 5 years.

Whilst we do need a safety net for all sorts of circumstances, using UC as a lifestyle choice is problematic for a lot of people especially when they are working full time and are either worse off or feel worse off than someone on benefits.

tramtracks · 26/11/2025 09:55

Elsvieta · 26/11/2025 09:18

Only one person in seven earns £50k or more. So that's still not the middle. And £100k is top 4%.

Wondering whether those posting statements such as ‘grow up’ should in fact ‘grow up’

EasternStandard · 26/11/2025 09:55

Klipspringer · 26/11/2025 09:52

Very strange logic…and

’I’m alright Jack’

As much as some might be happy about people being pissed off Labour still need votes.

A few going on about how much more tax they want to pay, they usually mean someone else anyway, won’t do it.

MidnightPatrol · 26/11/2025 09:55

Nimbus3000 · 26/11/2025 09:48

£3k on childcare is a choice. I don't deny childcare in London is expansive, but that's double the maximum we've ever paid for FT childcare.

Our household income is £75k; edge zone 2 in London. We own a mortgaged 2 bed with garden, own a car, 1-2 holidays abroad and UK trips. We received child benefit and tax free childcare but no other benefits.

We are not big spenders overall and not particularly interested in "lifestyle" commodities, which are Imo what cost. We do however spend a lot compared to others we know on food, energy and other household items because we choose to use more sustainable products.

I know we are comfortably off and the blanket assertions that people on our income are either in receipt of benefits or find it impossible to live in London are inaccurate.

This is also in response to @Baconbuttymad and @BringBackCatsEyes

When did you buy your house and how much for, because a house in zone 2 on £75k doesn’t sound very realistic.

I live in London and our local nursery go from £2.2k - £2.5k for a baby now.

Three years ago, they were £1.8k - £2k.

There will no doubt be another increase in January, as there is every year.

So you see how the cost has rocketed at the same time as childcare subsidies coming in - the excluded parent penalised twice.

tramtracks · 26/11/2025 09:56

newbluesofa · 26/11/2025 09:23

Whenever wealth taxes are brought up someone with an inflated ego comes along to say 'but I made all my money with hard work'. We're not talking about you, you're not rich enough

Who are you talking about - where’s the line?

Boohoo76 · 26/11/2025 09:56

Nimbus3000 · 26/11/2025 09:48

£3k on childcare is a choice. I don't deny childcare in London is expansive, but that's double the maximum we've ever paid for FT childcare.

Our household income is £75k; edge zone 2 in London. We own a mortgaged 2 bed with garden, own a car, 1-2 holidays abroad and UK trips. We received child benefit and tax free childcare but no other benefits.

We are not big spenders overall and not particularly interested in "lifestyle" commodities, which are Imo what cost. We do however spend a lot compared to others we know on food, energy and other household items because we choose to use more sustainable products.

I know we are comfortably off and the blanket assertions that people on our income are either in receipt of benefits or find it impossible to live in London are inaccurate.

This is also in response to @Baconbuttymad and @BringBackCatsEyes

Well you might be suprised at how much costs have increased. I paid £1k 10 years ago. It’s now over £2k for the same nursery and that’s one of the cheapest around here 40 miles from London. The problem is that once you earn over £100k you don’t get any subsidiaries such as the tax free childcare or free hours (apart from 15 hours for over 3’s) and you end up subsidising everyone else as the nurseries have put their fees up dramatically to cover the shortfall in Government funding. With your household income, your fees would be subsidised.

Pickledpoppetpickle · 26/11/2025 09:56

chipsticksmammy · 26/11/2025 09:43

I well believe these examples, I have several people in my team refuse promotions or extra hours as it impacts things like child benefit, tax codes, UC etc etc.

and yet it's ok for the well off to reduce their tax payments to gain support with childcare? put more in their pensions to gain access to childcare support?

Benjithedog · 26/11/2025 09:57

Missohnoyoubetterdont · 26/11/2025 09:18

How do you think we should find the money to psy for essential public services then? I’m sorry but I just think these posts about being punished for paying g tax when you are earning amazing amounts of money are just not operating in the real world. I’m sure you all have food in the table, nice houses, nice cars, can afford good quality clothes. But apologies about the £150 theatre tickets. Must be devastating. People cut their cloth accordingly usually and I’m pretty sure you are not shopping in aldi at that wage bracket. Once they are out of nursery things will get better, it’s a tough time for all parents. This too shall pass.

You are making one hell of an assumption there which is not rooted in any fact

AntiHop · 26/11/2025 09:57

Your husband earns over 100k. That makes him in the top 4% of earners in the uk. If you're struggling, imagine what it's like for the rest of us.

If you want to blame someone, blame the super rich who are not paying their fair share, or the corporations for not paying their tax.

Don't blame the 96% of people earning less than your husband.

Benjithedog · 26/11/2025 10:01

Welikebeingcosy · 26/11/2025 09:32

The thing is though, you could compare your income to someone working part time and getting benefits for three children, but eventually those children will grow up and that income will drop significantly and that single parent likely won't have had the flexibility to climb up the ladder in their career, plus they won't have been paying as much into their pensions. They won't receive anything from the government at that point, and if they're in a housing association house will have to downsize or pay full rent on a bigger property for one person on a lower income than you. They also won't have any savings as it's not allowed on universal credit. So it's all relative.

Sorry but where is the father in all this?

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