To think Adult wishlists for Birthdays or Christmas are quite cheeky

[GrabbyCF]

What do you think of adults sending wishlists for Birthdays and Christmas?

DH's cousin just sent her mother's (DH's aunt) list for her birthday. Then she suggested that DH and BIL and SIL get the most expensive item - a yoga mat that costs over a £100.

Thankfully, I’ve finally persuaded family not to do presents and we all just chip in for food and drinks and have a big feast instead.

But, before that we’d do lists for immediate family because otherwise it was a nightmare working out what everyone might want and not have. List would have a range of things and there was no expectation of anything particularly expensive to be bought.

I think it’s kind of cheeky when it’s not immediate family and they’re pushing you to buy really expensive stuff though!

Very cheeky. I just don’t get the obsession from adults with their birthdays never mind asking for presents. Crazy people!

I don't really see how it's different to telling someone what you'd like...?
My family and friends always ask "What do you want for Christmas?" That way you get what you want, and not a load of junk!

I have a wish list because I’m fussy but I only give it to people if they ask.

She doesn't always send DH a present and if she does it's maximum £10.

She sometimes sends DH a cheap present. She has never sent me anything.

That's different to my scenario. The daughter is practically demanding DH and his siblings buy the most expensive gift on the list.

While she would complain if DH sent a list, usually buys him something cheap.

Exactly. It forces people to disclose indirectly their financial status which is awful.
That said if a parent asks their adult child what they'd like, no harm in giving a choice of a few things. My DP like ideas that give them leeway for kids (like a hoodie in size 5 years old) that allows them to pick and for me a link on amazon! I ask for something that o would have bought, so save a bit of money by getting it as a gift.

When asked to make a list for wider family, I try to include things that can be bought at any price like shower gel, to avoid causing anyone discomfort.

Practical, probably. We’ve been saying for years that we don’t want anything but people buy us stuff anyway. Might as well be something you can use.

Your DH's family are cheeky, not the sharing of lists. Why is he so scared of them that he can't say what needs to be said?

We all have them on our family. It works for us.

its what we do and we are very happy with them

I’ve just sent this link to my sons. I don’t think it’s very expensive, and I’d use it when I’m camping, so surely it’s better they buy that than something I wouldn’t use?

If the aunt is a cheapskate when it comes to buying for you, don't get her what she wants! Just say "Oops too late" to the daughter and send her a 99p card and a box of maltesers ...

We have Giftster for our family. It's not mandatory but is useful when everyone is busy to have ideas and suggestions of where to buy things.