Am I unreasonable to stop my mum helping me with driving the kids to school

[Kpiallo]

Am I unreasonable to stop my mum helping me with driving the kids to school?

A couple of mornings when she has come round to pick up some of my kids to drop them at school, whilst I take one to nursery, I have smelt alcohol on her. I do think she has a drinking problem, she doesn’t think so.

I smelt it this morning and said I appreciate her help I desperately need it, but I can’t let her drive my kids when I can smell alcohol on her like that.

She says she wouldn’t be over the limit if she was tested, but I’m thinking if I can smell it it her then surely that would be over the limit.

AIBU?

Of course she shouldn’t be driving them, or herself! Is she saying she had one drink in the morning or it’s left over from the night before? Personally, I’d buy a cheap breathalyser (if they exist, I think they do) to prove my point and hopefully scare her into realising what she’s doing.

I wouldn’t take the chance!!

My thinking exactly. She drove to my house and she shouldn’t have. It scares me that she’s willing to drive my kids like that and isn’t even concerned, just acting like I’m making it out to be a big issue.

She has said she won’t drink the night before taking them to school but I don’t trust her.

I’m glad you agree, I don’t think it’s worth it either! Not when it comes to my kids.

So she drove to your house and then you smelt alcohol on her? Please report her.

She says she wouldn’t be over the limit

Idgaf if she thinks she would be over the limit. You've drank, I dont want my kids in the car with anyone who had consumed alcohol.

Make alternate arrangements for transport. Remove the option. Its not for debate. He doesnt drive the kids from this point. Period. No debate.

Does she actually want to drive the kids to school? How did this come about?

Your mum is an alcoholic and cannot be trusted to drive your children or look after them. The fact that she argued she wouldn't be over the limit is simply confirmation that she's an alcoholic in denial. I would tell her no more helping with the children and that if she drink drives again, you will report her. And mean it. She could kill someone.

That was my thinking, but she swears blind it’s just because she drank last night. But obviously if you can smell it, she must have drank a lot and isn’t safe to drive.

Theres no getting through to her so thats why I said she won’t be driving them anymore.

Cant you just drop off the younger one at nursery after the school kids?

Come on. You smell alcohol on her. If she’s not safe to drive your children, what about everyone else’s children walking?

Again, please report her.

Awkward as hell, but could you get some home tests. If you can smell it she’s definitely over the limit imo. Also I’ve noticed with my elderly mum it seems to take her a lot longer to process the alcohol than it used to.

She shouldn't be driving hungover, even if she's no longer over the limit. So no I wouldn't let her drive your child anywhere. Aside from at the least, if she is involved in an accident and at the very least she was breathalysed. You would maybe have to answer some tough questions as a parent.

It's not worth it.

I voted YABU because I can’t believe you even have to ask that question.

So did I.

Have you lost your mind?

Absolutely no chance. Imagine something happened. You’d never forgive yourself.

Well if she’s under the limit she’s got nothing to worry about if they breathalyse her.

She doesn't drive your kids until she's done an alcohol program and has at the very least a year of sobriety.

She's risking you and your children's lives along with anyone else on the road. Impaired drivers hurt and maim people for life all the time.

I'd report her, she shouldn't be driving at all.

Oh my god, never let her drive your children - or hopefully anyone!

It's not only driving that's the issue!

If you think she's driving while drunk you really need to report her before she hurts herself or even worse someone else.

She needs help.

You were only being unreasonable if you let them go with her having suspicions. She could kill someone.

The smell of booze on someone's breath isn't necessarily an indicator that they're still over the limit, as the smell will vary depending on what they've been drinking and there are various other factors.

However, I certainly wouldn't put kids in a car with someone who stank of booze! Not in a million years.

Even if she wasn't over the limit, she's not exactly going to be in a great state, is she? I'd assume she was hungover and knackered.

YABU to even be in doubt about this. Wow.

That would be a hard no from me! I’d rather offend her and hurt her feelings than bury my children, so no thanks..I’d make alternative arrangements and get her help because it’s one thing to hurt/kill oneself while drink driving but she could hurt others and potentially kill.