Not to go on this weekend away ?

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Booked a last min two night trip next weekend
Booked Krakow and they were £30 each (me and partner )
Excited at first but then adding everything up
Hotel is £180 each
Uber to airport £50 each way
spending money £200 each
Then a drink in airport
So your looking at £430 plus £45 to choose plane seats as I’m scared of flying so that’s £480 ish
This close to Christmas
We literally live month to month
We don’t have savings etc
We do normally have around £1300 disposable income after bills but we never save and also our food comes out of this too.

Sensible me is thinking loose £30
What would you do?

No, you'd be absolutely mad to go. It'll be more expensive than you think (I know that because you're clearly very impulsive so will spend more!) and it's just not worth it.

Why on earth are you spending money on staying in hotels near to your own home?

You need to dump that boyfriend, OP. If he's spending that amount on gambling now, it'll definitely get worse. You'll be paying for absolutely everything and then he'll be stealing from you, too.

I have told him when he gets paid to either bank transfer to me or withdraw it and keep it in his wallet ,his logic is if bills are paid then he can spend his money on whatever .
So obviously then my money pays for everything
last month I had to pay his bus fares to work as he spent every penny he had in the first week.
I know I’m not the best with money but I budget enough and can put money away etc

Sounds like someone you need to get rid of. He's irresponsible, a burden and a financial liability.

Why get an Uber from the airport, just take the bus, that’s why I did when I went to Krakow. Also if you’re afraid of flying you definitely don’t need a drink at the airport unless it’s non alcoholic.

To have to pay your partner's bus fares because he gambles £500+ away is insanity.

Lose the £30 and lose the boyfriend

if he is a drain on you now it will only get worse

gambling destroys lives

Absolutely love Krakow, it’s potentially my favourite city on earth so I may be biased but I’d find a way to go. You do not need an uber, you could get a train or bus so that’s a big saving. Also don’t think you need £400 spending money between you personally. The food is generally well priced.

She could go by herself and that might make the uber more affordable

Is this the sort of man you thought you'd end up with, OP? You're paying for his bus fares like he's your teenage son. He's spending hundreds of pounds on gambling, knowing you'll bail him out. Is this what you want in your life? He's happy as anything, living like he has no worries as he'll guilt trip you into paying for him. Are you happy?

Don't bail him out, and tell him in advance that if he doesn't save enough to cover all his expenses for the whole month he's on his own. He will soon learn to save if he has to spend a few weeks walking to work.

Well I was all set to say go, do it on the cheap, have a lovely time. Then I read your update about the gambling! Ditch the loser and go with a friend.

Well NOT obviously, is it? I mean, it’s not written in stone that it should be thus.
Why should you be underwriting his gambling addiction ?
He sounds like a liability now, and sure as eggs is eggs, this will get very much worse.

Easily done OP, you acted on impulse. Best to unwind this now and remember to think and discuss before booking future trips.

To be fair… the boyfriend didn’t actually want to go on this trip.

The OP just went ahead regardless

He wasn’t no,as we have a holiday for June booked for next year (paying monthly ) so has said to just look forward to this..we are going to London for a night after Xmas too so he says to just save for that…like I say I thought wow £30 and jumped in head first

but then making out he’s the one crap with money

He’s the one that spends hundreds of pounds on online slots not me.
It wasn’t because of other holidays why he didn’t want to go …he says that but in reality it’s because he knows it will eat into his gambling money.

I think you have a bigger problem than the cost of a weekend city break. Your boyfriend appears to have a serious gambling problem.

Ok it’s all a bit of a shit show

So he has a gambling problem and you spend all your money on nights away and covering him when he’s run out of money. I think you both need to have a serious talk about what you want your future to look like. Do you want to buy a house? Have kids? Have savings? Or not and spend it all every month (which is actually fine if you don’t want those other things).

Dump him, take a friend to Krakow.

Absolutely cancel it. Anyone who has spare money every month and no savings needs to make a radical change. Set up a new account, send 500 into it. You can let yourself use 250 for Christmas. In Jan send 300. You’ll have savings before you know it.

I would go. But I would look at cheaper hotel options you only need a clean b and b to rest your head nothing wild. And you can save money by train/bus to airport etc. and 200 for 2 nights in krakow would be eating like a king! Doable on less

hmmm and dump the gambler.

I would also make him send me the money (400 extra) on payday so you don’t end up paying