DD upset with me Who is being unreasonable

[ML5]

DD22 on FaceTime with her BF messages me for toast. DH then presents me with lots of cups/plates from upstairs AFTER I finish kitchen which naturally I was not happy about so started shouting out of frustration. DD then starts shouting about me shouting to DH about making her the toast to and not to bother making her one so we end up arguing ourselves. Am I being unreasonable to think that seeing as I work full time that everyone is responsible for making their own after dinner snacks and not leaving cups/plates upstairs and presenting them to me late at night?

Messages you for toast?! Unless she's bed bound due to disability that's absolutely fucking preposterous.

Why on earth have you allowed your husband and kids to treat you like a doormat?

She's a cheeky mare. No way would I have expected DM to do that for me. She's 22! and needs to get off her backside if she wants anything. Very disrespectful.

I don’t think I know anyone in real life who doesn’t ever shout 😂

Why does you DD need toast after she’s had dinner? Why are people eating upstairs? Why can’t your DH clean the plates himself?

Stop being a doormat and put some rules in place - you’re being walked all over and allowing it only perpetuates it.