To call out my SIL for saying she preferred children when they are weakened by illness?

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My SIL has always been a bit strange. She has 1 child, which she had later in life.
She was having a conversation online with a relative whose kids were poorly, when she made the comment.
I reacted by saying that's sick.

Am I being unreasonable, or do you find the comment really weird?

'Call out' when I see people say this to me it is code for ''people have to think and act the way I demand they do" it all seems very controlling

And how is her age and having one child relevant to this?

Exactly. OP makes it sound like her SIL is about to become the next Dee Dee Blanchard or something.

I’m sorry for your loss.

YABU to police what other people say.

Maybe she is a compulsive caretaker have you heard of Munchheusens by proxy?

Sounds like a joke, like that calpol advert which showed children making a mess etc and the tagline was something like “calpol helps get your kids back to being themselves. Sorry.”

It depends on what she actually said. My 4 year old daughter had a cold last weekend and instead of saying 'mammy' 5000 times, messing up the house and fighting with her 1 year old brother she sat and watched TV. I actually got a lot of things done around the house that needed doing.

I mean, I used to secretly enjoy it when my eldest was unwell as he would sit quietly and cuddle me, it was nice.

Obviously I wouldn't want him to be seriously ill! But I thought that feeling was pretty common tbh.

I've taken that as she finds most kids too energetic? Which to be fair, they are 🤣

I’ve actually told my youngest DS (18 now) who has ADHD that it was a welcome relief when he was ill ( not really ill obvs just under the weather) as it was the only time I got any peace. He laughed and said “yeah I get that”

I secretly enjoy a day snuggling and watching Disney films, eating ice cream with my son. At no other time, other than when he's unwell, can we do that. He's got too much energy and a short attention span usually.

Maybe she was alluding to that kind of thing. Weakened by illness is a strange way of putting it though.

Adults shouldn’t “call out” other adults over trivial.

I'm would assume she was joking....

Waits for drip feed that OP is Autistic and so took what SIL said literally.

I don't think OP is ever coming back 🤔

Nobody wants to see their child seriously ill. But there is something nice about being able to cuddle and mother them for a bit.