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To have completely misunderstood the meaning of some sayings?

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KermitTheToad · 18/11/2025 20:53

I only found out today that the term Social Butterfly refers to someone who is outgoing and loves social events. I thought it meant you didn't like social events, as in you would fly away and avoid them. I also until recently thought that a Spendthrift is somebody who is frugal in their spending. I assumed that as thrifty meant not being wasteful, that Spendthrift meant being careful in what you spent.
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Leavesfalling · 19/11/2025 14:03

Kbroughton · 19/11/2025 13:44

Yep!In many different forums including professional setting over the years :D

I used to pronounce archipelago as arr...chip..a..lago and its still hard to stop myself.

realsavagelike · 19/11/2025 14:13

Kreepture · 19/11/2025 10:13

thrift originates from the phrase 'to thrive' and means wealth.

thrifty means being careful with money.

They're not the same word and don't have the same meaning.

Renders the term 'thrift store' pretty silly, thinking about it

DuchessofStaffordshire · 19/11/2025 14:14

I remember singing along to Message in a Bottle back in the day, naively thinking that Sting was sending an SOS to the moon.
It wasn't until years later that the futility of sending an SOS to the moon dawned on me.

CatHairEveryWhereNow · 19/11/2025 14:18

Kbroughton · 19/11/2025 13:46

One my DD used to sing 'Who built the Arc, No One ,No one' :D

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Words · 19/11/2025 14:18

Such a fun thread!

I was a bookworm (there is another one!) as a child so mispronounced words in my head that I hadn't heard out loud.

Jodhpurs became jod hoppers
Pneumonia Penohmonia

I still read computer outage as computer outrage.

À great reference book for all this is Brewer's Dictionary of Phrase and Fable. Fascinating!

CheeseSandwichU · 19/11/2025 14:28

i thought making ends meet ...was making ends meat - a type of meat you have to make yourself at home if you cant afford meat because you dont have any money at that time...

i also thought 'being bawdy' was just having a laugh.. didn't realise it had a sexual connotation until my husband told me and now i have years of professional mortification from using that saying far to liberally in the past...

DadDadDad · 19/11/2025 14:32

diddl · 19/11/2025 13:42

I thought that for the Prodigal Son the father represents God.

So those who repent & return will always be welcomed.

The feast is representative of His bounty.

That is the usual interpretation - Jesus is teaching about the Kingdom of God. The son is no golden child - he is a disgrace, shockingly demanded his inheritance before his father had died, wasted it all, and (to a Jewish audience) debased himself by working with pigs. He came back hoping he could beg a place as a servant, and the father (representing God in this parable) runs to him - such love! - and rejoices that he's come back!

"There is more joy in Heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine who do not need to repent." Some people don't like it, but that is the Christian message, that God is willing and able to forgive people: no-one is beyond being accepted into Heaven if they truly ask for forgiveness.

TheIncredibleBookEatingManchot · 19/11/2025 14:35

Well I totally misunderstood the word "prodigal." I thought it meant something akin to genius, as in the expression "child prodigy."

So every time DS1 came home from uni and I exclaimed "prodigal son returns!" I was actually insulting him.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 19/11/2025 14:44

At some point during my secondary school years I said the word decipher. People fell about laughing. I'd never heard it pronounced or had occasion to say it before and I pronounced it dessyfer.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 19/11/2025 14:50

realsavagelike · 19/11/2025 14:13

Renders the term 'thrift store' pretty silly, thinking about it

Does it? Thrifty people are keen to avoid spending money unnecessarily and if they can do it on a large enough scale they will thrive. The thrift shop aims to help them on their way.

JuvenileBigfoot · 19/11/2025 14:59

soupyspoon · 18/11/2025 22:44

I think its a cockney thing that bomsitit, is a word for mess, rather than a comparison with a bomb has hit it.

So my mum and dad, and wider family would say 'thats a bomsitit', meaning thats a mess

Interesting! She is a Londoner, but has confirmed she definitely says "Looks like a bomb's hit it"!

DadDadDad · 19/11/2025 14:59

TheIncredibleBookEatingManchot · 19/11/2025 14:35

Well I totally misunderstood the word "prodigal." I thought it meant something akin to genius, as in the expression "child prodigy."

So every time DS1 came home from uni and I exclaimed "prodigal son returns!" I was actually insulting him.

People use the phrase in a joking way but probably thinking it has the sense of "wandering far away" - eg mothers use it to gently have a dig at a son who has been away for months and never phones or writes (I suspect my mum used of it me in my student days, long before mobiles were a thing).

I've not come across anyone thinking it referred to prodigies.

JuvenileBigfoot · 19/11/2025 15:02

Zov · 18/11/2025 22:46

Some years ago, I used to read The Radio Times, and look at what was on, and there would be say, a 4-part series of something, just those 4 episodes, and it was called a miniseries. So a mini ... series. A series that was mini - (like small...)

I thought it was pronounced - min-IZ-er-eeze. I thought it was some weird media name for a short series of something. MIN-IZ-ER-EEZE. Absolute plum!

I thought exactly the same!!! I think I was inspired by the word "ministries" and "ministers"- like, the programme was ministering its meaning to us

Leavesfalling · 19/11/2025 15:47

DadDadDad · 19/11/2025 14:32

That is the usual interpretation - Jesus is teaching about the Kingdom of God. The son is no golden child - he is a disgrace, shockingly demanded his inheritance before his father had died, wasted it all, and (to a Jewish audience) debased himself by working with pigs. He came back hoping he could beg a place as a servant, and the father (representing God in this parable) runs to him - such love! - and rejoices that he's come back!

"There is more joy in Heaven over one sinner who repents than over ninety-nine who do not need to repent." Some people don't like it, but that is the Christian message, that God is willing and able to forgive people: no-one is beyond being accepted into Heaven if they truly ask for forgiveness.

Well I'd still be pissed off if I were one of the other sons watching the carry on with the prodigal one.

thing47 · 19/11/2025 15:53

diddl · 19/11/2025 12:30

But if you could care less it means that you actually do care somewhat at this point in time.

Well yes-it's obvious because there is less to be done there must be some already happening!

I've just realised that I originally put "I couldn't care less instead of I couldn't care less"!

Obviously so incensed that I couldn't actually bring myself to type "I could care less"😂

100% right, and very well explained. The American version means the opposite of what the phrase is intended to convey and is therefore incorrect. It is not a case of it being an alternative meaning, it is simply wrong.

And those of us who understand this phrase also know exactly what you intended to write @diddl 😁

DadDadDad · 19/11/2025 16:00

Leavesfalling · 19/11/2025 15:47

Well I'd still be pissed off if I were one of the other sons watching the carry on with the prodigal one.

Edited

Jesus says in the parable that the older brother was pissed off, and it's a dig at the self-righteous Pharisees etc who thought they were so good and had kept all the rules, and couldn't accept that God would graciously forgive people who fell short. I guess from other teachings in the New Testament, Jesus would want them to know that actually all people fall short, so we all need this kind of extravagant, undeserved forgiveness.

Leavesfalling · 19/11/2025 16:10

DadDadDad · 19/11/2025 16:00

Jesus says in the parable that the older brother was pissed off, and it's a dig at the self-righteous Pharisees etc who thought they were so good and had kept all the rules, and couldn't accept that God would graciously forgive people who fell short. I guess from other teachings in the New Testament, Jesus would want them to know that actually all people fall short, so we all need this kind of extravagant, undeserved forgiveness.

It doesn't work so well in the real world though.

DadDadDad · 19/11/2025 16:16

Leavesfalling · 19/11/2025 16:10

It doesn't work so well in the real world though.

Well, some of us believe that God is part of the real world, so it works for me. Also, plenty of people (some of them out of Christian faith) have set examples of forgiving those who have harmed them. Closer to home, like most parents I am sure, I would go on loving my children and wanting to have a relationship with them even if they did do something terrible.

Leavesfalling · 19/11/2025 16:29

DadDadDad · 19/11/2025 16:16

Well, some of us believe that God is part of the real world, so it works for me. Also, plenty of people (some of them out of Christian faith) have set examples of forgiving those who have harmed them. Closer to home, like most parents I am sure, I would go on loving my children and wanting to have a relationship with them even if they did do something terrible.

I think the story is slightly immoral. The ones that worked hard, did the right thing, supported their father and didn't fritter away their inheritance were overlooked in favour of a feckless son who buggered off having done nothing to contribute to the family. The lesson there is that you dont need to do the right thing.

I know forgiveness is divine. But there is such a thing as being a bit of a doormat. You can have a relationship with your feckless child and love them just as much of course but not at the expense of the child that worked hard and did the right thing. Bad parenting.

Anyway that's my view on that story.

Lastfroginthebox · 19/11/2025 16:51

Differentforgirls · 19/11/2025 14:00

It means a friend who is your friend when you are in need.

I know. I was just explaining why it's so easily misnderstood - as evidenced by the many conflicting comments on here.

soupyspoon · 19/11/2025 17:03

Gremlinsateit · 19/11/2025 07:53

It means that a friend who sticks by you when you are in need, is indeed a good friend. As PP said, it’s the opposite of a fairweather friend, who drops you when you’re doing it tough.

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But that person (the non fair weather friend) is the 'friend indeed'

And I am the 'friend in need'

But the phrase has the 2 people as the same person, the friend in need is also the friend indeed

Im not getting how this makes sense

DadDadDad · 19/11/2025 17:07

soupyspoon · 19/11/2025 17:03

But that person (the non fair weather friend) is the 'friend indeed'

And I am the 'friend in need'

But the phrase has the 2 people as the same person, the friend in need is also the friend indeed

Im not getting how this makes sense

No, it's the same friend being referenced both times - "your friend who sticks around in a time of (your) need is indeed your true friend".

RafaFan · 19/11/2025 17:07

JuvenileBigfoot · 19/11/2025 15:02

I thought exactly the same!!! I think I was inspired by the word "ministries" and "ministers"- like, the programme was ministering its meaning to us

Did you ever watch any bi-opics about famous people? I just watched the Bruce Springsteen one. 😆

soupyspoon · 19/11/2025 17:12

BelatrixLestrange · 19/11/2025 08:18

No no, it's definitely "it looks like a bombs hit it" meaning a terrible mess. But it's the way we say it that makes it sound like a single word 🤣 or sometimes I do say "it's a bloody bombsite in here"

I KNOW!!!
I know its 'looks like a bomb's hit it'

But over the years, in our family and neighbours/friends its turned into a descriptor of its own 'bomsisit'

Thats a right bomsisit. Its a bomsitit in here

Sharptonguedwoman · 19/11/2025 17:14

NoWomanNoRedRedWine · 18/11/2025 21:20

What is damp squid people please?

Apologies if repetition but the phrase should be 'damp squib' for ex a firework that doesn't go off with a big explosion, just a few pathetic sparks. Or a much touted event that flops. A squib is an explosive device or firework.