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To have completely misunderstood the meaning of some sayings?

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KermitTheToad · 18/11/2025 20:53

I only found out today that the term Social Butterfly refers to someone who is outgoing and loves social events. I thought it meant you didn't like social events, as in you would fly away and avoid them. I also until recently thought that a Spendthrift is somebody who is frugal in their spending. I assumed that as thrifty meant not being wasteful, that Spendthrift meant being careful in what you spent.
YANBU..I see where you are coming from.
YABU.. You are a wally, go back to school!

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Titasaducksarse · 19/11/2025 00:52

I've been educated. I thought I had a pretty good grip on the English language but I'd never heard of 'hoist by your own petard' before. All the others I had heard of and understood the correct meaning.

WhyCantThingsJustBeEasy · 19/11/2025 00:53

I only learned recently that, "you're a sight for sore eyes" does not mean you look a mess!

Willyoujustbequiet · 19/11/2025 00:58

Makeitstop2025 · 18/11/2025 21:12

Tall, Dark and Handsome. I always pictured that to mean a white man and that the "dark" was in reference to features such as black/brown hair or brown eyes. A friend told me that the dark was in reference to skin colour and that it basically meant a person of colour.

Before anyone comments that it shows my bias, I am a person of colour!

Your friend is wrong sorry. Its just means dark hair and isn't related to skin colour.

RedBullBlood · 19/11/2025 01:01

More a mishearing than a misunderstanding but a recent MN poster complained about her touchy friend and said she was a real ‘Jacqueline High’. Up there with another poster who read a book that was so good it should win a Pullet Surprise. Winner, winner, chicken dinner?

BungledBundle · 19/11/2025 01:19

Hellohelga · 18/11/2025 23:00

Horses for courses

Free rein.

LucyLoo1972 · 19/11/2025 01:21

Makeitstop2025 · 18/11/2025 21:12

Tall, Dark and Handsome. I always pictured that to mean a white man and that the "dark" was in reference to features such as black/brown hair or brown eyes. A friend told me that the dark was in reference to skin colour and that it basically meant a person of colour.

Before anyone comments that it shows my bias, I am a person of colour!

I think your understanding is correct tbh

Chairity · 19/11/2025 01:22

We should've stuck with spend-all centuries ago for spendthrift - much less confusing!

There used to be somewhere called Salubrious Passage where I grew up. It most definitely wasn't so for years I thought salubrious meant the opposite of what it actually does.

StruggleFlourish · 19/11/2025 01:31

Nanny0gg · 18/11/2025 22:01

That's not a triffid

That's Audrey

Oh, I know, I couldn't find I already made GIF of a triffid though... But I appreciate your attention to science fiction botany :-)

realsavagelike · 19/11/2025 01:41

RedBullBlood · 19/11/2025 01:01

More a mishearing than a misunderstanding but a recent MN poster complained about her touchy friend and said she was a real ‘Jacqueline High’. Up there with another poster who read a book that was so good it should win a Pullet Surprise. Winner, winner, chicken dinner?

Jekyll and Hyde I'm guessing?! Took me a minute to understand what she had possibly meant to say.

maralagagirl · 19/11/2025 02:05

TheIncredibleBookEatingManchot · 18/11/2025 21:53

I thought the saying "when the going gets tough the tough get going" meant when things are hard the so-called tough scarper. Actually it means they spring into action.

And "a friend in need is a friend indeed" I thought was a kind of sarcastically saying when someone needs something from you they act like a really good friend. Really it means if someone's your friend in your hour of need they're a true friend.

You've got the first one right and the second one wrong.

maralagagirl · 19/11/2025 02:08

BungledBundle · 19/11/2025 01:19

Free rein.

That's correct, sorry I don't know if you are correcting someone else! Reign is the royals; rein is what you put on a horse to control it so if you have "free rein" you can do what you like.

maralagagirl · 19/11/2025 02:15

BootMaker · 18/11/2025 22:39

A poker face is one that doesn't show emotion, so they're very good a poker as they never betray their hand by their expressions.

Yes!!!!! So if you watch a poker game show zero emotion on their face and the amateurs can't help but look a bit happy or sad. To make money from poker, you need a damn good poker face ( reveals nothing to your opponents)

maralagagirl · 19/11/2025 02:19

Titasaducksarse · 19/11/2025 00:52

I've been educated. I thought I had a pretty good grip on the English language but I'd never heard of 'hoist by your own petard' before. All the others I had heard of and understood the correct meaning.

Edited

Hoist by your own petard is pretty common, particularly with comedians. It's from Hamlet.

IfIHadAHeart · 19/11/2025 02:27

Until recently I thought shanks pony was a real pony.

Heidi2018 · 19/11/2025 02:37

BoringOregon · 18/11/2025 22:58

Now my mind is blown!
Which is it? They both make sense.

The way you quoted doesn't make sense, because they wouldn't be a friend at all if they were using you.

DiaryofaProvincialLady · 19/11/2025 03:05

manineed · 18/11/2025 21:12

Or put on a pedal stool

I'm on tender hooks to find out, and "woah" is me

realsavagelike · 19/11/2025 03:07

maralagagirl · 19/11/2025 02:19

Hoist by your own petard is pretty common, particularly with comedians. It's from Hamlet.

Whoops. Studied Hamlet for either GCSE or A Level and didn't know this!

QuornAgain · 19/11/2025 03:12

Charlize43 · 18/11/2025 23:42

Clearly you are not one who knows how many beans make five...

2 beans, a bean and a half, half a bean and a bean 😉

tuvamoodyson · 19/11/2025 03:17

Makeitstop2025 · 18/11/2025 21:12

Tall, Dark and Handsome. I always pictured that to mean a white man and that the "dark" was in reference to features such as black/brown hair or brown eyes. A friend told me that the dark was in reference to skin colour and that it basically meant a person of colour.

Before anyone comments that it shows my bias, I am a person of colour!

Your friend is wrong.

SomewhatAnnoyed · 19/11/2025 03:44

jamcorrosion · 18/11/2025 21:04

Is it?! Am I just as bad 😂

I’ve just re read it and still think they sound close

I think I’m like you, I kept re reading bc I read it that OP thought spendthrift meant careful with money but found out it meant frugal (which is the same thing). I have no idea why I couldn’t understand the sentence 😂

SomewhatAnnoyed · 19/11/2025 03:46

QuornAgain · 19/11/2025 03:12

2 beans, a bean and a half, half a bean and a bean 😉

Love this

AtomicPumpkin · 19/11/2025 04:12

soupyspoon · 18/11/2025 23:12

I know its 'looks like a bombs hit it'. They knew 'it looks like a bombs hit it'

But its changed over the years to bomsisit meaning 'a mess'.

Its a bomsitit in here.

I doubt that you would find that word in any dictionary.

Terrytheweasel · 19/11/2025 04:20

Makeitstop2025 · 18/11/2025 21:12

Tall, Dark and Handsome. I always pictured that to mean a white man and that the "dark" was in reference to features such as black/brown hair or brown eyes. A friend told me that the dark was in reference to skin colour and that it basically meant a person of colour.

Before anyone comments that it shows my bias, I am a person of colour!

It could mean either but normally in reference to dark features like hair and eyes

DowagerDuchessLadyAirCommodoreCrocsNotDocsVC · 19/11/2025 04:26

Lucked out means got lucky in the USA and got unlucky in Australia.

Monty27 · 19/11/2025 04:42

CurlyhairedAssassin · 18/11/2025 21:24

Did you picture a conservatory with ferns?!

I was charged with doing an office inventory at a new job i was early twenties. I was going around counting the lovely plants when it came to the plant section. Omg how they giggled. 😊