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To have completely misunderstood the meaning of some sayings?

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KermitTheToad · 18/11/2025 20:53

I only found out today that the term Social Butterfly refers to someone who is outgoing and loves social events. I thought it meant you didn't like social events, as in you would fly away and avoid them. I also until recently thought that a Spendthrift is somebody who is frugal in their spending. I assumed that as thrifty meant not being wasteful, that Spendthrift meant being careful in what you spent.
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TheendofmrY · 18/11/2025 23:26

Until recently I thought that if you were “gunning for someone” you were on their side, like providing defensive fire rather than attacking.

Inthewindandrain · 18/11/2025 23:27

When I was a kid I had a story book (mini novel, no pictures) in which the child found half a crown under the car. I thought it was a surprising thing to find.. it was some years later before I realised it was a coin not an actual half a crown!

SagittariusDwarf · 18/11/2025 23:28

soupyspoon · 18/11/2025 23:12

I know its 'looks like a bombs hit it'. They knew 'it looks like a bombs hit it'

But its changed over the years to bomsisit meaning 'a mess'.

Its a bomsitit in here.

I don't think that's a thing

SagittariusDwarf · 18/11/2025 23:29

fost · 18/11/2025 23:11

As a kid I thought a stuck pig was squealing because he was trapped and wanted to be set free. It was a long time before I realised that is not what 'stuck' meant in this phrase.

Ooohhhhh.... I thought it meant a trapped pig too, until literally just now....

realsavagelike · 18/11/2025 23:29

soupyspoon · 18/11/2025 23:12

I know its 'looks like a bombs hit it'. They knew 'it looks like a bombs hit it'

But its changed over the years to bomsisit meaning 'a mess'.

Its a bomsitit in here.

Really?? I don't buy that. I will happily recant if I find such a word in a dictionary.

TellingBone · 18/11/2025 23:30

Bomsitit as a noun meaning a mess is the new chester draws

Glindaa · 18/11/2025 23:31

manineed · 18/11/2025 21:12

Or put on a pedal stool

OP will end up a social piranha at this rate

Inthewindandrain · 18/11/2025 23:31

DeanStockwell · 18/11/2025 23:09

I remember having a conversation with my dad in our car when I was about 10 asking him why we couldn't drive down a the toad if it was working .
It really tickled him and he explained what the sign meant but he couldn't explained why the signs don't say 'road not working '

And what about the road works sign my cousin asked "why is the man putting up a brolly?"

Lunde · 18/11/2025 23:34

I found out that "scuttlebutt" originated in about 1800 as a naval term

There used to be a cask of fresh drinking water on deck (a scuttled butt) and sailors used to congregate to take a drink and exchange gossip -so literally the original water cooler gossip site!

MySilentLions · 18/11/2025 23:35

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 18/11/2025 21:48

You’re right about a ‘spendthrift’ being someone who’s frugal. Love that you thought that about a ‘social butterfly’. My friend’s son thought ‘peace and quiet’ was ‘a piece of quiet’.

You might want to read the thread … a spendthrift is the opposite of frugal.

Arpegios · 18/11/2025 23:36

DarkEyedSailor · 18/11/2025 21:27

Audrey Junior

I thought it was Audrey 2!

MILLYmo0se · 18/11/2025 23:36

Bomsisit is interesting, we'd often use 'bombsite' to describe a mess here
I've noticed on social media, only in the last year or so, that a lot of people use 'mortified' when they mean 'horrified'. I was so confused!

Lunde · 18/11/2025 23:36

AnAudacityofinlaws · 18/11/2025 21:20

Think of the old meaning of “thrift” as in money, savings or wealth - money put away. spendthrift makes sense now doesn’t it?

Yes - thrift used to mean savings/wealth

So a spendthrift was literally someone spending their savings

Ladygodalmighty · 18/11/2025 23:36

CurlyhairedAssassin · 18/11/2025 21:10

Heavy plant crossing. I was flummoxed by that one for years. Always thought of triffids when I was a kid. Knew it couldn't be that but it was years into adulthood before I knew for sure what it meant. (probably when Google was invented so I could look it up without embarrassing myself by asking an acutal human).

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Twattergy · 18/11/2025 23:39

Deceptively large = larger than it first seemed. E.g this cottage is deceptively large...it's much more spacious than it looks from outside.

Deceptively small = smaller than you'd think. E.g. 'this handbag can hardly fit anything in it, it's deceptively small!'

RaraRachael · 18/11/2025 23:40

A local newspaper had an article about a musician who'd been appearing with celebrities ' "Young Musician mixes with the hoi polloi" 🙄

Dontlletmedownbruce · 18/11/2025 23:40

My neighbour thought 'Slow School Ahead' referred to the special needs school.

pinkpony88 · 18/11/2025 23:41

Medicimama · 18/11/2025 22:03

Slow
Children
Ahead

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Belshels · 18/11/2025 23:42

Swings and roundabouts always found a strange one, also a catch 22 situation??

Charlize43 · 18/11/2025 23:42

Clearly you are not one who knows how many beans make five...

Dontlletmedownbruce · 18/11/2025 23:42

I actually thought apes had been trained to bear arms as a child. Gorilla warfare. When I think of some of the daft things that have happened in the world this isn't actually as bonkers

largeredformeplease · 18/11/2025 23:45

78e22387FFGH · 18/11/2025 21:46

I always thought the protagonist in a film was the baddie, sounds like it should be, until I realised that was the antagonist (which makes more sense - pro and anti)

Same.

I also still struggle a bit with protagonists being called “hero”, simply because they are the main character.

i know that the meaning of hero is nothing like superhero, but I still finding it jarring to hear of some weedy, nondescript protagonist being described as “our hero”.

Boiledbeetle · 18/11/2025 23:46

mynameisthebestone · 18/11/2025 22:30

For years I thought inflammable was the opposite of flammable. I would buy eg children's dressing-up clothes marked inflammable because I thought that was a good thing!

To be fair I think that one has been confusing people for a couple of hundred years!

Dontlletmedownbruce · 18/11/2025 23:48

@CaveMum you can take the horse to the water but you can't make it drink..

Fleur405 · 18/11/2025 23:48

Belshels · 18/11/2025 23:42

Swings and roundabouts always found a strange one, also a catch 22 situation??

Catch-22 I think comes from the novel by Joseph Heller - as in I think he coined the phrase rather than used an existing one.

I found the novel pretty impossible to understand (and I’m quite good at reading as I’m a lawyer …who also had to produce my full university transcripts to get my training contract!)