Jealous of friend's engagement

[PlumKoala]

Been with boyfriend for almost 10 years. He knows I want to get married but I'm still waiting on a proposal and I don't see any sign of it coming. Lived together for 5 years and have built an amazing life together. We laugh every day and are there for each other emotionally. Not a perfect relationship but we love each other deeply. Tonight our friends got engaged and my initial reaction was jealousy and sadness. Am I being unreasonable to feel this way? I'm super happy for them but I resent my boyfriend for making me wait and at this stage I feel it may never happen. Is marriage that important? I know plenty of people who are in loveless marriages, so why do I feel this way?

It's strange. Stranger still how other women are supportive of a very passive role in this.

I said exactly what I wanted to say in that particular comment and meant what I said. A woman proposing to a man is cringewortthy. To expand, does that mean they can't (or shouldn't) have an adult conversation about what they want in life? Of course not. Ideally, if marriage at some point was important to her, she should have had that conversation with him from the get-go so that they were on the same page. Waiting around ten years for him to figure it out by himself wasn't a great plan at all.

Quite. Thank you for clarifying your answer.
However, if a woman wants to get married and the man has said nothing, then I don't see a problem with a woman proposing. We're not in the '50s, and I think that social mores have progressed.
The problem would be with their lack of communication about their situation and her passive approach to their future together. Hence my (and others') suggestion of a proposal. The decision to marry should not be in the gift of the man.
In my opinion.

It's not only the decision of the man. She gets to say 'yes' or 'no.'

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Yeah, but imagine wanting to initiate things happening in your life, rather than waiting for the man to give you options! 😂