An inheritance one

[Spicyspice]

Did you/will you inherit from your grandparents? Or did everything go to your parents?

Was having a conversation with someone who feels hard done by, I’ll call him Tom. Toms grandparents have left Toms parents a big inheritance. Tom feels that his parents should have shared it with him as his parents are already wealthy.

It’s not really something I’d ever thought about as neither my parents or grandparents have any money/assets but does Tom have a point?

Tom - yanbu
Tom - yabu

Tom is being entitled and greedy. His grandparents can leave their estate to whomever they choose, and it is common for people to leave their estate to their DC first and foremost. Maybe his grandparents thought Tom was grabby and so didn’t leave him anything!

It’s down to whoever leaves it, to choose who it goes to.

I also can appreciate it might feel frustrating if Tom eg is struggling to save up for a flat - and his parents are already wealthy.

Not much he can do about it however. I also think a lot of people plan around expecting an inheritance… his parents finances may not be all that they seem!

Tom is a greedy article. I got a bit from my parents having inherited from their parents, but not a lot. I didn't ask for it, both times they were token gifts.

No, I didn't nor did I expect to, my grandparents' money went to their children.

He can be upset at his independently wealthy parents for not sharing their money, inherited or otherwise, all he likes - but the fact doesn’t change. He isn’t entitled to anything from anyone. No one is owed inheritance.

Most importantly, people can do what they want with their will. He’s entitled to be upset, but that’s it.

People are weirdly greedy as soon as there’s any sniff of money and inheritance. It’s on both sides of this argument.

I got a few hundred pounds from one grandparent and a couple of thousand from the others. In both cases, the bulk went to their children, as you would expect. Tom should get on with his own life and stop waiting for handouts.

Our money will go to our children. I love our grandchildren and we treat them a lot but whatever we have left will go to their parents, it will be up to them if they want to share it with their children

My grandparents on both sides left everything equally to their children (my parents and their siblings). My parents’ will leaves everything equally to me and my siblings. That’s how I think it should be unless there’s a valid reason to miss someone out. I’d be pretty gutted if my parents overlooked me in favour of their grandchildren.

My parents split their estate 50% to their children & 50% to the grand children. No expectations though, it was up to them.

No I didn’t, that said only one set of grandparents had any money (others didn’t own a house, few thousand in total assets) others split everything 50/50 with 2 dc, one being my dad though my nanna had given all 5 grandchildren £500 in a bank account a few years before she died

My grandparents lived in rented social housing and had no significant cash or assets to leave but I did get a small cash amount from both.

My mum died intestate and everything she had went to my step dad, who then left most of it to his nieces and new partner plus a small cash gift to my DS.

While I know my in laws have left the majority of their estate to DH and his siblings I’m fairly certain they’ve also left chunks directly to all the GC.

So no, I don’t think it’s unusual for grandparents to leave anything to their GC but if Toms grandparents felt strongly enough that he should have anything they would have named him in the will.

It's clearly down to his grandparents and parents what happens with their money; however, sometimes it's wise to plan depending on circumstances, otherwise it ends up going to the taxman.

My wealthy grandparents on DM side left her everything (as they could/should) she blew the lot - mainly on holidays
I will be lucky to get 10k as she had no property
I’m actually ok with it - I am leaving all my assets that I haven’t spent beforehand to DC - they can look after their own DC

There were no assets or money for my grandparents to pass on.

Currently my parents will pass on everything to the other, if one dies.
They say the surviving parent will share their money equally between my siblings and me but I am going to assume nothing. That said, they know we all are sensible with money and will ensure our children (their grandchildren) have a good quality of life, experiences etc so there is no need for them to skip a generation with the inheritance per se.

My Nan had been an unskilled worker and had saved £2,500 at the time of her death. Her will stipulated £1000 to my dad and uncle each and the remaining £500 split between the 3 grandchildren. My uncle and dad just decided to split the amount 5 ways so we all got £500 each . I bought a ring with my share and 40 years later still look at that ring ( I wear it all the time) and instantly I think of my nan.

Remaining DGP had already signed over 50% of the house many years before to DC. Then left 10% of the house each to two DGC and remaining 30% to DC. Anything other than property left solely to DC.

I got nothing from my grandparents as they had nothing to leave. Born in the early 1900s few people had property or assets

That was lovely of your dad and brother

my mum's parents left a decent sized estate to her and she did a deed of variation on the will to pass 10% directly to each grandchild. but she didn't have to do that and it would have been very cheeky of us (the grandchildren) to expect it.

A very similar thread ongoing here…www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5339615-grandparents-leaving-money-to-grandchildren?page=1

Tom is a greedy git!

Thanks. I don’t really have anything to add or debate. I have heard of grandparents leaving property and money to grandchildren, but I always thought inheritance usually went to the children.

I did sympathise with Toms situation though tbh. He’s suffering with chronic pain, working his arse off, wealthy parents, no help.

@Spicyspice Tom's a CF and definitely unreasonable. It was entirely his GP's decision who they left their estates to - they could have left everything they owned to Battersea Dog's Home if they chose to. I hate Tom's type of entitlement - who the hell does he think he is? He is owed nothing. If he's lucky, he may inherit from his parents, but if he was my son and I found out what an entitled dick he is, I'd disinherit him now.

My GP left everything to their children, ie my parents. My parents have helped both me and my brother out with various things like home renovations, because they can afford to, and I’m sure my grandparents would have trusted my parents to do that.

My parents’ wills currently leave everything to me and my brother, but they are considering changing them to leave some money straight to grandchildren. I think their lawyer said something along the lines of “how would you feel if your child pre-deceased their spouse and your money ultimately goes to your DIL’s or SIL’s second husband/wife and children, rather than your grandchildren?”

Why don't they help him? Are they estranged?