Made myself worse

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Hi all I don't know if I'm over reacting.. was in a discussion other day with my partner and it was getting abit heated as in tones where changing etc. We were talking about cosmetic procedures Iv lost a lot of weight and my boobs aren't what they was I said oh I'd love them done he responded with you don't need them etc etc
Topic changed slightly and he then come out with and you've made your face worse since having Botox and lip filler I asked what he ment and he said in my opinion you've made your face worse ... now it's hard to judge without seeing me I know but I had 0.5ml in lips and Botox on forehead an crows feet everyone says I look well. His comment has really hurt me and made me feel self conscious he said he was being a c*nt and sorry but now I feel how I feel and how longs he been thinking this. Sounds trivial written but was harsh an unnecessary comment that was very personal. Don't know if I'm over the top though

The Botox is fine as long as it’s subtle, but lip filler is something you either like or you don’t. It can look ok when someone has a full face of makeup on but odd when you’re not wearing makeup according to the men in my family

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He's just being honest as he clearly doesn't like the botox and lipfiller look? These procedures change your appearance and it was how you looked naturally he prefers.

Some of my friends have had Botox. They think it’s subtle. IMO it isn’t. I stay silent.

Lip fillers are so obvious and not normal too.

Botox lips look absolutely awful.

This!

It’s a shame. My friend has subtle Botox and lip filler. She feels good and likes the way she looks. My personal opinion is that she doesn’t look as good as she did before. But she’s my friend. So I’d never tell her my views. I would however tell my DH in the same situation and would expect him to tell me. But respectfully and not as a shot in an argument. It’s no wonder you feel hurt.

Someone at work, who is so naturally beautiful, has just had Botox and she looks so different and her face is almost distorted now. It's so sad, as she was incredibly pretty.

I'm sorry that you are upset, but it's possible that you do look more different than you realise.

As women we are fed wads of material about how we should look. Effing ignore it. It's persistent, ruthless and completely unattainable. But more importantly, it's It's not real, it's a manufactured sales tactic by the trillion pounds per year beauty industry. Get therapy and try to accept the possibility that you may not actually see yourself accurately because we have been brainwashed.

He loves you the way you are. Trust the person who loves you and who has known you all this time to tell you the truth about how you actually look.

Get yourself to therapy to find out why you are in the hairdo olympics. Do you even know? Find a different hobby that isn't a fixation on your face and body because it's unhealthy. If you don't, you will one day pass by a mirror and think "oh, my god, what have I done to myself?"

Keep in mind that none of those things, besides exercise and good health, age well.

If you needed to lose weight for health reasons then well done. You don't say what age you are. I have several friends over 40 who have used the weight loss jabs and lost an average of 3 stones (40 lbs). While this undoubtedly benefits their overall health, their looks have suffered with them appearing 10+years older as their skin sagged. They have resorted to fillers and botox to try and restore their pre weightloss looks but unfortunately they just look strange. As my American friend said, "You need to choose between your face and your fanny." (Fanny being American for bum!)

Imho plastic surgery should be limited to two categories:

• Disfigurement as a result of cancer, burns or injury
• Physical abnormalities, ie deviated septum, inverted eyelashes

Nobody needs fuller lips or botox. Or BBLs. Or breast augmentations.

Your natural looks, what you were born with, are far more attractive than any highly-skilled plastic surgeon can ever achieve. Remember that.

Just because he is allowed an opinion it doesn’t mean he can say whatever he wants. That was really unkind and I’d be sad knowing he thinks that. It doesn’t sound as if you’ve overdone the procedures so I assume he must look like a Greek god himself to be making these comments

Sounds like you are being insecure and over reacting. Nobody else would tell you if you didn’t look good by the way. I don’t look at people with Botox and filler and think ‘oh they look good’ I think they look like they’ve had Botox and filler and looked better before, I’d never say anything other than they look lovely to them though. It’s an unnatural look even when done well so not everyone will like it and he’s allowed an opinion.

You had botox and lip filler and it made you feel good about so ignore all the other pp who have a negative opinion about it. Your face, your life.

My guess is he was trying to dog at your insecurities during an argument and hit you where it hurt. Fuck him as long as you like how you look.

Did anybody ask for your opinion?

I think it would be a lot more hurtful if he was urging you to have a boob job, get your face sorted out, etc, etc. He obviously should not have voiced his opinion in such an undiplomatiuc way but, if you think about it without seeing it as a criticism, it might give you a great deal of comfort and confidence. He has said you are lovely as you are and so you shouldn't feel the need to have stuff injected into your body on a regular basis, to the point where you won't look like you any more.

Realistically, 0.5ml of filler will make very little difference on most people. The pillowy celwb lips are usually around 3ml. And a small amout of botox can loik very natural and give a refreshed loik depending on where you get it. But really its hard to tell on yourself, b3cause when your face is still it looks great, its when it moves it loik odd. I can tell my smile has changed since having filler, but i wanted to replace a sudden loss of volume, and felt very self concious of my lips, so im happy to have a slightly different smile but have proper lips again.

Apologies for all the typos, the cat is lying on me lol

Im sorry but Botox and fillers look completely unnatural and odd to me - I really don’t know what is attractive about having lips like Donald Duck - appreciate yours might not be like that

I don’t think people who have it can see it because they never see their face moving

see Demi Moore on the one show tonight…awful!

My impression is that most men prefer the natural look. Obviously you do what makes you happy, but he loves you just as you are naturally.

I'm not sure it's any different than if my DH shaved his facial hair off and asked my opinion and I told him I prefer him with the facial hair.

From the way the men I work with speak, I don’t think that many men like the look. As long as you’re happy with it then that’s what matters.

It’s a really tough one, and not nice if it’s made you feel self conscious. It sounds like it’s just his way of saying he prefers your natural looks but definitely came across wrong in an argument.

My personal opinion is that Botox can look great if done well but I always find lip filler noticeable and distracting when I’m talking to someone. My SIL gets 0.5ml and I think she looks so much better without! (Not that I would ever say this to her).

It sounds like he loved you as you were and wasn't so keen on the change, although he still thinks you're lively. Why did you have it done?

Opinions on here are implicit. Anyone starting a thread on here is consenting to opinions, no matter how agreeable they may or may not be.

So no, my opinion wasn't requested because it doesn't need to be.

Do you have any more silly questions?

Your partner probably loved the way you looked before botox and lip filler, and maybe prefers a more natural look. Is the "everyone" who comment positively other women who also have botox and fillers? That might skew opinions a bit. Also, most people would say something nice if only to be polite.

Tbh 0.5 ml of filler is noticeable, and unless you had very thin lips previously, it will give a bit of a pout. I think this look has become more normalised in recent years, but I still find it noticeable and sometimes jarring. I think that very few of those injecting are skilled enough to do it in such a way that is subtly enhancing, rather than distracting and artificial looking. However,, that's the look that many aim for, so whatever rocks their boat, but other's don't have to like it.