AIBU to be considering moving home from the USA to the UK

[MaineRedneck]

I am getting pressure from my parents to move back to the UK. She is lonely and complaining that the kids don't know who she is. I am finding myself looking at options.

We are a family of 4 DD1 is 3 DD2 is 6. We moved here 12 years ago and set up a good life. We have a home, a weekend home. We shoot, fish, ride ATV's, and in general are outside the majority of the time. I don't know if we could do that in the UK anymore.

DH has a good job here equivalent of £85k, however in the UK he would get £50k, assuming he could get a job. I currently don't work but I am assuming I would have to if we moved back.

If we sold houses cars etc, we would be coming back with £500k and a 20ft shipping container. I don't know if we could get a decent house for that.

DD2 has spent a total of 12 weeks in the UK visiting family, DD1 obviously less. The UK is a foreign country to them.

Both countries are declining fast so I don't think we will be better in the UK

I don't know if this is a non starter, and I should just grow some balls and tell my mother it's not happening.

😱 we have 130 acres here!

To be seriously considering this is absolute madness.

"We shoot, fish, ride ATV's, and in general are outside the majority of the time. I don't know if we could do that in the UK anymore."

You might not have quite as many opportunities to kill wildlife in the UK- not sure.

Wow your life sounds ace. Id be in the "grow some balls" camp.

Ooh go to Anglesey! There are new mini reactors being built there. It’s a gorgeous place and you'll find some lovely property for that money. It was home to Wills and Kate early in their marriage. Lovely countryside and beaches.

Or Scotland of course, but quite far from Surrey …

I mean we've both got our own shitshow going on so....
That said you will not get your outdoors living here to the standard you have there unless you buy a farm in Wales or something.

Yes well the exact rural area is key, right? You might be on the shores of Lake Windermere, whereas I could be in the South Wales Valleys.

The area I actually know is along the Welsh borders. You could get something very nice in Cheshire or Shropshire for that money.

Not saying it will match the lifestyle they have in the US, but they would be able to find a nice place to live, and that’s without a mortgage. With a mortgage they could double their budget.

Yes I think this is the fairest answer. While UK is a 'freer' country, and you're less likely to be murdered or die in a car accident here than in Maine (all easy to verify stats), the specific type of life you are living over there would be very hard to replicate here.

Didn’t you post this EXACT same thread a couple of months back?

Agree. I can't think for the life of me why you'd leave the life you have now for the shit hole the UK has become.

It will feel incredibly overcrowded if you value your space. I'd swap with you at the drop of a hat.

Stay in the US, leave our dwindling wildlife alone please!

Don’t move back you have a nice lifestyle where you are but if you do decide to move to the uk then declutter most of your stuff

Why couldn’t you go outside in the UK? It was a balmy 18 where l am today which is warm for England in November

You have a good life in the US. It sounds idyllic. Many would give their eye teeth for that quality of life. A lot of Surrey is expensive for housing - a house and garden sufficient for a family of four. But it's a variable county, depending on specific location and other factors. It's not impossible with your 500k plus a mortgage: loan rates are at historically fairly low level, mortgages are more flexible now, with longer terms and higher upper age limits for paying off a loan, and a deposit of 40% of purchase price usually enables a borrower to get a more favourable loan rate; you could also work so that would increase how much you could borrow (or how quickly you could pay off the mortgage) and your choice of location and size and quality of house.

Alternatively, keep your good life and your mother - and father? - visit you regularly (at least once a year) in the US to get to know your children. And you visit her / them in the UK once a year. And keep in touch online in between. I know a family who do this and are willing to travel both ways. The mother is family oriented and knows the children well and the children know and love her. As the children get older, they will be able to visit the UK and have longer stays with the grandparents on their own.

On behalf of the wild animals on Anglesey, please don’t.

Why do you feel like safety is an issue in the UK?

No way would I move from USA to this shit show in uk now.

I’ll swap with you ?

The uk has changed a lot in 12 years.
Open borders, legal migration as well as illegal is destroying the country
The government is being very clever though in getting people to focus on "the boats" whilst flooding the country with cheap labour and the families attached to them.
Youngsters have little opportunities. Even the ones with degrees, as the government wants the cheap labour from countries like India.
Nothing will change in the uk until someone organises a whole uk national strike where all workers walk out until the government listens and it's pays to work.
The majority of workers would be better off and happier joining the 9 million others out of work and on benefits.

Why would wild animals be affected if OP moves to Anglesey?

Stay where you are. We have enough people over here killing the wildlife.

You're in a beautiful part of the US. I think moving back would be a huge mistake, as it would uproot your children.

Will you possibly have US tax liability problems if you move here, given that you’re US citizens?

Stay where you are. You won’t get the type of lifestyle you currently have in the U.K.

Personally, I would not want to live in the US right now. But it seems like there isn’t any reason for you to move to the UK because you don’t sound like you want to at all.

So don’t!

You'd be absolutely mad to even consider moving back to the UK with the government we have here at the moment and what they're doing to the economy.

Enjoy the USA (where women actually have far more rights than in the UK - where transvestites are still found in many public women's toilets)