@Ticklyoctopus “ It was the norm 30/40 years ago for a married couple to buy a ‘family home’ when they married with the anticipation of starting a family.”
This is rubbish. Are you really saying that from 1985 onwards this was the case?
Around that time I didn’t know anyone who got a mortgage on one wage. And neither do I recognise the scenario of buying a family home as your first home. I think for that - for those who could afford to buy - you need to go back to home buyers in the 50s or 60s. Mind you, my parents (and my dad was in a good profession) rented a small flat in a not great area as their first home. It was also quite normal not to live together - or even just move out of home and rent a flat for the fun of it - as even then when rents were fairer it made it pretty impossible for many also to save for a mortgage. In the fifties and sixties, it was also common to live with one set of parents after marriage, this itself would help the couple to save.
It is also wrong to assume everyone could afford to buy no matter your job. That’s where decent council housing came in. Or fairer rents. The shameful legacy of Thatcher and the money money money culture of her policies, and subsequent failures of government not to fix the sell off has contributed massively to the housing situation and costs today. It’s political consequences, yes you can blame voters for their choices, but no party has sought to fix that legacy.
Very few people I knew in the 70s/early 80s bought more than they needed for their first house. So a small flat or terraced house in, perhaps, not great or convenient areas. The only people I knew who went straight to a 3 bed semi - yes semi!!! - were higher paid professionals eg solicitor couple. Appreciate this is my experience but as such, it is valid. It was very common not to do things like holidays because even 2 wages and a mortgage didn’t leave enough.
Society changes and there are good and bad and easier and harder situations for all generations. That’s just how it is! I would actually hate to be young today - I mean teenage young - with regression of female stereotypes fuelled by day to day porn and social media pressure, among other things. But I would love the lower expectation of meet/engaged/married/kids and freedom women have to forge their own path, on their own, with or without a partner, whether opposite or same sex, that are here today.
edited for typo