Dh thinks i'm obsessed with work. Moans about it constantly. I admit I do enjoy my job. I have worked hard to get to where I am ans genuinely enjoy what I do (most of the time). Its a very fast paced corporate role but I am lucky to wfh 3-4 days a week which helps with childcare (children are aged 9 and 5)
His examples for the last few days are:
I was asked to take part in an celebration event last week - whole company event type thing, first time my team had all been together in a while as we work in different offices so we arranged to go to the pub for dinner, which meant he had to pick the kids up and do bedtime etc
We recently went on holiday and I did take my laptop as I had some work to finish off and ran out of time. We had an 8 hour flight so while the dc sat next to me and slept I finished off 2 hours of work. That was it.
I have an event in February I need to attend (overnight stay) which i have told him about. He has now said he had to be on a course that week that he can't get out of. I said I'll sort childcare etc and he accused me of thinking it would be ok to leave the children on their own. Obviously that wouldn't even cross my mind and I was going to ask my brother or sister if they could help out.
Moans if I am more 5 minutes late logging off. Or if I get caught in traffic its my fault for not leaving early
On the flip side:
He works 6-2 every day in the office so all school drop offs are up to me unless I give him advance notice and even then he moans about it.
If he is late then i'm just expected to work round him being late. No notice just expected to deal with it
He had weeks where he is on call 24/7 which means I can't do anything, can't go out in the evening, all schools runs are on me etc.
If he gets his laptop out on the evening i'm not allowed to say anything. If I get mine out I get a 20 minute lecture on how i'm obsessed with work.