But would you invite your MIL on your hen do?

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Just that really I didn’t realise it was a thing.

you are being unreasonable - Yes you should

you are NOT being unreasonable - Perfectlg acceptable not to invite them

Both my DM and DMil came together with my DSis and DSil. We all get on well and spend holidays and special occasions together.

Is this the whole Holly Ramsey/Adam Peatty situation? If so, then yes she should have been invited

I had my DM and MiL at my hen do. Meal out, drinks after then everyone apart from the three of us went clubbing 😂

I never did this with my Mam and I never expected it when my son married (her Mum went though). Not offended.

When my daughter marries I'll leave her to it but plan something nice just for us.

sorry- misread your post!! Replied to quick 🙄🙄🙄 I’m a knob!!

I had two and my mil came to the sophisticated afternoon tea one not the cocktails and shots one

I didn’t invite my own mother let alone my MIL.

My daughter invited me, her prospective mum in law, and her prospective GMIL! But it was a daytime thing, and she wanted to be inclusive. So it was friends, family, in-laws, and all the generations over 16yo.

It was absolutely lovely, with everyone getting to know each other and having fun, whatever their age and relationship to her.

I did. I also invited my mum and an old family friend who was the same age range as mum and mil.

If it had just been a night out with friends my sort of age, then I probably wouldn't have done.

Depends on the Hen do and the MiL, and if you like her.
I had neither my mum or my MiL. I went to Brussels with my best friends and drinks and clubbing with my work mates.
My cousins wives both had my Aunt, because they both love her dearly. She even went wedding dress shopping with one of them.

I did, wish I hadn't, she moaned the whole time, her and SIL fell out which resulted in MIL shut a door on SIL and trapping her finger, and MIL refused to pay for her meal.......from that point on invites have been if they are strictly unavoidable, and they will continue to be.

My MIL called my mum up ‘disgusted’ that the both of them weren’t invited to my hendo. Mum told her she couldn’t think of anything worse than going clubbing/doing shots (apparently both go hand in hand to my mum) and wouldn’t be fair on us kids having to be on best behaviour..

I told my MIL if she really wanted to come we’d be meeting up in central London around midnight and getting the first train home at 6am but no guarantees she’d even be allowed in. She hates London (which I was fully aware, but it’s central for all my friends) and I knew that the next demand after her invite would be in her home city.

I would, and all my friends did on theirs too!

I didn’t have a hen but if I did my mil would definitely be invited. She’s in her 80’s and she’d definitely come! If she didn’t want to that would obviously be fine.

I don't think I've ever known a hen where a living MIL wasn't invited.

Prompted by this OP?

www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5442259-holly-ramsay-hen-fallout

I’ve known people who have and people who haven’t. I think either is fine. But I think it’s not such a norm that a MIL should be offended if not invited. I’d consider that an overreaction.

Yeah, depends on the activity. However, a lot of people hold a separate thing that older relatives can attend if the main activity isn't suitable.

What I wouldn't do is invite my own mother/older relatives and not MIL (unless we were LC/NC for some reason) as that's just bad practice and will of course cause divisions.

I feel quite sad for the woman in the news. She sacrificed loads for Adam so that he could have the opportunities he had, and seems like she just doesn't fit in now with his rich celebrity lifestyle and has been cast aside. I'd be devastated.

If this is based on the story about Adam Peaty’s mum, you literally have no idea (I don’t either) of the backstory that led to this decision.

No. Neither would I invite my mother, or her mate. Sorry Pat.

Had my husband not gone no contact with his family just after we met I would have invited his mum and sister, bit there was no penises or anything that tacky.

My father, uncles and cousin was invited to his stag.

I did and she came along but left after the meal part (her choice - she was invited to stay out all night).

I have seen a few who invented MIL, mother, grand-mother to some afternoon tea thing and had a proper hen do with friends at a different date.

If someone's idea of a hen do is to do pottery or crochet all afternoon, why not. There's no rule you should have a fun and active hen do!

My DIL didn’t invite me or my DDs to her Hen do although she invited her DM , sisters and Aunts .
I was a little put out but still put £200 behind the bar .

I hope my own DIL won't feel obliged to invite me, I would feel very sad for her if she did 😂