To think men want love while women want status and both lie about it?

[BluntVelvetOtter]

I’m not saying that’s all we want but biologically and socially, it seems true. Men crave admiration, women crave security. Yet both dress it up as “connection” or “chemistry.” AIBU to think honesty about that would make dating less confusing?

Christ - what is this? The opening round of the Navel Gazing Championships 2025?

It's ok OP. You win.

Men and women are all different so don't all want or need the same things.

What?

Humans are diverse. Some will, some won't.

Relationships are a bit more complicated than that OP.

If AI is going to bombard MN with crap threads, the least it could do is give itself a critical thinking age above 14.

You’re wrong and misogynistic.

HTH

Thanks, I’ll take the trophy. 🏆

Customer service, please.

I think you’re very very bored

Why do we keep getting misogynistic threads generalising about women??

It’s not meant to be misogynistic, I’m saying both men and women have social conditioning that shapes how they love and what they prioritise. It’s more about honesty in dating dynamics than putting one gender down.

I'm not disputing the "status", whatever it means for individuals - I'd be a hypocrite.
But "men want love" - that's brilliant! 😂🤣
I could think about ten or more other things before love, as far as men are concerned.

No. Stop being so weird. We're all humans. When you find one you like and who likes you too, you won't feel the need to post silly pseudoscience on mumsnet.

Oh that’s interesting I would put forward the opposite hypothesis!!

now we we are financially independent women rely less on men for security and to be a provider. We want more, a connection of mind and body, excitement and romance and we can leave if we don’t have it

men want a trophy wife for status or a live in maid

(disclaimer I don’t mean ALL of either group at all just in general I think the trends are the opposite)

You write like some type of Chat/take a break crappy magazine bot. So odd.

It's ok to admit you've just never had a connection with or been in love with anyone OP, you don't have to accuse anyone who has had those things of being a liar.

It's such a narrow minded and silly way of thinking - I know you think you're being dead deep and insightful but you're really, really not. You're viewing the entire human population through only your extraordinarily narrow lens and just assuming your lived experience is the only reality.

How did I know it would be a three word name with no posting history just by the thread title.

This reads like an AI special.

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I'd say most of us want to be admired by our partner, can't really see the point otherwise. And yes, most women value financial stability. That's no bad thing either. Women who insist on great riches are allowed to hold out for that if they like, just like men are allowed to hold out for 18 year old supermodels if that's the only thing they want and stay single if they can't get it. Most of us are largely sensible about it.

Don't really know what the "lying" stuff is about.

I scrolled down to ‘similar threads’. All of them AIBU ‘To think that…’

All of them 3 word user names. All AI. It’s tedious.

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And it’s always, seemingly, an otter. What do they have against women, exactly?

Lol, the exact opposite way around. Women want love and security, men want status, eye candy and trophy wives.