The frustration is real… family drama!

[Baldylovingbeard]

On a lovely dog walk over the weekend, and my darling brother starts chucking a stick for our pup…. this is how the conversation went.

‘Hey bro can you not chuck sticks, I just don’t want to encourage the pup to chase sticks’

‘stop being the fun police…..’

’ok I’ll send you the vet bill when a stick gets stuck in her throat’

AIBU?????

I just feel like people don’t respect other people’s wishes. But why!?

I might have whacked bro with the stick 😂

Can I trade your family drama for mine please? 😂 even my counsellor sometimes has to pause and take a deep breath when I share updates…

I think count yourself lucky that the stick incident was the biggest drama worrying you over the weekend. No one had an affair, no one upstaged anyone, no one was acting vindictively, no one behaved abusively, no one betrayed your biggest secret, no one died. Just a small quabble (if you can even call it that).

Let me guess - this is repeated pattern of behaviour from your family - complete disrespect for other people’s preferences.

You are definitely 100% not being unreasonable.
Sticks should never be thrown for dogs/puppies.

Should have also mentioned that if you are going to throw a ball, do not use rubber balls and also make sure the ball is large enough that it cannot be accidentally swallowed.

You sound like you want it to be drama…. But it really wasn’t!

Dogs love chasing sticks. I have has dogs all my life (and I'm old!) only once did a stick get stuck. It was easy to get out but a bit worrying at the time. But your dig your rules but your reaction to this is way overboard. He was doing a perfectly normal thing to do with a dog

I didn’t know that about dogs and sticks. But your brother should have stopped when you asked him.

A friend has a little dog who hates / is afraid of men (she was a rescue, I think she’d experienced some cruelty). However when she says “Please don’t touch the dog, she doesn’t like men”, men pretty much always ignore her … then are quite affronted when she growls at them.

Can't see where the drama is to be honest. Brother threw stick, you asked him not to. He gave back a bit of an unnecessary comment. You explain why you were making the request. Seems like a barely memorable conversation to me.

YANBU about the sticks. We never throw sticks for our dog for all the reasons in the links above.

Did he stop after you’d asked him not to throw sticks? The fun police quip would piss me off, but I wouldn’t necessarily expect people who don’t own dogs to realise the dangers.

We also don’t throw balls for our dog after twisting to catch an oddly bouncing ball lead to a busted cruciate ligament, a £5k operation and 8 weeks of her living in a pen. I’m desperate not to have to go through that again with the other leg - she still runs off lead, etc, just not chasing balls.

Luckily most people understand and don’t throw balls for her but there’s always one that argues with me about it.

Hey bro can you not chuck sticks, I just don’t want to encourage the pup to chase sticks’

YABU

If you had included consequences in that initial ask; all of this could be avoided.

"Hey bro can you not chuck sticks, I just don’t want to encourage the pup to chase sticks because I've seen lots of evidence to suggest it results in injuries and huge vet bills" (or whatever it was that drove you to ask him not too)

You're saying why you dont want something done... instead of DONT DO IT.

Regardless of whether or not sticks (or balls, or anything else) are safe for dogs to fetch, if my sibling (or any dog owner) asked me to stop something I was doing with their pet, I'd stop it immediately (and then ask why, out of curiosity). It was rude of him to push back against your wishes with your own dog. You could have just told him your reasoning right away, but he also didn't have to accuse you of being the fun police.

On the other hand, it doesn't sound that dramatic, but maybe this is just the latest example of people (family?) not respecting your wishes? If it happens all the time, that would certainly be annoying.

No he didn’t stop. He was just being a D**k

Yeah they can do, and then sharps in to their stomachs. My other dog once had a stick stuck in its jaw.

This…..
i also have a log burner in the house and she’s constantly stealing bits of wood to chew on so I’m trying to not encourage it.

He didn’t listen. And tends to just do whatever he wants with anything in general. Quite selfish in general.

And apparently I’m being over dramatic?

This is it, this is my wish and I asked nicely to not do it and then I get called fun police and the grumpy…. Bla bla. Just wondering if anyone else has this with family….

I know right, I kept having dreams of my dog running for sticks!!!!!! Wonder how I’ll sleep tonight!

Oh trust me I have a lot going on in my life, I guess getting opinions from non family members who are not bias was the aim here. I guess you don’t have family, or you live the perfect life. Either way enjoy 😊

No thanks we’re pretty good on the family drama front ourselves. And I’m a very resilient person. I just wondered if anyone else in other circumstances were experiencing people not respecting their wishes!

I don’t take things on my walks, I like to encourage them to be independent rather than chase a ball back and forth. Thanks for the advice from family members. I’m very shocked at how many people have no idea sticks are dangerous.

He also has a dog. I’m surprised he didn’t know and also respect that I said ahh don’t chuck sticks please. He is childish and selfish so for me to spend extra time explaining why would have gone over his head and I’d have been even more the ‘fun police’.

I’ve just copied this and sent it to him…. From the fun police. Thanks. 😂

Is drama in the room with us 👀