Husband wants to move to dubai

[Dilemma87]

My husband is a businessman in property and with the recent proposed tax changes and new rules putting limits on how long he can keep doing things from the UK, he’s now saying he needs to move to Dubai and operate from there.

We actually have some friends there, and his business partner is already based out there, so on paper it all sounds easy enough. His plan is to buy a second property in Dubai and move there by himself, while I stay here with the kids.

The problem is, the children are really settled one’s in high school and the other is due to start soon, so moving them just isn’t an option. He’s suggested that we (me and the kids) fly out to Dubai every school holiday to spend time with him.

The catch is, under his visa he can only be out of Dubai for 90 days a year, so he’d basically have to live there full-time.

AIBU to think this is just not going to work long-term? I can’t help but feel like this is the start of living completely separate lives.

I don’t blame him, stay in the UK and work and be bled dry to keep the unemployed, asylum seekers and the economically inactive youth.

As Jeremy Clarkson said

"WHAT I HATE MOST ABOUT LABOUR IS THEY BELIEVE IF YOU WORK HARD ALL YOUR LIFE AND MAKE SOME SAVINGS FOR YOUR OLD AGE, THOSE SAVINGS ARE THEIRS. AND THAT THEY SHOULD BE GIVEN TO PEOPLE WHO HAVEN'T WORKED AT ALL"

This is why people want to leave the UK 🇬🇧

Go it is a better life there

"AIBU to think this is just not going to work long-term? I can’t help but feel like this is the start of living completely separate lives."

I'm sorry but it really looks as if this is the beginning of the end of your marriage. Your husband values money over family life, over you, over his children. I dare say he's got one foot out of the door already. You clearly doubt he will remain faithful once he moves himself there.

I think you should be looking at this pragmatically. How can you ensure this money-centric man doesn't financially shaft you and the children one you are out of sight and out of mind? Is it better to initiate a divorce now, or to let him divorce you in a couple of years once he tires of the pretence of still being a part of the family? To have some sort of contract drawn up before he leaves? Or - what? I wouldn't know where to start, except maybe by getting some legal advice.

No, I’m sure he’s paid his fair share up to now. It’s the fact he’s happy to split up his family to pay less than his fair share in future that is disgusting.

Yes, high earners have contributed to society - or at least the ones that don’t evade their tax responsibilities. I was taking exception to your sneering post implying that teachers simply live off other people’s taxes.

Taxes are unreasonably high on high earners. High earners are taxed at Scandinavian levels. Basic rate tax payers pay very very little compared with Scandinavian levels.

It is a weird aggressive tone.
Almost like propaganda.

Poster is like a Monty Python ranting Dubai Marketing Board.

I'd normally so go, your children will have a much better lige out there.
But I would say a couple needs to be solid, and if he's so blithe about living away from you then that doesn't sound great - however you'll know the state of your marriage best.

I used to know a couple in a similar situation. He was domiciled elsewhere (not Dubai) for tax purposes and couldn’t spend more than 90 days here, whilst his wife and baby son lived here. Their relationship didn’t last long but I got the impression that was what he wanted, really.

You are missing the point.

That too. Everyone should pay.

He’s set up a company abroad to avoid tax thus far, by the sounds of it, so I wouldn’t be too sure of that. He’s moving because the government has closed that avenue of tax avoidance.

I was literally answering a point you made. I can’t see anything else to respond to in that post

Fair point

I’m berating people trying to avoid paying their share.

People are entitled to move for better life opportunities, they're not slaves of the UK government.

This.
I wouldn't dream of moving happy teens.
Unfortunately you are the parent that is going to have to put them first.

It must be nice to be so naive as to take everything the BBC and Guardian says as gospel. Even after the BBC is publicly disgraced for lying.

some high earners in a few years can contribute tenfold of what others contribute in a lifetime.
are people not allowed to move abroad anymore?

Indeed they are. And I’m entitled to judge them if they are only doing it to avoid tax, but leaving behind a family who will use the infrastructure that tax pays for.

You think anyone would benefitcfrom
moving to Dubai….

How would the children benefit?

Of course they can move abroad. It’s a bit off to do so for tax avoidance reasons but leave behind a family who will still use the infrastructure tax pays for though.

What do you want? Are you surprised? It sounds like he's more into his business than he is his marriage/family? So he would be in UK for up to 90 days a year and yiy would go for how much/many of the school holidays? I'd probably want to map it out on a calendar if I was seriously considering it. The thing is you won't want to spend every school holiday in Dubai. Have you been and do you like it there?

I'd love to only see my DH a few times a year.
Sadly for me it'll never happen 😂

Of course they can move abroad. The whole point of the OP, though - which the Monty Python Dubai Marketing Board (love that!) on here has missed - is that the husband doesn’t want his family to join him. And, the OP later reveals, that he has a liking for “female friends”.

I cannot fathom the mentality of a man who would rather live away from his family for 9 months a year than pay slightly more tax. I also doubt he wants to move for the tax breaks alone. What’s the betting he’s had his head turned by the lifestyle content being constantly pushed on social media.