Partner called me his ex’s name during sex

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We’ve been together over a year now. Am I right in thinking that’s a major red flag? He said he didn’t mean anything by it and it was an accident.

Its not big deal its just force of habit, I've done it myself several times, nobody died.
In other relationships my mother hasn't called me by my correct name for years its always my sisters name and vice versa. It means nothing.

If he's never done it ever before at any other time, then yes it's weird and suss.

I also did this once during sex with a boyfriend of a couple of years. Called him by an exes name AND THEN made it worse by saying “I’m so sorry, I was just thinking about him” 🙈

In my defence, my ex was giving me a lot of hassle at that moment (we share a child together ) so my thoughts were definitely not sexy.

This.

I've been divorced over 10 years and have recently called my dh by my ex's name . It didn't mean a thing , never think about him so it wasn't on my mind and came from nowhere ( wasn't during sex though )

Also this.

(Personally I think the pp suggesting that he did it in purpose to make you feel insecure, probably says more about their previous partners, however, doesn’t mean it’s not true, I just wouldn’t go there so soon. It would all depend on the broader context and his behaviour in general)

20 years ago I'd have been very upset about this. But now I I get names mixed up all the time and can see how easily done it is and how it doesn't mean anything at all.

My partner once did this. I wasn’t worried. I didn’t think it was a red flag. I didn’t LTB. We just both got over it and moved on. Ten years later I still haven’t LTB. Sorry I have such appalling standards.

Oooh that would be a no from me!!!

I did this once. Most embarrassing.

Thereafter I only ever had sex with people with the same name, until I found one to marry.

Nah, he’s done it on purpose. Mind games

Yikes. I did that once during sex with an ex, most embarrassing thing ever. I can honestly say that I wasn’t thinking about him though and I don’t know why I said it.

Similar names?

What the helly