Mid argument with boyfriend

[Whatwouldyoudo111]

Will try to keep this short and sweet, however I need opinions.

As per the title, mid argument with boyfriend as I feel he has lied to me about where he stayed on two separate occasions earlier in our relationship (have been together for 13 months). He has denied this, but regardless during this argument I spitefully brought up his ex partner, insinuating she is a plain Jane (yes I know) and he came back to me and said she isn’t she has great tits a great ass and an athletic body she’s fit. He then reaffirmed she does have great tits!

He has since apologised and has said he said it to hurt me, but I honestly feel he’s crossed a serious line in already a pretty serious predicament we were in.

wwyd? AIBU? For the record he is 33.

Honestly you both sound daft - silly tit for tat mud slinging

you mention his age but not yours, are you both in your 30’s? So much silly drama

You were admittedly being spiteful and you then didn’t like how he reacted…. Serves you right 🤷‍♀️ he’s not going to agree with you she’s a plain Jane, he obviously found her attractive as he was with her. Play stupid games win stupid prizes

It sounds like you are both saying things to hurt each other. Take a step away, calm down and then talk again when you are both feeling more rational

I think you need to grow up

Also if you don’t trust him then what he has said is not really your issue. How long ago were these instances he stayed away? Why don’t you believe him? If it is something you keep bringing up then can’t see how you will move past it

You let yourself down there didn't you.

Pathetic

He crossed a line because you crossed one first. You sound like you deserve each other.

It sounds like he match your level of spite.

What are you getting from this relationship? It sounds doomed tbh if this is the way you speak to each other

YABU. He was not BU.

stop insulting other women when you argue with your boyfriend .

I’d say that’ll learn you, but at a guess it probably won’t.

Some women do have great tits; sounds like she’s one of them as he mentioned them twice.

Its pretty mean spirited of you to have a go at an ex about the way she looks- you deserve to feel uncomfortable about his response.

And when his next partner slags you off, you can be confident that he will speak of you fondly too.

Oh pathetic 🙄

You started it, you're in no position to try and claim the moral high ground. Talk about childish.

Six of one….

What did you think would happen bringing up his ex like that

You're both being ridiculous

But I quite like him for defending her against the bitchy comment about her looks.

You need to apologise OP

It was a retaliation to your shitty comment. I don't think you have any right to be so pissed off with him.

We've all checked out a partners ex at some point or another or know what they look like.

My partner's ex clearly wasn't into him. They were together for 5 mins, she was still emotionally attached to her ex and actually slept over night in her exes bed whilst she was with my current partner. He believes her that no sex took place 🤨Even if she didnt shag her ex her behaviour was still unacceptable and I'd count it as cheating.

He didn't sound that into her either some of the stuff he has said.

When he mentions her I could say your ex was in bed with her ex a month after she started seeing you, so you didnt set her world on fire.

What's the point? He's not with her anymore he's with me. If he wanted to tolerate cheating behaviour that's his business.

Is that where you're going with this. Did you bring his ex up because you think he lied about where he was because he was with her? That changes the map a little bit. Maybe that's why he's defending her.

It's not unheard of my current partner.ToleratedHis ex sleeping overnight in her ex's bed and I cannot believe he didn't dump her for that.Although he said he nearly did. The whole thing was over in less than four months.Anyway, so it was neither here nor there.

Is that where you re going with this?That you think he was with her?

Sounds like a not of growing up to do all round.

Why are you arguing about nothing. Leave the bloke alone, stop dragging up crap or end it.

Of course he came back, you started it and pretty nastily too

Not sure why your pissed off OP you tried to point score, comment on a woman's appearance etc and your bf simply retaliated and defended your attack.

Sounds like you tried to chuck an egg at him only for him to catch it without breaking and lob it back!

Either way you need to examine why you wanted to be spiteful in an argument.

I'm not sure that's true.She thinks he lied about where he was.Twice, and I do wonder if she brought his ex.Up because she thinks he was with her.

Seeing as he so quick to say what amazing tits she has possibly he was.