Has anyone been bullied for having a teen mum?

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Has anyone been bullied because their mother was in her mid teens when they were born? In a class of 30 are there likely to be many others with mums that young?

No but I was bullied for having an older mum (40s at the time)

My mental health as a child was a mess because of it, it shaped me into an angry, bitter and resentful person.

To be honest I think you're projecting your insecurities. Dont waste your headspace assuming people are talking about you, people have children at all ages and I dont think anyone cares.
None of my children's friends or peers speak about how old their parents are, its just not a thing.
I dont think you have anything to worry about.

My DD 18, has a friend who's grandma is 5 years younger than me. Bit jealous really 😕.

I had a teen mum. By the time kids would even be thinking about the age of their peers mum they wouldn't notice the age differences. The only person I remember being teased about the age of their mum was a boy with an older mum who could've passed for his gran.

I remember being 12 years old and we somehow all found out that a classmates mother was only 29. It was the talk of the school for about a week and then everyone seemed to forget about it. I’m sure it wasn’t a pleasant week for the boy.

I’m in my 50s and even back then it was an affluent enough area that the demographics tended to skew towards older parents who waited at least a few years after the mother’s graduated from university before having children.

But even if you have a baby at 16, by the time they go to school you would have to be early twenties - so maybe ten years younger than some other mums but hardly school age yourself. And kids think everyone 'grown up' is old, they have no knowledge of what constitutes a 'young mum'. For all they know, there are mums who are ten and mums who are a hundred. And a lot of kids have absolutely no idea how old their mum even is!

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What would be a greater disadvantage then?

I don’t really see how they would be able tell the exact ages of parents?

I am one of the younger mums but I can only roughly age the other school parents, but can easily be 5+ years out.

No, it's the other way around. My classmate was made fun of, because his mum was a 'granny' (had him late 30s/early 40s).

There was one boy who had a teenage mum. Others thought it was cool, because she was youthful, good-looking, liked 'modern' music, etc. Didn't nag like older parents, more 'with it', that sort of thing.

I was 25 when i had my 2nd and he always moans that i am older than his friends mums and it's embarrassing!

I think you can't win as a parent and whatever you do it embarrasses them.

I’m a shortass, a reasonable amount of the year 6s at his school are taller than me. I’d say pretty much all the other parents are taller than me and there’s over thirty children in the class.
And this isn’t a brag because I wish it wasn’t true with all the negative attention it gets me but I look about 4/5 years younger than I am

I think the difficulty would come from other parents, rather than the kids.

My DD had her DD, now 14, at 18. DGD now tells me that her friends think it is so cool to have a younger mum, and also say that I, DGMa look more like her mum.

I did most of the school run when DGD was
at primary school and the mothers were closer to my age.

At primary school, as PPs have said, all adults look old. Her school friends did start to ask DGD questions around year 5 and 6. Nothing nasty though. They just compared mums ages. Children don’t have stigmas unless put there by adults, I think. They are just curious. Let them be! Also instil them with confidence and all the good qualities in life that allows them to be proud of their mums, whatever age they are, because mums come in all shapes, sizes and ages!

Looking back, some friends’ mums must have been teens when they had them. I never noticed what with all adults being old!

I don't see why they'd know. Primary school kids have no concept of age. My 5 yo would believe me if I told her I was 15 or 207. By the time they are old enough to know what age parents are, you will be well into your 20s and they won't know if you're older and look young or actually young.

I was 17 when I had my son. Hes now 16. Its never been an issue for him/us. I still look quite young for my age so at high school parents evenings I do get certain looks.

I've also been told its strange how strict I am with him "considering my age" but id say I hold the same standards as most reasonable parents!

My mother was 17 when she had me. The only time I remember it being remarked upon was at my university graduation, where another graduate said something along the lines of that's your mum? In a really shocked voice and I just explained that she'd had me very young.

My mum was a teen mum. No one would have dared bully my sister over it.

I had a teenage Mum. Nobody at school really noticed until about year 9 when we started discussing our parents age. Nobody cared. My Mum was far less 'strict' than theirs which they thought was cool.

No one cared at primary and no one really had anything to do with each others parents at secondary. My mum was 17 and very small and young looking. When I was about 10, she looked about 25 but to 10 year olds, that’s ancient and nobody batted an eyelid. My sister had her eldest at 16, the only issue she had was feeling out of mum cliques at school gates because most of them didn’t have their first until around 30 in her daughter’s year. The kids themselves didn’t care one bit.

It has definitely been more annoying me as I have grown up and people keep thinking we are sisters. My Mum is always delighted. Me, not so much!

Not at all, when they're young kids can't tell the difference, and once they get a bit older having younger parents is seen as cool. My parents were older and I can remember wishing they were younger.

Sorry you went through that same thing happened to my little brother some people can be horrible xx

My mum was 20 and married when she had me, but very young looking. She said she used to get filthy looks when she was pregnant because they assumed she was a teen pregnancy. Never an issue once I was at school, except in my late teens when all the boys in my year fancied her. That was a bit cringey.