So I thought I'd give an update on the way things worked out now that it's over.
I was ill for 6 weeks in the end. Apart from the firestick issue and the spanking which I corrected him on, everything was fine for the first month. He was great, very caring and kind to me. It was only once I got better everytime we went out he'd want me to pay for meals and drinks. Then I found out he was a binge drinker who had an attitude that I did not recognise when he was drunk. There was no malice in him in the nasty way, tone of voice etc, but his whole personality changed. He used to spend the day after in my bed asleep. He is on strong prescription painkillers for nerve pain in his shoulder. I said you should not be drinking this way. The meds made him drowsy anyway, even without the alcohol. He let his daughter down one day because he was still in bed at my house. She is 7.
The weekend after that he let me down after a night drinking with friends. Said he'd got flu. He left me on read when I asked whether I was still seeing him later. I think he was so hungover that he'd lost the entire day. Swore blind he didn't see my messages until the next day, even though he messaged me first on said day.
Then new year and he got a flat tyre and let me down again. He messaged me to say he was really down that he couldn't see me and that he loved me. I'm one of the best things to happen to him this year etc. I phone him. He never answers. He'd finally invited me round to his flat but I couldn't go that week as I had other commitments. So at least I got an invite and he didn't know I couldn't make it.
Said he'd let me read his phone as he had nothing to hide. I didn't. Didn't want to anyway. I didn't ask in the first place.
So when he let me down on NY, I went back online to the site where I met him. I hadn't been on that site since the night I met him, but he has. Said it was to look at my photos which I didn't believe. He posted a new pic of himself last week on Christmas Day. I messaged him on the site instead of WhatsApp which is our usual site. The last message he sent there was telling me he loved me and he was really down about not seeing me at NY etc. But he hasn't seen anything I've sent back.
He said he bought me a present for Christmas which he never gave me. He bought me a Basque earlier this month. Said my present was all wrapped up.
Never have I seen so many red flags in this time frame. It's scary. It's totally over now, obviously. At least no one can say I didn't give him a chance.
This all happened during 2 months. That's it. Most of it happened in one month.
I know I'll get people calling me stupid for dragging it out so long, but really it's no time at all. It was just getting Christmas out the way.
People put up with this shit for years. I'd rather die. So know you know what he was. A cheating cocklodger.