Part time working

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If you work 3 days a week, have a dh and adult dcs living at home who work 5 days a week, do you think it's reasonable that you do all of the housework, shopping on the 2 days when you're not working? This isn't a reverse.

Yanbu- yes you should do all of the tasks
Yabu- no you shouldn't do all of the tasks

I work 3 days a week. I don’t do any chores on my days off. But I do pay for a cleaner, do all the laundry in the house and order the online shopping (not hard tbf!).

Most, but everyone should be pitching in

Yes but it doesn't need to be every minute, just schedule the tasks to include some me time as well. A full day you could easily do the shop, a washing load and tidy and clean or spread them over 2 mornings. Then anything else can be done as usual at weekends. X

Mine are teens and I work similar. We have a sunday clean - takes us all about 1/2 hours.
Then I manage day to day cooking, shopping, daily cleaning.

i think it should be proportional, you should do the most of it, keeping the main area clean and tidy, and most of the cooking. But it’s not unreasonable to expect everyone else to cook one night a week each, and make sure their own laundry is done.

youalright

does your dh honestly do things like Halloween costumes or changing sheets? A day off dh might mop the floor or clean the bathroom if it really needs it but imo women do all the extra things, the organising for swimming, the ‘he needs this for a project’ stuff etc etc. that’s what I mean, women have something to do always, whereas a man takes an actual day off

I work part-time as in I finish lunch time each day. I do some of the house work in the afternoon if I feel like it! I also cook each night. My kids clean their rooms and my husband helps me at the weekend. Tbh we just all pitch in there's no expectation that one person does it all.

Yes, I work 3 days a week, DH works full time, and we have 2 school age children. I do all of the laundry, grocery shopping, meal planning, cooking, cleaning, and school drop off / pick up. We share the gardening and bigger jobs like diy / declutterring etc.

Part time - 3 days - I do most of the day to day chores but bigger jobs e.g gardens, cars are shared.

At the weekend we share cooking, running kids around etc.

Adult dc should do their own washing and make a meal each week. This should include the shopping and clearing up afterwards.

How odd that you think putting a wash on and hanging it up to dry, then putting it away would take up his weekend. It probably takes 30 minutes of his time in total. He’s very good at fitting it in, usually puts it in on Friday evening and hangs it before he plays football on Saturday morning, then puts away on Saturday evening.

In our house, it’s expected that everyone pulls their weight. I am busy enough without running around doing things for people that they are capable of doing themselves.

My older one is at uni now, and I’m so glad I taught them how to be independent from a young age. Some of their housemates had no idea how to use a washing machine, or cook healthy food. Some of them had never even put the rubbish out before

I am not worried 😂
there are enough years between being a pre-teen and going to uni to master chores. No need to do them on a weekly basis, when adults pay for a cleaner anyway. Same with cooking, they haven't got time to cook a meal every week. Priority is homework, good marks and exams.

I managed perfectly well at Uni, so did my kids dad.

The best time for them to learn, and really learn, is when you leave them alone for a week or more. That's when they realise what they know, and what they actually are stuck with.

Again, I never did any chores when I was a child, I don't think we even did anything when we were teens, my parents had a cleaner. House chores are not rocket science, even a monkey could do them, literally (thinking about a program about monkey assisting disabled people, before someone tries to twist this into some weird random insult that wasn't one)

@TheZanyZebra Like you, I don't think I did much in the way of housework as a child either and I survived too!
My dcs also did fine when we went away and left them to their own devices. Didn't worry about them managing at all.

Im assuming your adult kids are paying rent/keep at a highly subsidised rate (by you)? They should be doing their proper share.

You have 2 full days extra, and it sounds like the others pitch in with cleaning their bedrooms and cooking - so im not sure what’s left that you think is going to take so much time, as long as they are tidy after themselves?

I work pt.

Everybody pitches in.

Someday I feel like cracking on and doing housework but other days id rather go walking in Cumbria or swimming or just catching up with my friends.
Dh's view is that 'isnt that the point of part time, so you have a good work life balance and can enjoy doi g the things you like doing.'

We dont have designated tasks, everyone just does what needs doing. Dh did ' a big shop' on Friday after work, I batch cooked very early Saturday morning. Ds1(who doesn't live with us) put the laundry on, got it dry and put it away.

Everyone should chip in with chores.

I work 3 days a week but have primary aged children. I use my days at home on my own to cook, clean, tidy, house admin etc (basically I look at it as work that keeps the family going) but anything i don’t get done gets shared between me and DH.

I wouldn’t expect you to be sitting around when everyone else is at work but equally I’d not expect everyone else to be sitting around at home if you were still working (as in doing housework etc). Explain that cleaning and cooking are your ‘job’ when they are at work, but when they all get home you revert to just being at home too.

Why do you work part time? Do you not need the full time salary? Is it so you could have two days off to focus on a hobby or interest? Did you go part time as a step towards retirement?

How much housework is there if your DC are grown up and out of the house all day?

I would expect DC to take care of their own bedrooms (keep tidy, dust, hoover, change their own bed sheets), that’s their personal space that I would not want to intrude on. I would also expect them and DP to do their own ironing because I hate it!

I would expect everyone to keep the house tidy, put their things into the dishwasher, put their stuff away etc.

That leaves you to dust and hoover the main living areas, clean the kitchen and bathroom, do the laundry - I’d think I’d take that on as opposed to another day in the office!

It wasn't so much that I'm complaining it was just people's opinions I was after in general really but thanks.

Oh I agree with you 100%! The actual hoovering, mopping and dusting really doesn't take too long- it's everything else!

Why can't your adult kids clean? Your DH can cook sometimes and do a food shop. You aren't a slave!