Has anyone manifested a romantic partner or is it all nonsense to you?

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Just that really?
please tell me your experiences or if none, why you think it’s rubbish.
I’ve manifested financial surprises, gave up smoking and drinking and a healthy body.
The most recent intention I have is to enjoy a romantic relationship again in middle age.
Aibu to think this is possible when it involves human relationship rather than a ‘thing’ or an’action’?

I know those who’ve done it & written lists. It’s not magic, just very clear intention.

Yes, I did. Multiple times.. Didn't get it right until the last one hah.

I'm not going to go into a LOT of detail of it all as I am well aware it sounds absolutely bonkers. I do tell my husband that I manifested him coming into my life... He does think I'm bonkers, thankfully he likes that about me haha. He thinks its sweet.

Just make sure you think fully what you want. Don't half ass it, else you'll get someone half-assed walk into your life. Or "not quite right" - i.e exactly what you thought you wanted, but he has commitment issues because you didn't specify you wanted someone committed lol.

So, be detailed and thorough! And you're not dreaming up a man of course, you're opening yourself up to walking into his life or into yours... So when opportunities to meet people start happening, take them. Even if you usually wouldn't. That's it working!

In my limited understanding of it is that it means setting out to achieve something..is what people have done forever. Want X job, train for it and apply. Want friends or a partner, put yourself in social situations and make yourself appealing. Want a financial boost, look at organising your finances, seeking promotion or whatever. Sitting there wishing...no.

Yes. It was a 100 point list that I had to write. I learnt about it in an Oprah magazine almost 20 years ago.

I met my husband within a couple of months of writing the list. He hit 97 of the 100 points. The missing points were really random, like sock colour, so no biggie!

It's nothing to do with magic.

You decide what you want and go and look for it and try and make it happen. Sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn't. But you didn't manifest anything.

A partner is more difficult because they re not just a career aim or a hobby
They are a person with their own wants needs feelings and goals. No, partner is ever going to be perfect or tick every single box. You can't magic a perfect partner out of thin air.

Manifestation in the sense you mean is total and utter bollocks. By that I mean imagining something will happen and it appearing.

If you mean having a firm aim, and preparing for and executing a plan to get it, then yes, that’s likely to lead to success.

What @Peaceshout said!
I’m not sitting around with a list waving a wand and hoping Mr Right knocks on my door.
But I am going out tonight and will be looking good, noticing who else is out and chatting to them to see what happens.
Intentional actions lead to what you want. Not crossing your fingers and hoping.

No, you can't 'manifest' anything. It's not real.

You didn't 'manifest' giving up smoking and drinking - you just set your mind to it and did it. That's not manifestation. It's just doing a thing. Your financial surprises were good luck, and I'm pleased for you, but you didn't make them happen by thinking about them.

You can certainly think very carefully about exactly what you want from a partner and put genuine effort and determination into finding someone like that, and (crucially) not settling for someone who doesn't meet all the criteria. But you can't 'manifest' someone by thinking about them.

If 'manifesting' actually worked, nobody would be poor and everyone would have their perfect partner.

I mean, I set out to live my best life and become interesting and attractive, having fun along the way, and it happened. How is manifesting different?

I prayed and asked God for a specific set of things, I said novenas, prayers to saints and truly believed my prayers would be heard
over a number of really hard years, God saw my tears and heard all my prayers and now I have everything and more than I asked for. Thanks be to God. This modern day 'manifesting' is rubbish, God wants to give you what you need but people dont ask as they dont believe or dont persevere in prayer.

If only it were that easy “ put yourself in a social situation & make yourself appealing “ 😂 😂

It’s not easy but it’s definitely more likely to achieve results than sitting at home imagining the perfect partner turning up on your doorstep!

I’m sure those in war zones or with terminal illnesses would be interested to hear how manifesting can solve all their problems 🙄

What a load of absolute nonsense.

"My pretend magic is real but yours is rubbish"

Yes I did . 21 years happily together now

Exactly..I meant scrub up a bit, arm yourself with some interesting knowledge or topics of conversation, learn social cues if it doesn't come naturally and go join some hobby groups or whatever. Unless you're crippled with social anxiety, which far too many people seem to be these days, it's not that hard.

You have not manifested / it sounds like you believe it worked so a mixture of luck ( finances ) and placebo effect ( everything else ) placebo effect is very real

it’s another way to keep people down - believe that everything really is in your control if you just believe enough so when life fails you, it’s your fault

it stops you challenging structural societal problems

as someone else hinted - it’s praying to god for the secular generation

for everyone who has success others have failure but those who have success believe it was their efforts and thoughts not luck or other skills , and those who fail blame themselves for not trying hard enough

Hallelujah everybody. We can just pray hard enough and persevere with novenas, and no one will be poor or malnourished or live in war zones or see their kids die. Appropriate username Fiddlesticks357, though not quite adequate enough.

There is no supernatural benefit to manifesting.

However, the technique of thinking through exactly what you want in life can make you more alert to spotting opportunities and looking where you might not have looked before - it can make you realise that X thing or person ticks all the boxes even though it's been under your nose all the time, that sort of thing.

So there is no harm in practising the technique as long as you don't view it as a magic wand that can perform miracles. "Manifesting" Brad Pitt as your new partner is never going to work, but knowing what you want, what are the dealbreakers and what are your compromise points, might help you spot that actually the friend-of-a-friend who seemed vaguely interested in you might potentially be a match worth exploring.

I think it's about energy and the vibes we give off. If we tell ourselves that nobody will want us then it can be a self fulfilling prophecy. We have to do our bit - but the right mindset helps.

I have.

Basically I met a man on Tinder and my body said 'no' as soon as we met, but he was so sweet, so handsome, the first date was so lovely and he treated me so well, we got together anyway for five years. It came to an end amicably because it wasn't right, but I had known that in my heart and gone forward anyway, so when it ended I was angry with myself and swore I mustn't do that again.

I then spent two years single, working on myself, working on why I went against my inner knowing and vowing not to do it again and when I was ready I started 'asking the universe for everything'. That is how I think of it.

I vowed to be serious about my choices, to listen to my gut, to act on it, not to tolerate red flags, not to let anything get started if I wasn't sure. I then went back on Tinder and started dating, one or two dates here and there and not letting anything get started - until I met who I am now married to. Right from the start I could tell he was different and instead of worries about 'is this right?' I had glimmers of 'God just LOOK at him!' He does things, even this last weekend, that make me sit down and smile (this weekend it was how he talked to the son of a mate who has just died and the son was crying to him on the phone).

I always tell people that I 'asked the Universe for everything this time, I'm not mucking about' and I do firmly believe that I got it.

That's not manifesting though, it's just getting back out there with the learnings you've got from your previous experience.

You didn't meet your husband because you asked the universe for him.

Manifestation like horoscopes and previous fads is a load of nonsense.

However the positive thinking and knowing what you want that comes out of manifestation can be very helpful in all parts of life.

You are responsible though, not some magic.

Well, I believe that I did. And I believed that I would. And I have.

Not in a magic way, but in a confident, decisive way then yes, that’s how most things get achieved in life I’ve realised
Eg 18 months ago a switch flipped in me and I said I’m gonna put myself out there, be a confident kickarse woman, say yes to every opportunity, just enjoy myself.
I never knew I’d be waking up in bed with my lost love from 20 years ago 😍, but doing all the things above have led me to this moment. I am still in shock, and it does feel like magic but it isn’t, just taking life into my own hands. I didn’t even have him in mind when I started, but putting myself out there led to our paths crossing.
Positive things in life can sometimes just happen to us, but why wait for that? When you can triple your chances of it by leading it yourself.