To admit that maybe I am attractive?

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When I was a teenager, I struggled badly with acne, and it completely shattered my confidence. I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror. I dated a few people, and sometimes others would comment that I was much more attractive than the guy I was with - saying things like I was “out of his league.” But I never believed them. I always saw myself as pretty average.

Then somehow, I ended up with someone I found incredibly handsome, and I couldn’t wrap my head around why he was drawn to me or thought I was attractive.

Lately though, it feels like something has shifted - like a lightbulb moment. I can finally see myself the way others seem to. And without trying to sound big-headed, I do think I’m fairly attractive. I’ve noticed that people tend to treat me more kindly because of it (which doesn’t really seem fair, honestly). If I went to a bar with friends, I would often be hit on by people who are attractive. Once, I was even approached by a legitimate modeling agency.

I wish that were true but I actually am quite hideous now 😭

This makes me think of that famous phrase “Youth is wasted on the young”.

No, not at all, go for it! At the very least, this mindset will do wonders for your confidence, which is essential for getting on in life. Go you! 👏👏❤️

Ah I don't think that's true at all. My mum is 83 and is far from ugly (obviously I love her very much so am not objective however she genuinely still is a nice looking woman).

No! Old doesn’t mean ugly! My MIL is 85 and beautiful actually, does yoya, walking! Inspirational!

Bloody hell, why is she being unreasonable to say she's attractive? What a bunch of jealous, censorious tightarses some of you are!!! I bet you're drop dead gorgeous, OP, get out and flaunt it while you've got it. ❤️

Just because you get old (not everyone is lucky enough to) doesn’t mean you’ll get ugly. Yeah you won’t get 20 year olds wanting to fuck you but there’s lots of stunning women who are older. Genuinely attractive people tend to stay that way

Glad for you that you feel better about yourself. Hope this is helpful for you.

Glad for you that you feel better about yourself. Hope this is helpful for you.

Glad for you that you feel better about yourself. Hope this is helpful for you.

That’s absolutely untrue…well the ugly part at least. What an ageist comment. There are plenty of attractive people in their 60s, 70s and 80s. If you’ve not had ill health, drink too much or smoked, have looked after your diet and exercised, you just look like an aged version of yourself. If you were attractive when you were young, you are when you’re older too.

I’m genuinely pleased to hear someone consider themself attractive. Far too many women and girls seem unhappy or insecure in their appearance, probably made worse now by social media but even before then it’s always been the way. More and more feel pressured to get work done these days. I wish more women would feel about themselves the way you do now. I hope my daughters know that they’re beautiful one day.

I'm glad you feel more confident now, but honestly - the way people look is the least interesting thing about them.

I could not care less whether other people think I'm fanciable or not.

Yes same thing happened to me. 😂

I often tell my cat how beautiful she is, and she really is. But I think she's onto something when she replies, "Thanks, but it's the least interesting thing about me".

It's nice to be attractive but not good to be obsessive about it. Botox, fillers, facelifts etc... there are more important things to think about/ worry about than what we look like.

Another hard disagree for the “everyone gets old and ugly” comment. I see loads of beautiful older women, my MIL is one, she’s 84 and looks fantastic . Enjoy your new found confidence OP.

My DH says there’s nothing less sexy than a woman who obviously knows how attractive she is.

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Not if you look after yourself. And confidence increases.

And also name changed and posted it in a different area of the site?

Also you sound quite young, OP. I was always told I was pretty but then felt less confident in my teens. It started to recover from 17 onwards, and by my 20s if someone was chatting me up I understood they were actually interested and not taking the piss. Enjoy being fabulous.

Ok - but you sound fixated on looks. This post makes me really glad I raised my daughters to be interesting women, with a love of art, science, travel.

It's more common than you'd think going by what I read on here! I've seen lots of comments by posters lamenting that they look back at old photos etc and wish they'd known how gorgeous they were. Nothing wrong with enjoying your looks 😊

This is very.... something. There's not a chance that you are just discovering that you are attractive 🙄
I am considered very attractive, and not a chance would I not know it. I've dealt with unwanted attention since childhood that resulted in abuse of all kinds.
My point is, you would have known before now that you are attractive, which is great for you, but really not a profound moment in your life? There is far more to life than how you look. And it's not worth so much headspace.

I'm not intending to sound mean!

No it’s just boring. No one cares in general how “attractive” you are. Attractive is a quality of someone’s whole person- not their looks.