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To think it's time for a woman to be Prime Minister

230 replies

Cinnamon77 · 30/10/2025 06:34

It doesn't look like Starmer is going to be PM for much longer but all the favourites to replace him are men.

Every female PM we've had has been Conservative - no woman has ever led the Labour Party before.

Wouldn't it be an improvement to have a left wing woman running the country, like we've seen elsewhere? There are many good female MPs in Labour like Raynor, Mahmood, Huq, Phillips, Siddiq, Leadbeater, Thornberry, Dodds, Kendall, Haigh, Butler and Reeves (Ellie, not Rachel).

Why aren't any of them contenders and wouldn't we be doing better if one of them was in charge?

OP posts:
surreygirly · 12/11/2025 09:02

gannett · 12/11/2025 09:00

I admire Angela Rayner for her achievements in relation to her background, but I never wanted to see her rise to the heights. I'm sorry - call me a snob, but I couldn't see her as PM, meeting international statesmen/women on the world stage. And I'm also old-fashioned in that I think you need to tone down your sex-appeal too, in that context...the flowing locks etc don't give the right message. I know I'll get pounced on for saying that, but it's a considered opinion and I stand by it.

Good lord we have a long way to go. Breathtaking misogyny and classism all in one paragraph.

You can consider that the pounce.

No states person would respect her after her lies
Could not care less about her background

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:03

England is a shitshow at the moment nd it is due to selfish men at the top, making selfishness get into the culture everywhere. There is no empathy or kindness.

Countries with female leaders have a lot more kindness, empathy and respect for both men and women.

CoffeeCantata · 12/11/2025 09:07

gannett · 12/11/2025 09:00

I admire Angela Rayner for her achievements in relation to her background, but I never wanted to see her rise to the heights. I'm sorry - call me a snob, but I couldn't see her as PM, meeting international statesmen/women on the world stage. And I'm also old-fashioned in that I think you need to tone down your sex-appeal too, in that context...the flowing locks etc don't give the right message. I know I'll get pounced on for saying that, but it's a considered opinion and I stand by it.

Good lord we have a long way to go. Breathtaking misogyny and classism all in one paragraph.

You can consider that the pounce.

Your breath is easily taken away!

I'd be fascinated to know why paying respect to a woman from a disadvantaged background who gets to be Deputy PM is classism. Seriously - I'd love to try and explain that one! Angela Rayner herself has spoken frequently of her difficult start in life and how hard she worked to achieve.

So back up your accusation of sexism and classism, please.

Or are you someone who dishes it out but then runs away?

Wordsmithery · 12/11/2025 09:10

To suggest a female PM would do a better job means you think gender matters in a role. That feels like very dodgy ground to me. If I posted that my employer wanted to replace a female boss with a male, because the previous women had been ineffective, MN would quite rightly be up in arms.
Its the right person for the job that matters, not the right gender.

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:12

Wordsmithery · 12/11/2025 09:10

To suggest a female PM would do a better job means you think gender matters in a role. That feels like very dodgy ground to me. If I posted that my employer wanted to replace a female boss with a male, because the previous women had been ineffective, MN would quite rightly be up in arms.
Its the right person for the job that matters, not the right gender.

Yes, of course gender matters in leadership roles.

That is why several countires have introduced gender quotas into politics. To help more women get into politics.

Men kept keeping women out of politics.

In the Republic of Ireland for example, government parties wouldnt even nominate many women for poliitical roles.

They had to introduce a gender quota - that said a certain percentage of nominated candidtates must be women. I think its 30 per cent

All of the countries with ongoing wars - have male leaders. Men are more aggressive in general than women are.

CoffeeCantata · 12/11/2025 09:17

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 08:57

Of course gender matters.

A lot of the countries that are doing the best in many areas, have female leaders. Women in general have more empathy and sense.

I think that women are more advanced than men in a lot of ways, which is why they constantly try to keep us down

Edited

I think the shining example is Angela Merkel. She exuded strength and integrity and showed she didn’t care what idiots like Trump thought of her. But people like that are rare. I can’t see anyone in UK politics with that stature at the moment.

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:20

Female leaders are important to improve things for women and children in the country.

If we had a female leader in the UK, I bet we would have better childcare, better parental leave. We would have reproductive leave, where you can take days off for periods, perimenopause, menopause.

Other countries already have menstrual leave. We are behind!

KimberleyClark · 12/11/2025 09:23

OverlyFragrant · 30/10/2025 06:39

Labour has a serious problem with women.
They have never voted a woman to be a leader (Harman was a caretaker leader and not voted in) and I firmly believe a good % of their members are ideologically opposed to it.

Edited

The Welsh First Minister is a woman.

CoffeeCantata · 12/11/2025 09:26

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:20

Female leaders are important to improve things for women and children in the country.

If we had a female leader in the UK, I bet we would have better childcare, better parental leave. We would have reproductive leave, where you can take days off for periods, perimenopause, menopause.

Other countries already have menstrual leave. We are behind!

Edited

Hmm….you’d think.

But Margaret Thatcher didn’t do that. I think her attitude was ‘I’ve competed with men, and women shouldn’t need special treatment’. She was an incredibly tough person,tougher than nearly all the men she led.

Barbara Castle in the 60s and 70s was also notorious for not being supportive of other women in politics.

(But I realise you’re talking about women in general, not politics, which is different.)

CoffeeCantata · 12/11/2025 09:27

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:20

Female leaders are important to improve things for women and children in the country.

If we had a female leader in the UK, I bet we would have better childcare, better parental leave. We would have reproductive leave, where you can take days off for periods, perimenopause, menopause.

Other countries already have menstrual leave. We are behind!

Edited

Which countries? Are they comparable to the UK in population and GDP terms?

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:30

CoffeeCantata · 12/11/2025 09:26

Hmm….you’d think.

But Margaret Thatcher didn’t do that. I think her attitude was ‘I’ve competed with men, and women shouldn’t need special treatment’. She was an incredibly tough person,tougher than nearly all the men she led.

Barbara Castle in the 60s and 70s was also notorious for not being supportive of other women in politics.

(But I realise you’re talking about women in general, not politics, which is different.)

Margaret Thatcher was a very manly woman.

She definitely felt she had to become like a man- to be a leader.

We need a feminine woman as leader.

A woman that is not afraid to be feminine.

CoffeeCantata · 12/11/2025 09:30

CoffeeCantata · 12/11/2025 09:27

Which countries? Are they comparable to the UK in population and GDP terms?

Checked with Dr Google. Interesting. Not always paid though. And a Dr’s note is required so that might be an issue - it’s hard enough to get a GP appointment these days!

EasternStandard · 12/11/2025 09:31

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:30

Margaret Thatcher was a very manly woman.

She definitely felt she had to become like a man- to be a leader.

We need a feminine woman as leader.

A woman that is not afraid to be feminine.

No thanks with this take

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:31

EasternStandard · 12/11/2025 09:31

No thanks with this take

You don't want a feminine woman as leader?

LizzieW1969 · 12/11/2025 09:32

CoffeeCantata · 12/11/2025 08:54

I'm not always a Labour voter but the only one I fancy would be Yvette Cooper - and that's based on negative things like - I haven't been aware of her cocking anything up recently.

I'm not a fan of choosing people for jobs based on their gender. We should be past all that!

I think nearly all politicians now are really lightweight compared to the past - even the bad ones from the past. Don't know why I feel this - could be that I'm older and very cynical and they all look about 13 and 3/4, or it could be that educational standards have fallen and they all seem sadly ignorant and unsophisticated about many things.

I admire Angela Rayner for her achievements in relation to her background, but I never wanted to see her rise to the heights. I'm sorry - call me a snob, but I couldn't see her as PM, meeting international statesmen/women on the world stage. And I'm also old-fashioned in that I think you need to tone down your sex-appeal too, in that context...the flowing locks etc don't give the right message. I know I'll get pounced on for saying that, but it's a considered opinion and I stand by it. It applies to men too - if someone like Aidan Turner became PM and had his designer stubble and flowing waves that wouldn't be right either, so I'm not being sexist.

Yes, if there were to be a female Labour PM, Yvette Cooper would be the best choice in my opinion too.

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:32

EasternStandard · 12/11/2025 09:31

No thanks with this take

I see it in workplaces a lot.

Female bosses start acting like men, as they think that's how they have to be , to have power.
They don't show their feminine qualities.

Margaret Thatcher was the same

EasternStandard · 12/11/2025 09:34

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:32

I see it in workplaces a lot.

Female bosses start acting like men, as they think that's how they have to be , to have power.
They don't show their feminine qualities.

Margaret Thatcher was the same

Too sexist for me tbf

LizzieW1969 · 12/11/2025 09:36

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:20

Female leaders are important to improve things for women and children in the country.

If we had a female leader in the UK, I bet we would have better childcare, better parental leave. We would have reproductive leave, where you can take days off for periods, perimenopause, menopause.

Other countries already have menstrual leave. We are behind!

Edited

Thatcher took us into the Falklands War, so that definitely isn’t always the case!

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:37

EasternStandard · 12/11/2025 09:34

Too sexist for me tbf

How is me saying thay we need a female leader, sexist.

It's not.

Im saying that many women as bossses act like men, because society is sexist and tells us that men are better than women. So when women get into power at work a lot of them start acting like men.

CoffeeCantata · 12/11/2025 09:37

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:30

Margaret Thatcher was a very manly woman.

She definitely felt she had to become like a man- to be a leader.

We need a feminine woman as leader.

A woman that is not afraid to be feminine.

But we’d need to define those terms. In outward appearance, Mrs Thatcher was extremely feminine. Angela Merkel always dressed in the same uniform to prevent her clothes becoming a distraction and to gain parity with men who can just wear a boring suit and not be criticised for it. Good for her.

Despite this, I think Mrs Thatcher could be hard as nails and Ms Merkel was probably more sympathetic in many ways!

I think feminine is a difficult concept nowadays.

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:38

LizzieW1969 · 12/11/2025 09:36

Thatcher took us into the Falklands War, so that definitely isn’t always the case!

Thatcher was a long time ago.

Surely it is time for another female leader

EasternStandard · 12/11/2025 09:39

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:37

How is me saying thay we need a female leader, sexist.

It's not.

Im saying that many women as bossses act like men, because society is sexist and tells us that men are better than women. So when women get into power at work a lot of them start acting like men.

Women don’t have to fit with some narrow definition on how to act or what policies to bring in.

Finto1111 · 12/11/2025 09:40

EasternStandard · 12/11/2025 09:39

Women don’t have to fit with some narrow definition on how to act or what policies to bring in.

Women are not even getting into Government Leader roles in the UK at the moment.

ThatSourGobstopper · 12/11/2025 09:47

You do know that Ellie Reeves is Rachel Reeves sister. Having either of them as PM is a big fat NO from me.

ThatSourGobstopper · 12/11/2025 09:53

Mahmood as PM and Lammy as Deputy PM. 👍